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2 Simple Steps To Following Through On Your Commitments And Quieting Your Monkey Mind Once And For All

When it comes to self-development programs, lots of people do more than one. These courses aren’t all the same, so it’s not at all uncommon to do more than one.

Unfortunately, what’s also common is the problem of follow-through: people not quite reaching the finish line of a long-cherished goal that motivated them to take the program in the first place.

That initial energy and excitement often fizzles a week, a month, or few a months afterward. Something gets lost in the translation from intention to completion. I see it happen all the time.

It’s what I call the Monkey Mind.

I was inspired by this analogy reflecting on a trip I took to India recently, watching the behavior of those monkeys near the Himalayas you see on nature channels. When you watch them you realize … they’re all over the place! Scattered, chirping, jumping from here to there. They’re grabbing everything, can’t hardly sit still for a minute, very unfocused.

That’s how the mind works! One part says, “This course will be good for me, I need this,” but then lets the Monkey Mind take over, and then … it’s over!

Your Higher Self must control your Monkey Mind.

Most people can’t do that. You don’t need to be a psychologist or personal development guru to know this.

So what are some simple things you can do to get the monkey out of your head that and accomplish the things you say you most want to accomplish?

1. Trust Yourself. Trust is about integrity. When you don’t do what you say you’re going to do, you lose confidence and trust in yourself. Then that cycle repeats itself and becomes a pattern. When someone else doesn’t do what they say they’re going to do, you lose trust in them, yes or yes? Conversely, once you start to do whatever it takes to keep your word, you feel good about yourself. That’s going to spill over into every other part of your life.

Start with this exercise. I want you to get comfortable, taking three big breaths. Big inhale and big exhale. Take as many breaths as you need to get fully relaxed. When you’re there, close your eyes and think of one thing that you have put on the back burner this year. A do-it-yourself home improvement project? Commitment to a gym or exercise routine? A first chapter of a book you’ve been thinking about writing? Signing up for that seminar that could help resurrect a dormant dream? Whatever this is for you.

Now ask yourself, Is this something I really want to complete? If yes, then I want you to write that down and come up with one single action toward completing this goal. Not five or 10 actions. I said just one. Why? Because when we complicate things, we tend to not do them. I always say, “Simple is doable, complicated is interesting.”

So lets start with something simple and doable, and then use the power of momentum to continue pushing forward.

2. Prioritize. To continue developing discipline, you’ve got to straighten out your priorities.

Make a list of your daily habits. Of those, what’re the habits that are really not supporting you? Is it looking at emails as soon as you get out of bed before you even go to the bathroom and brush your teeth? Looking at your phone every five seconds while eating? Spending money and time on lunch out when you could bring something from home and use that time productively?

Again, however long this list may be (if you’re honest, there’ll be at least a few), pick only one unsupportive habit that you’re committed to changing. Try it for a month — heck, up the ante and make it 90 days.

If you’re successful, reward yourself! Make the reward something you normally wouldn’t treat yourself to. If you don’t make it to that month, two-month, or three-month marker … don’t beat yourself up. Simply pick another unsupportive habit to change that is … what? Simple and doable!

You have to prioritize what’s most important to you, and you have to commit to following through on your priorities. Your word must become law in the universe. You’re not going to do things just because you said you were going to do them. You complete them so you can practice controlling your Monkey Mind.

As you continue to practice controlling your Monkey Mind, the easier it will get.

Finishing what you start isn’t just one of those sayings that sounds good in theory, like a rah-rah motivator. This matters in all areas of your life: relationships, business, community, teams, etc. It’s the key to sustaining trust and connections with others, connection to your Self, and in attaining success in every endeavor.

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So are you with me? What are you going to commit to changing or achieving? Remember to make it simple and doable. Comment below and let’s talk about it.
 

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49 thoughts on “2 Simple Steps To Following Through On Your Commitments And Quieting Your Monkey Mind Once And For All”

  1. Ernesto says:

    Hello Harv, happy new year!! Thanks for the reminder. That’s exactly what is got to be done. Change one thing at a time, simple and doable. I’ll do it that way. Congrats.

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  2. Ndungutse says:

    I don’t know exactly, what i want to change about my self, Possibly everything or nothing, but definitely something must change.

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  3. yamile suarez arab says:

    Excellent !!!! when i can i will go there, i follow you all time, only than in venezuelan we dont have dollares, oh that is my only problem, thanks for be there King regards. Yamile

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  4. ed says:

    I need a banana for my monkeymind

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  5. Alex says:

    I love the first part of this article, about identifying something you’ve been putting on the back burner, and asking yourself if it’s something that you really want to complete?! If yes, make it happen with one simple action. I like it.

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    1. thuli says:

      Alex, that one simple action, becomes a thousand actions. and i geass as the momentum goes it pushes forward. sometimes words are easier than action ,

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  6. axel says:

    yo me comprometo a finalizar mi tesis en quince dias maximo

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  7. salvatore says:

    Yes Harv!!!!! Simple!! My 1 action for freedom finanziary and complete the my book and 90 days:-))) Thank you !!!!!

