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Stop Waiting For Life To Occur… Life Is Now, Live It

We live in a big ole universe. If you stop to think about how vast reality really is, you might go a little nuts … or maybe become fully enlightened, depending on the day.

Figuring out how we tie into this all can easily lead to complicated thinking. One of the only things you really need to know, though, is that you’re not separate from anything. Everything is connected, including you and I.

Attraction is real! It’s our thinking and actions that determine what comes into our lives, and what keeps itself away that could actually be good for us, unfortunately at times without us realizing that we’re doing that to ourselves!

For example, some people believe that, first, they have to become a certain kind of person in order to be able to attract what they’d like to have, like a great intimate relationship for instance.

Wow! That’s pretty deep, huh?

It’s all good, except for one little part: the condition that says “First I have to be this or that.” That’s called waiting for life to occur. That’s called means-to-an-end thinking. “First I have to do this, then I can have that.”

That doesn’t work, my friends. When you put conditions on what can come into your life, your mind will never let you feel like you’re enough. You don’t feel like you’re enough already, so that’s exactly what you’re going to get: not enough.

“When I’m better, then I can attract the right (girl or guy). The person I am right now is not enough.” Guess what, my friend? That’s a habitual mindset. That’s a mind pattern that will never leave you.

No matter where you go or who you’re with or how you do, your mind will always tell you, “You’re not ready. You’re not enough. If I just have six more months of working on myself, can you imagine the kind of (woman or man) that I’m going to attract? What about if I work on myself for another year and a half?”

Here’s a fact: Life is now. Life is not, “When I’m perfect, that’s when I can have the right romantic relationship.”

Stop waiting. Be open right now for the universe to unfold in front of you. Be open for the right situation to come your way. Just go with the flow.

You don’t have to be perfect to attract the right person for you.

By the way, if you’re looking for the perfect woman or man and you’re not, you’re screwed. That’s all future-based thinking. It is not real because only the present is real.

There’s a hidden payoff in sabotaging yourself like this: not succeeding at something. What a great excuse you’ve given yourself. What a great reason for not being able to find the right one for you.

In fact, that’s the gold medal of reasons. It keeps you stuck even though that agony is painful because deep down inside you know you’re ready for the success you’re looking for.

I’m not saying that we shouldn’t continue striving to be better than we know we can be. But for goodness sake don’t beat yourself up for every little flaw, or even the big ones for that matter!

Let go of all that. You don’t need to completely structure every second of how this is going to work for you. Say to yourself, “I am open to finding the right person in my life when that person comes, and the universe unfolds for me.”

If you’ve found the right person for yourself, replace person with…business, job, career, friends, whatever you want, I’m using the “right person” as an example to illustrate this way of thinking.

Be open. Smile and relax. Chill out.

You’re the right person, right now. You’re good enough as you are. Can you improve? Of course. We can always improve. Once you really get this, you’ll understand forward progress without making your happiness depend upon it.

The most important thing you can learn is that dwelling on the “if I” and “when I” and “it would be better if” or “if I had that, then I would” takes you out of the present moment.

Thinking about the perfect future is what stops you from having the perfect present. It’s the only thing that stops you.

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40 thoughts on “Stop Waiting For Life To Occur… Life Is Now, Live It”

  1. Adrienne says:

    Great article and wonderful wisdom as always. Thank you Harv

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  2. Kevin says:

    Very true 🙂

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  3. Paco says:

    So difficult to live the present is worth the reminder. Great post Harv

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  4. Michelle Medeiros says:

    Thank you, Harv! Well, I can tell you a “strange” coincidence. 5 minutes ago I was thinking “why am I not being able to feel good?”. You see, I’ve been working on myself for quite a while and I can say I’m much better now than I have ever been before, and I believe I’ll be an amazing person once I work a bit more on myself. You got exactly at the point I was looking for. Now I realize why I’m not being able to feel that good. It’s because I still don’t feel enough right now! Thank you for opening my eyes!!!! You are so awesome! I want to be your friend… 🙂

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  5. Akisha says:

    Thanks so much for this Harv! It really put things into perspective for me. I really needed this.

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  6. Rustam says:

    Thank you, Harv! And “hello” from Russia 🙂

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  7. Jeff says:

    Hi Harv,
    Making the distinction between setting goals and intentions and not thinking you’re doing it because you’re not enough right now is a powerful clarification to make! It’s too easy to fall into the “I’ll be enough when…” mindset which skips the necessary step of working from where you are right this moment.
    Thanks for the reminder!
    Jeff

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  8. Pat says:

    I see your point here, but it is kind of frustrating when you are here now (mediocre) but you know that you have the potential to be there (much better place) .. But I have to be in the Now and be open more! I get it.

