{"id":1848,"date":"2017-11-30T05:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-11-30T11:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.harveker.com\/?p=1848"},"modified":"2017-11-30T05:00:00","modified_gmt":"2017-11-30T11:00:00","slug":"managing-money-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/managing-money-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"How Managing Money Can Make or Break a Relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

How do you manage a relationship when your partner is not looking for financial freedom and you are? When your partner is the spender in the relationship, things can get thrown out of sync. In fact, managing money in general when in a partnership \u2014 especially when your partner has a different idea of financial freedom \u2014 can be hard. However, I’m here to help you through these differences.<\/p>\n

Managing Money When Your Partner Has Different Values<\/h2>\n

First of all, understand that you don\u2019t have an issue with your partner. You have an issue with your partner\u2019s money blueprint not matching your blueprint.<\/p>\n

I had the same situation myself with my ex-wife at the time. She is one of the most amazing people on this planet. You couldn\u2019t have a nicer heart or be a better mother. However, our partnership when it came to managing money can be very illustrative. My history can teach you how to improve your future.<\/p>\n

My Financial History and My Ex-Wife’s<\/h3>\n

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One problem was that my meaning for money came from growing up with parents saving every dollar that they possibly could. By managing money, they were trying to become free so that they wouldn\u2019t be slaves to anybody else. They didn’t want anybody else to ever be able to control them. With this background, for me, money meant freedom.<\/p>\n

My wife\u2019s parents owned a little convenience store, like a 7-11. They sold candies, cigarettes, bread, and that type of thing, and it was actually very successful. For her, all she thought about was the candies. Whenever she came into the store, her father would give her candies, and all of her friends would have to buy her candies for a penny or two. Money meant pleasure for her.<\/p>\n

Somehow in her blueprint, money meant that when you have it, you should spend it. Her parents didn\u2019t teach her about financial freedom and things like that.<\/p>\n

Consequently, when we got into a relationship, we had different viewpoints when it came to managing money. For me, spending money meant spending freedom. In contrast, her money-meaning was that if you don\u2019t spend the money, or if you try to save the money, you’re taking away pleasure.<\/p>\n

How You Can Work Past Financial Fights<\/h3>\n

The bottom line is this: know that you and your partner have different blueprints for money. Additionally, don’t limit this understanding just to romantic partners. After all, your kids, your business partner, and so many other relationships may have different money blueprints guiding them. When you experience fights in these different partnerships, remember you’re arguing with their blueprint, not with them.<\/p>\n

Understand that you\u2019re looking at a difference of opinion brought about by conditioning and how they were brought up. You can\u2019t fault your partner for being a spender because that\u2019s how they were raised.<\/p>\n

Instead, sit down with them \u2014 but only when you\u2019re not upset. Over a nice dinner when you\u2019ve been getting along beautifully, say, \u201cI\u2019d love to talk with you about something in our relationship that I\u2019d love to be able to take to the next level. Are you willing? \u201d And you start the conversation from there.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not your fault, and it\u2019s not their fault. The problem is fear. Ask your partner if they can help you with it, and vice versa. Ask them what they think you can do, or what you can do together. Is there a way to balance the need for freedom and the need for spending and pleasure?<\/p>\n

My Solution<\/h3>\n

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My resolution was, \u201cInstead of taking all of the money and spending it, or taking all of the money and throwing it into an investment, why don\u2019t we piece it off? Every month, you take this much money and go have a great time with it. I\u2019ll take this much money, and we\u2019ll put it into our Freedom Account. The rest we\u2019ll manage.\u201d Though we had other issues outside of money, this approach saved us both a lot of grief.<\/p>\n

I bring all this up today because, unfortunately, statistics reveal that lots of relationships get into trouble over money. That doesn\u2019t have to be the case. Understand how money blueprints work, and give your relationship the chance it deserves. Then, your relationships can grow, learn, and be happier.<\/p>\n

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