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  8. Jill says:

    Thank you for the reminder! 90 Days creates a habit I no longer have to think about doing. And yes, I want a healthy body. SO. I’m committing to 20-30 mins of exercise/walking/weights etc. beginning today! Thanks, Harv!

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  9. Tebogo Shirinda says:

    I can truly identify with the monkey mind attitude. I think is the only thing thats been hindering my success. Thankd for opening my eyes. Will now follow through with whst o started. Simple and doable.

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  10. SOLET ANDJI Eloi says:

    The Big problème is the languise is not everibody hunderstand English, i need translation, very, very difficulte, please can you use french, for frenchies and so….Je ne peux aller au séminaire faute de compréhension, je ne comprends pas tous les mots en anglais….
    Best regards
    Andji

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  11. Christof says:

    I wanna change going to bed too late: 11 pm within six days per week.
    That’s easy and doable!
    Thanks for your reminder, Harv an another happy ‘n successful year for you!

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  12. Launa Germiquet says:

    I have a lot to complete, courses, books, marketing, choosing one is tough which is why Im getting nowhere! Thank-you for the head’s up Harv, and Happy New Year

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  13. Mary says:

    Happy New Year Harv, I’m finally ready to start working on the next part of my life. I’m at a point where I can see the new life coming to me. My 24/7 caretaker roll is coming to an end soon. Moving forward after 32 years without my spouse will be difficult. I now have a general plan for moving forward. It is a very big plan and taking very small steps toward completion is the only way. There are lots of questions that go unanswered, but I can sure get ready by doing little steps. Thanks.

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  14. Fgg Gfh says:

    Many thanks for this article, In four days Im going to complete my first personal goal anniversary, no more drink in my life 🙂

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  15. Geetopriyo Chokroborty says:

    I would definitely like to focus on health and lose extra pounds . I need to motivate and control my mind and go to gym regularly .

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  16. Rich says:

    Thanks Harv. I am going to get back to reading one book completely before starting the next one. Focus focus. As you say, “how you do one thing is how you do everything”

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  17. Maria says:

    Thanks Harv, this is great to start a new year because my monkey mind is very active and have to tame it to calm down. Maraming salamat.

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  18. Shilpi Gupta says:

    I wanna change my habbit of talking people about my business but not fixing meeting to propose even when they seems nominally interested !!!!!!

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  19. Jamie Gleeson says:

    True, we always know but always leave those little things. Action only action what’s always needed .

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  20. Denise Hoag says:

    You are always sending me something I need to hear! Love the encouragement! I am needing to get started on a painting that I need to do do for an international Art competition. Usually paint daily; however I allowed Christmas to affect my routine. Then fear sets in easily. Action is the antidote. I know that. Your encouraging words were just what I needed. Many thanks again.

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  21. thuli says:

    Harv, this is true, i don’t have many monkey minds but i just feel tired all the time, i wake up early and spend much time on the public transport too and from work. by the time I get home I can not do what i want to do, but sleep. I want to finish my studies and start a Fashion Design school.

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    1. Clive says:

      Thuli maybe you could take a study book on the bus with you

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  22. Adam says:

    Thanks

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  23. Liem Nguyen says:

    Tôi rất thích Kết thúc những gì bạn bắt đầu không chỉ là một trong những câu nói mà âm thanh tốt trong lý thuyết, giống như một động lực rah-rah. Điều này quan trọng trong tất cả các lĩnh vực của cuộc sống của bạn: những mối quan hệ, kinh doanh, cộng đồng, các đội, vv Đó là chìa khóa để duy trì niềm tin và kết nối với những người khác, kết nối để tự của bạn, và trong việc đạt được thành công trong mọi nỗ lực.

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  24. Tony says:

    Happy New Year Harv. Nice one from you. I would give it a go. One thing at a time. Cheers.

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  25. Aaron Parker says:

    For once I think I’ve got the jump on you Harv. This is EXACTLY the decision I came to at the end of last year. Do one thing at a time, with a level of priority, and don’t move to the next thing until the first thing is done. I have to say it’s definitely working. I am progressing already with my list of things and it sure feels good. I hadn’t thought about it from the trust angle you mentioned though. That’s a really good way of thinking about this. Thanks for putting that out there.

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  26. Vuvu says:

    Happy New Year. Good solid advise. Just one thing to focus on. I can do that. Success is taking small steps at a time – consistently. Thanks a mil.

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  27. AIP says:

    Thank you for your advices! I think it’ll help us very much to control ourself and become a personal development guru!

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  28. Hugh says:

    An absolute game changing piece of advice. As someone much wiser said the journey of a thousand steps begins with one. Start small and big things WILL Happen. Thanks for sharing your wisdom with others.
    With Gratitude.
    Hugh A. Benham

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  29. Ade says:

    Thanks Harv, I’ve been following you for months now and may I say you are the most motivational guru I have come across in my search for a better life! Thank you as my life is changing everyday 🙂

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  30. soussa says:

    I find your words very valuable and useful. In fact, its seems to be an experience for changing the way of thinking and deciding to be a new person with new strong and powerful personality. Through using your TLM program, the door will be open to your dreams’ achievement.On the other hand, another door will be closed to your obstacles and fears. Thank you for your beneficial program. It is really great.

