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Learn 3 Ways To Move Past Guilt, Fully Celebrate Your Successes, And Feel Great About Rewarding Yourself

Have you ever felt guilty about accepting a reward?

I’m not talking about getting a hand out here, but for actually being comfortable and feeling good about taking a reward as a result of your hard work.

If you’ve ever felt like you “can’t” or “won’t” reward yourself for your hard work, I’m going to give you three simple steps to follow to remove all guilt… so you can fully celebrate your successes and feel great about rewarding yourself.

1. The golden rule of rewarding yourself

When it comes to rewarding yourself, follow this golden rule: do what works for you.

That’s it!

For most people, they don’t have a ‘play jar’ to spoil themselves. They don’t take time for themselves. They don’t focus on loving themselves.

They don’t focus on that feeling of satisfaction and accomplishment for more than three seconds before it becomes doubt, judgment and “What’s the next thing?”

The reason I incorporate rewards so heavily into my “Ultimate Life Makeover System” web class is because number 1, many times it’s tangible. When you buy that dress you’ve wanted or that jacket you’ve wanted and you see it in your closet all of the time, you’ll say, “Wow, it’s worth doing the things I committed to doing!”

And number 2, rewarding yourself for your accomplishments gives you the motivation, drive, and self-confidence to keep moving towards your goals with momentum.

Many people won’t give themselves a little reward here and there, which is why it’s so important to take the time to do this consciously.

Here’s the simplest way I teach to do this: Set an action and a deadline for that action to be completed,, set a reward, and when you complete that action, take your reward! Then… repeat this over and over and over again.

So, what works or WILL work for you when it comes to patting yourself on the back for a job well done?

2. Redefine rewards

If you believe that you should only get a reward for doing something difficult, then you need to rethink this belief immediately.

The bottom line is if you associate rewards with something difficult, you created that belief.

In other words, you were taught that if you do something unpleasant or difficult, you deserve and should get a reward.

But then what if you don’t do something difficult? Well, you don’t get one… right?

This is faulty thinking, and something that holds a lot of people back. You can and should get rewarded for accomplishing things you actually enjoy doing, too.

For example, if you ENJOY your work, and you are successful with it, guess what? You should be REWARDED for that!

You shouldn’t have to do work that you hate, and that is unpleasant and difficult simply to make money because you’ve linked rewards with unpleasantness.

If this is something you believe, then very unconsciously you have linked getting rewards from unpleasantness—and this singular belief is holding you back from enjoying your work, your life, and blocking you from experiencing true happiness.

3. Move beyond “either/or”

If you associate rewards with pain and suffering, then you’re living in an either/or world.

Remember what I said in my book Secrets of the Millionaire Mind: most people live in an either/or world. Either it’s money or happiness, money or spirituality, money or health, money or free time, money or this, money or that.

It’s either/or.

How about we do what we love? How about we enjoy what we do? How about we do very pleasant and wonderful things and we get a reward as well?

Imagine this is your new rule: I can do what I love and get rewarded.

I can do what I enjoy and get rewarded in all kinds of ways, not just satisfaction and accomplishment (because the mind doesn’t hold onto these for longer than 3 seconds).

Instead, write down what you want in your life including all the “luxuries” you’ve ever dreamed of. They could be material. They could be any kinds of things, but you’ve got to allow yourself to enjoy them.

I’ll tell you why many people don’t do this: it’s because the conditioned, fear-based mind doesn’t want that. Because if you’re really nice to you and really good to you, then what is your mind supposed to do?

Its job is to look for the problems; to mainly look for what’s wrong. You must consciously step in and stop this in its tracks!

By unlinking rewards from unpleasantness, and instead believing that you deserve to be rewarded for ALL the great things you accomplish, you’ll begin operating on a higher energy plane – and living a more abundant, happy, fulfilled life in the process.

Now it’s your turn! How do you fare when it comes to taking rewards for your hard work? Are you able to fully celebrate your successes and reward yourself for the things you enjoy doing? If you’ve got no problem showering yourself with love and spoiling yourself, maybe you can help others in the community by sharing your story.

Leave me a comment below and let me know your thoughts and experiences on the topic!

For Your Freedom,

As mentioned, rewards are a HUGE component in my Ultimate Life Makeover System web class.

On this class, I work with students on creating balance, happiness, and fulfillment where all the categories of life are working harmoniously together at a Level 10.

