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<\/p>\nIt\u2019s saddening to see many of my students struggle with loved ones while they themselves experience transformation and joy as a result of our courses or coaching. Everyone\u2019s on their own journey toward self growth, but it\u2019s still hard to watch people unnecessarily slow down their own growth due to someone else.<\/p>\n
So many people have partners that are not on the same path when it comes to self growth. Whether it be learning, growing, goals, or intentions, they’ve unintentionally surrounded themselves with people who don’t support their personal development. It\u2019s very tough. This is a huge challenge for many.<\/p>\n
One of the things I say to people about our courses and programs is this: \u201cI know for an absolute 1,000% fact that we can change your life. Let us teach you. Do what we teach, and it\u2019ll work.\u201d I mean what I say, and I’ve seen it work hundreds of times.<\/p>\n
However, what I can\u2019t control is your environment and who\u2019s around you. These are the people I mentioned above, those who are trying to drag you back down from what we build. It\u2019s a very hard problem for us in our business. It\u2019s like we\u2019re throwing you the life preserver and pulling you in, but there\u2019s a crocodile that keeps on trying to pull you down underneath the water.<\/p>\n
Remember, as much as I want my teaching to prevail, environment is stronger than willpower.<\/p>\n
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It\u2019s easy for a person that\u2019s not doing what you\u2019re doing \u2014 and who sees your self growth \u2014 to try to bring you back down to their level. They do this so they don\u2019t feel bad about themselves being lower. Instead of being happy for you, they\u2019re thinking: i<\/em>t\u2019s easier to bring you back down to my level than for me to try to get up to yours.<\/em><\/p>\n Consequently, they say things like, \u201cYou know what you\u2019re doing is really useless. I don\u2019t know what those courses are all about. That doesn\u2019t work anyway. What are you trying to do, ruin our relationship? Who do you think you are anyhow? Who do you think you\u2019re going to be, the next Rockefeller?\u201d<\/p>\n They\u2019ve got all these ways of trying to diss you, criticize you, and demonize you. It can be surprising watching the people we love denounce our self growth and suddenly turn hostile. However, you have to remember that all of this negativity comes from their fear.<\/p>\n They’re afraid that they’ll lose you; afraid that they\u2019re not good enough anymore; and afraid that they don\u2019t feel good about themselves anymore in comparison to you.<\/p>\n I used to have one student, believe it or not, whose husband got ill every time there happened to be a course coming up. It was unbelievable. After three courses, I said, \u201cThis is an old story. What\u2019s with your husband?\u201d She said, \u201cI don\u2019t know. He just happens to be ill.\u201d<\/p>\n I advised her to confront him. She did, telling him that she didn\u2019t believe for a moment that he was doing this intentionally, but that something had to change. She was right. He wasn’t doing it maliciously, but he also couldn’t stop.<\/p>\n That’s why, when he got sick for the fourth time, she hired someone to come over and stay with him. Then she came to the course. Lo and behold, he never got sick again. It was all subconscious.<\/p>\n The bottom line is you can’t let yourself be taken down.<\/p>\n If you want to keep these people from dragging you down, you have to be firm. First, do not argue with them. Just say, \u201cOkay. I understand your point. Thank you for sharing that,\u201d and then simply keep going. Keep participating in programs and keep doing what you\u2019re doing.<\/p>\n Second, invite them, but don\u2019t pressure them. Invite them in a way that makes them want to come. Don\u2019t convince them. Maybe they’ll find something within the seminar that resonates with them and finally dispels that fear. At the very least, they’ll understand more of what you’re doing. Sometimes that’s enough to vanquish their other fears.<\/p>\n If they show resistance, offer or ask for it as a birthday present! \u201cI want \u2014 for my birthday \u2014 for you and I to go to a training together. Would you do that for me?\u201d They\u2019re not going to say no when you offer it or ask for it as a present.<\/p>\n The point is that this kind of conflict comes up all the time among my students. That’s why I know that it can become a tremendous source of anxiety and tension, particularly if the relationship is already tense.<\/p>\n No one wants to have to consider hurting or risking isolation from their love ones, especially when we know we have to keep on pursuing our self growth no matter what. With these two simple tools in mind, you don\u2019t have to. Instead, you can share your journey with your loved ones and prosper together!<\/p>\n This story is all too familiar. Give us yours. Have you had people who tried to stop your self growth? Did you confront them? We want to hear from you!<\/p>\n For Your Freedom,<\/p>\nThe Effects It’s Had on My Students<\/h3>\n
Breaking Free from Unsupportive People<\/h3>\n
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<\/p>\nRemember, You Don’t Have to Lose Them<\/h3>\n
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