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  31. satish reddy says:

    Thanks for sharing a Simple two steps which will change our lives. I am starting from today.I will share my results on a regular basis.

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  32. Christian says:

    Great! Harv, thanks for this lesson, it is timely for me. I will complete my book on Prayer this year. I started it some years ago. Thanks and Happy New Year!

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  33. Grace Oladitan says:

    Thank you. Its so inspirational yet so doable.

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  34. Nathan says:

    Thanks Harv, I’ve allowed my Monkey Mind To get the best of me lately. First step I am taking today is booking that flight to Seattle Wa. that I’ve been procrastinating over. Step 2, keep my commitment to a friend and team colleague who holds me accountable for every word I say. Thanks for the Monkey Mind alert and slapping me back into reality. Keeping my word is simple and doable. Lately I’ve been whining more than Winning. Thanks for the wakeup call!

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  35. kalpana says:

    $ 20 – 30 mins walk
    $ 30 min meditation
    $ 10-15 min 90 day programm wealth conditioning program
    $30 mins listening to audio tapes for self motivating
    I am grateful to you
    thank you thank you thank you

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  36. Glo says:

    Thank you for sharing Harv, more power! You are one of my idolized author/writer since I read your life-changing and mind blowing book, “Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,” which I bought at the airport in Malaysia while waiting for my scheduled flight a few years ago. Thank you for touching my life.

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  37. Tomas says:

    This great Mr Harv, be blessed.

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  38. jose says:

    bueno voy a comenzar a dar mi primer paso Harv, en esta nueva experiencia. para ir donde no conoces, debes caminar por no conoces. Gracias

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  39. Karen TeVogt says:

    Thanks for this Herb. Your message is spot on. I’m going to put this message on my refrigerator so I won’t forget it.

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  40. ap says:

    Thanks a loads . This has been the one piece of advice that could reorient me towards actualisation of my goals . And I think the euphemism worked well , as also the brevity of communique , but what I find is the fault with me is that I keep feeling sorry for being not able to attain my targets ,n that’s what sets in the monkey mindedness ! Thanks loads for bringing in this realisation . Looking fwd to more .
    Thanks a lot !

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  41. Manuel Ruiz says:

    Estoy el la segunda lectura de tu libro mente millonaria y me he dado cuenta de los multiples herrores con los que vengo cargando en mi mente de mono este libro me ha abierto los ojos y te prometo que me yoy a super y ser una persona millonaria

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  42. kenneth litttle says:

    This is the congruency you shared with us the other day. Now we are getting real hands on ways to make it all happen. Thank you. Over the years I have witnessed your ideas in your seminars. Have watched you up close from the front row. You always gave me ideas that worked for which I am grateful. Many thanks to you Harv.

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  43. Patricia Preston-Roberts says:

    I’m the WORST monkey mind!!! No more! First, simple and doable, finish a piece writing by tomorrow night that is long overdue.
    2 habits to change: become more patient with my relatives and add another day to my exercise routine.

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  44. Drew says:

    You hit the nail on the head. I’m 38 so I witnessed the Big Bang of the internet and it has given us so much more material so fascinate or confuse our monkey minds. I was brought up to ‘get a good job’ and everything will be fine. I got that and it pays well but year-to-year contracts aren’t ‘stabliltiy’ and life purpose is missing as I approach 40. Fortunately my kids are a source of joy but remind me of my responsibilities along with 2 mortgages. I don’t see many success stories of the ‘bread winner’ Mum or Dad leaving the ‘job’ to pursue their dreams. Coincidence or are they just too busy living their new dream to blog about it? I have some ideas about going solo but my wife is terrified we will end up destitute and therefore doesn’t support anything that isn’t 100% guaranteed to succeed which of course does not exist. Despite all this I remain optimistic that an epiphany is just around the corner and I’ll be able to move forwards. Wonderful website, thanks for hearing me out. I’d love to hear about other success stories from breadwinner parents or single parents that made it happen.

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    1. Tony R says:

      Drew,

      I’m right there with you my friend. I’m 44 and still trying to ‘create’ my way out of the 9-5 prison. For the last few years I’ve been trying to build a side business, it’s hard with a family and a full time job, not to mention the enormous stress it creates. Hang in there and don’t give up, I know the feeling of your wife wanting security, that’s just normal but in time you will make her a believer, especially after success comes 🙂

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  45. jorge says:

    Hola T. Harv Eker
    yo me comprometo a cambiar mis habitos insolidarios para lograr el crecimiento de mi negocio

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  46. jorge says:

    Hola T. Harv Eker
    Yo jorge me comprometo a cambiar mis habitos insolidarios para lograr un crecimiento en mi negocio

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