2. The second reason people criticize others is to feel good about themselves.<\/strong> They believe they are in a place of power and so they think, \u201cI can do this to you, so I\u2019ll do it. I\u2019ll tell you what you\u2019re doing wrong.\u201d<\/p>\n Most critiques are about the other person, not about you.<\/em> They\u2019re projecting a fear, desire, or insecurity. You just happen to be the one catching it at that particular time.<\/p>\n So what do you do? It can be hard, but I promise that it is ultimately rewarding when you show some compassion.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have<\/em> to take their criticism personally. Don\u2019t take anything<\/em> personally.<\/strong> What you\u2019re listening to is somebody else\u2019s stuff. If they\u2019re in a good mood, guess what? They\u2019re going to say good things about you. If they\u2019re in a pissy mood, guess what? They\u2019re going to say pissy things about you.<\/p>\n I teach thousands of people. When I\u2019m on stage, sometimes I will go to the side, sign some books, and take some questions. Once in awhile, I\u2019ll have somebody that will come up to me and say, \u201cYou sell too much. You promote too much. You speak too fast. I don\u2019t like the fact that you don\u2019t wear a jacket. You don\u2019t honor us.\u201d<\/p>\n When I first started in this business I would think, \u201cOh my god! They don\u2019t like me. There\u2019s something wrong with me. I\u2019m never going to do this again. I hate this. I don\u2019t want to go on stage anymore.\u201d<\/p>\n Eventually, what I discovered was that what they\u2019re actually<\/em> saying is, \u201cI feel unconfident, weak and low, so let me go up to the instructor and tell him what\u2019s wrong with him. That\u2019s going to make me feel better. I can darken his sky. I can put him down so I can bring myself up.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n With a lot of the critiques that you get, you need to see right through that critique to the weakness in the other person. Don’t take criticisms personally. That doesn’t mean you have to say anything to them about that, though. Just see it and recognize it so it doesn\u2019t bother you. This is their shit that\u2019s going on here, not yours.<\/p>\n Listen to it, and if there\u2019s some validity in what they\u2019re saying–that you can do better–then just take it in stride and say, \u201cThank you for that\u201d, and be on your way.<\/p>\n None of this is easy. Why? It\u2019s because we\u2019re creatures of habit, and our ego takes over.<\/p>\n But the secret to being compassionate to others is to start by being compassionate to yourself.<\/em><\/strong> It\u2019s two sides of the same coin. Both help each other.<\/p>\n Of the two, which do you think the gurus of the world would tell you to practice first, compassion to others or compassion to yourself?<\/p>\n If there has to be one over the other in that moment–or you\u2019re going to put your attention on one only–which should be first?<\/p>\n The answer is compassion to yourself. You need to have it before you can give it. You can\u2019t give away what you don\u2019t have.<\/p>\n As your exercise for this week I want you to do two things. First, practice being compassionate to yourself. Practice nurturing yourself. Practice being kind to yourself. Practice being your own best friend. Speak to yourself nicely. Don’t take criticisms personally.<\/p>\n Then, the next time you find yourself being moved by someone else\u2019s criticism of you, practice compassionately thanking that person for their observation without anger or resentment. If you can go a step further, ask them why they feel the way they feel and take that opinion as emotionally detached as you can get. In others, give them an opportunity to recognize their own shit!<\/p>\n Leave a comment below and let me know how it goes. I want to hear from you!<\/p>\n For Your Freedom,<\/p>\n Many people seem to be able to easily criticize others. This happens everyday, all the time. But don’t take criticisms personally. Instead, the next time you’re in a situation when someone is critiquing you, try to be compassionate instead. Don’t Take Criticisms Personally for These Two Reasons Just consider, that when you\u2019re getting a critique…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":5177,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_genesis_hide_title":false,"_genesis_hide_breadcrumbs":false,"_genesis_hide_singular_image":false,"_genesis_hide_footer_widgets":false,"_genesis_custom_body_class":"","_genesis_custom_post_class":"","_genesis_layout":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[3,5,15],"tags":[],"class_list":{"0":"post-1425","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-mindset","8":"category-personal-development","9":"category-well-being","10":"entry"},"yoast_head":"\nShow Compassion to Those Critiquing You<\/h3>\n
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