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  9. enrique monroy enriquez says:

    thank you for everything
    thank you for everything
    thank you for everything
    Nothing more to say
    thank you for everything

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  10. Ilana says:

    You are just brilliant!!!!!!!!!

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  11. Hanna+ says:

    Hi Harv,
    awesome as usually – I love it – God bless you. Thank you very much. Much love Hanna

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  12. Francesco says:

    Thank you!

    This message is just what I needed to hear today. Another of many signs that have been showing in the past days.

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  13. Rinda says:

    Harv,
    This truly hit home for me! I wrote a very similar message to myself about 2 years ago! I was a single mom and had worked very hard on studying myself and creating success in my professional world! But I felt I was lacking in the relationship side of things. I wanted a partner to share my life with! I had a huge “aha” moment and let go of waiting until I was “perfect”. Well sure enough just a few months after I wrote that message, I was divinely connected to the man of my dreams! We are now married! I truly feel once you’ve put it out there with faith, you must let it go and the universe will bring it to you! Thanks again for reminding me of the greatest law available to us!! ?

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  14. Don says:

    Thanks Harv, That’s really helpful. You have described very eloquently my blockage re business success. OK – I’m open for success now. 🙂

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  15. Florentina says:

    Thank you very much Harv for all the beautiful and useful words you are telling us.

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  16. Jose Manzanita says:

    That’s a lot of WISDOM. Fantastic way of expressing a great principle with effortless ease. You definitely have the gift to make it look easy and make it easy. Great tip Harv.

    It’s a spiritual law actually, “the law of intention and desire,” which in simple words for anyone to understand states that “When you make a wish, you plant a seed.”

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  17. Evgeniya says:

    Thank you Harv information you need to come and, as always, in the same time. You are the conduit between the universe and man, and it’s just great! I am very happy that I can communicate with you, Master!

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  18. Ellen Papanikos says:

    As usual Harv…you are spot on! I needed to be reminded of this. I’m in Quantum Leap and keep thinking that later I’ll really be ready! But the truth of the matter is that I’m ready today for what life has in store for me TODAY! ❤️

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  19. Roberto says:

    ☺??????????????

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  20. Christine Richter says:

    Danke vielmals. Wie jeder Artkiel eine tolle Unterstützung ist – Ich habe ein neues Haus mit tollem Garten und Umfeld gefunden, ungestört! Danke!

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  21. Marta says:

    Thank you very much Harv, this information is just what I needed to read today. To be good enough as I am is great idea.

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  22. Maria Rica Canonero says:

    Thank you,thank you,thank you Harv,for another great wisdom. May God bless you more.

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  23. Maria says:

    I knew that and then I forgot that. Thanks for the reminder! 🙂

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  24. Flory says:

    Hello from Romania! You are great!

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  25. Angela says:

    AMAZING! Self-sabotage is the WORST!

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  26. Tshepo says:

    Great post Harv,you are the best

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  27. Mel says:

    Wow! This is THE biggest block I have and you put it in perspective for me. I can’t thank you enough for helping me see the light. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with all of us freely each week. Greatly appreciated.

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  28. Irene says:

    Harv, am from Kenya and follow your posts. Great!!!!

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  29. Garry says:

    Most of the people i know are stuck in “future tense” and hate the present moment. You’re article is very clarifying.

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  30. Kinga says:

    Hi Harv,
    thank you for this valuable lesson. It is a very important one for me to learn at this point of my life. I am trully greatful.

    Greetings from Poland,
    Kinga

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  31. G Palmer says:

    The power of present awareness is awesome, it opens your mind you understand situations that occurred in past and present also what comes after. When it leaves you however you are left with the decision you made in that moment and a feeling of understanding. Then it scrambles itself and happens another time. Each time it happens you begin to connect every little details and happenings in your life around you and in you day by day. Then you realize yes you are thankful for this wisdom however it shows how far away from a vast knowledge you are and how much you can handle.

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  32. Etizaz samman says:

    Hi Harv,
    Thank you for the written lesson.I shared something similar but my message was not heard properly being the mother. I am happy that it is coming from you at the right time to share.

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  33. salvatore says:

    thanks harv

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  34. Keny says:

    That is the problem with our lives right now, we never live in the present moment, we never even enjoy it! Good article

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  35. Baltasar Pires says:

    Você é fantástico!! Gostei imenso do seu artigo.

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  36. mis says:

    How do you deal with your debtors who renege when payment is due?

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  37. Gabriella says:

    Thanks harv real words!!! Grazia dall’Italia

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  38. John says:

    Thanks Harv- this one really spoke to me. Definitely see where I’ve used this line of thinking in a major relationship as well as in career/financial decisions.

    Thanks for writing this,

    — John B.

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  39. kbk says:

    thank you,

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  40. munaaba allan says:

    thanks Harv guess its time to make it happen

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