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18 thoughts on “Learn 3 Ways To Move Past Guilt, Fully Celebrate Your Successes, And Feel Great About Rewarding Yourself”

  1. Markus says:

    Great NEW thoughts Harv. You nailed it

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  2. Tukur says:

    Have I enjoyed your piece, very interesting educative and motivanal. I must join your class to reward myself with juicy fruits of life.
    Thank you.
    Tukur

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  3. Cheryl says:

    You are absolutely right. So much about my life has been doing what I don’t want to do its unreal and then I wonder why I am so angry and resentful. It’s not worth it at all.

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  4. Martin says:

    Your last webinar failed to come

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  5. Bertha says:

    Thank you, it all makes sense now I can start rewarding my self. And enjoy more abundance

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  6. Lee Giove says:

    Great guidance. I am in your webclass and enjoying it much and finding that giving my self the reward is often more challenging for me that completing the tasks I give myself. I don’t think it is because I don’t feel worthy of receiving them I just tend to feel like I need to put my time and energy into accomplishing the other tasks on my seemingly endless “to do list”. I notice that this is also creating a state of off balance for my self by not putting in as much self care. I am an entrepreneur and am still learning the balance of business ownership, family responsibilities, self care, and play/ reward. I suppose that is why I have placed myself in in your web class, which so far I am enjoying very much! Thanks

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  7. Karen says:

    Hi Harv, as always you´re right, we don´t have to be rewarded only when we do something unpleasant, let´s change our paradigmas. Thanks.

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  8. Solveig says:

    It´s funny I got this link in my mailbox today because today I finally took some time to myself and enjoyed the luxury of a couple of ours in the spa pools and sauna. I spent the first our working intensely with myself because I felt so guilty spending both time and money on this. I am a single mother and a founder. Every penny I spend will mean I must sacrifice something else. When I was finished I actually started humming the song “Happy”, and when I got home I really had to smile, because there was this email from you telling me to actually reward myself 🙂 So today I rewarded myself for doing the best I can as a mother and for finally getting my business one step closer to achieving my goals.

    Thank you!

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  9. Rita Proulx says:

    It is only recently that I started rewarding myself and accepted help. Thanks for reminding me of the importance of rewarding ourselves.

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  10. Mais says:

    That is right, that is exactly what happens.
    God bless you.

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  11. Rasika says:

    Thank You Harv…

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  12. Lilit says:

    I am ready to celebrate my every single small success and reward myself for the things I enjoy doing 🤗

    Thank you, Harv for useful information as always!
    Everything written by you is useful and transformational

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  13. Dale Helin says:

    There’s much to this lesson. I have begun my ‘retirement’ one year ago. My personal reward has always been some form of time off. I decided it is ok to schedule times when I have nothing to do. It is fun. When you are having fun, good things happen. Now I choose how much I work and what it is I’m willing to do. Fishing, gardening, family, and some carpentry(that skill won’t go away) are things that work for me. Those rewards don’t need to be either/or as you have stated. It is good for your health to live this way. Slowing down does not get you behind, rather it gets you what you want. The little things sure are the big things in life, and they are the easiest to attain. Thanks for your perspectives Harv.

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  14. Louise says:

    I really love your honesty An way with words , I Wirk hard in business but it’s work hard , rewards a far An few between ! Need your advice

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  15. Luis Gutierrez says:

    Hola,

    Por muchos años siempre he estado condicionado a hacer las cosas que no me gustan por dinero por lo tanto nunca me dado a la tarea de premiarme por mis logros y esto se debe a mis antiguas creencias de que uno no se merece cosas buenas.
    En este momento me encuentro desarrollando mi primer emprendimiento y aunque los resultados han sido pocos, ya experimente lo que es premiarse por un logro cuando es algo que te gusta hacer.
    Mis gustos son muy particulares y me gusta viajar y de mis grandes sueños es conocer el mundo, no me gustan los lujos materiales, me gustan mas los lujos de vivencias, de conocer culturas y gastronomia y asistir a eventos de rock, por lo que quiero experimentar esas vivencias en paises europeos y norteamerica.
    Me gusta viajar, conocer las culturas de los paises y sus gastronomias.
    Saludos

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  16. Sonia Pérez says:

    I love rewards, i give myself everyday a reward time for reading, this is one of the things that make me happy, but it´s true, that we have been taught that any reward if only for difficult tasks,and that is not true, If you do things right and you enjoy doing them, then it’s a reward itself doing this things, and how good is the feeling that you can have and extra.
    Thanks Harv.

    Sonia

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  17. Frank says:

    Like the idea that rewards don’t have to be reserved for difficult, unpleasant activities. Reviewing the achievement and reward before bedtime will undoubtedly help me to sleep better and reduce the relentless self-critical “You’re no good” preventing restful sleep.

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  18. Diana says:

    Your webinar f”Zero To MultiMillionaire: The Ultimate Business Success Formula” failed to come.

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