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Avoid Self-Sabotage and Become Successful<\/h2>\n

If you\u2019re not doing as well as you\u2019d like to be doing, it’s likely you are trying to self-sabotage your success.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s only one thing that can make your success: you.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo, Harv, you don\u2019t understand. It\u2019s my boss.\u201d<\/em> Forget about your boss. Your boss doesn\u2019t run your life.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou don\u2019t understand. It\u2019s my wife and my kids.\u201d <\/em>Forget about your wife and your kids. Well, no, actually, don\u2019t do that, but you know what I mean. Rather, stop putting this on them. They don\u2019t create your life. You do.<\/p>\n

\u201cYou don\u2019t understand. I come from ____.\u201d Who cares where you come from? Where are you today? Where do you want to be tomorrow?<\/p>\n

My friends…you create every minute of your life. It may not be exactly what you want, but that\u2019s what you\u2019re creating.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re creating it because that\u2019s what you\u2019ve always created. You\u2019re good at it, so you create that<\/em>. If you\u2019re not rich, realize \u201cI\u2019m creating not rich<\/em> for myself.\u201d That means you\u2019re self-sabotaging.<\/p>\n

How You Block Yourself From Personal Success<\/h3>\n

Here\u2019s the way I look at it. Imagine a stream. The stream goes from the mountains all the way down to the ocean. It would naturally be successful at getting to the ocean.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s only one problem. A huge log falls in the middle of the stream. It can\u2019t get over the log. Little trickles are getting through, but that\u2019s about it. Then other logs fall. Pretty soon the stream is completely redirected, and it\u2019s not going where it\u2019s supposed to go. It just dries up. Everything was perfect until the blockage came.<\/p>\n

Without the blockage, every one of you is going to be successful. The reason you\u2019re not as successful as you\u2019d like to be, is because something is blocking you. That something is you<\/em>.<\/p>\n

What part<\/em><\/strong> of you is the only question we have to answer. How are you blocking yourself? How do you stop yourself from getting rich? How are you creating that?<\/p>\n

I wish that somebody would have pulled me aside when I was 20 years old, shook me up and said, \u201cYou\u2019re creating the problems you\u2019ve got. It\u2019s not them, it or that. It\u2019s you. That means you have the power to un-create those and create something else.\u201d When I learned that I truly created my life, I became free.<\/p>\n

3 Ways To Self-Sabotage Personal Success<\/h3>\n

If you are sabotaging yourself, there are different payoffs. The most common are:<\/p>\n

1. You remain a victim.<\/strong> Victims can\u2019t succeed. If they succeed, they can\u2019t be a good victim. This is their way of getting attention. There\u2019s always something wrong. \u201cFeel sorry for me.\u201d That way, nothing can be expected of them, yet they get to enjoy the benefit of your pity, which then only reinforces the whole story.<\/p>\n

2. If we don\u2019t succeed, there aren\u2019t a lot of expectations or responsibilities.<\/strong> I\u2019ll put a spin on a decades-old Stan Lee comic book line: With great freedom<\/em> comes great responsibility. If you want to be financially free, you gotta actually do what you say you\u2019re going to do! You have to be accountable; to yourself and to others. What if we really<\/em> succeed? How are we going to keep it up? Oh my god! That\u2019s hard! What if people want things from you? When you decide that you are going to follow through on your commitments, and you do this consistently, that is the essence of spiritual maturity and a discipline for success.<\/p>\n

3. Fatal Attraction.<\/strong> People fear success so irrationally, they imagine bad things happening instead of focusing on the key term here: success! \u201cI don\u2019t have to worry about people robbing me.\u201d<\/em> Seriously? Like you\u2019re so important now that the criminal underworld has you in its clutches? Please! \u201cI don\u2019t have to have my friends saying, \u2018Who the hell do you think you are?\u2019\u201d<\/em> Other people\u2019s approval is all of a sudden more important than the quality of your mental, emotional, and financial life?<\/p>\n

Your mind is telling you the conditions as to why you are not successful. It\u2019s all bullshit. Nothing is more important than succeeding with what you\u2019ve got going right now.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s your payoff for not being rich right now? What do you get out of it?<\/p>\n

Whatever that reason you keep telling yourself why you can\u2019t be rich right now, ask yourself, \u201cIs it true?\u201d<\/p>\n

Figure out your payoff. You’re going to have to go deep, and you\u2019re going to have to be honest.<\/div>\n
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Whatever you find, please share your truth with us. You aren\u2019t alone in this. It\u2019s one of the most simple yet profoundly important discoveries you can make on your path toward personal success. We want to hear from you!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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