{"id":4824,"date":"2020-10-19T07:00:26","date_gmt":"2020-10-19T12:00:26","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/?p=4824"},"modified":"2020-10-19T07:00:26","modified_gmt":"2020-10-19T12:00:26","slug":"stop-being-a-people-pleaser","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/stop-being-a-people-pleaser\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Stop People-Pleasing (And Still Be Nice)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><iframe src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/-idO2eekgtU\" width=\"800\" height=\"455\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">People-pleasing might not sound all that bad. After all, what\u2019s wrong with being nice to people and trying to help them out or make them happy?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">But people-pleasing generally goes beyond simple kindness. The dictionary defines it as <i>\u201ca person who has an emotional need to please others often at the expense of his or her own needs or desires.\u201d<\/i><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">You might go out of your way to do things for the people in your life, based on what you assume they want or need. You give up your time and energy to get them to like you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">This is how people-pleasing can cause trouble. The urge to have the approval of others can be damaging when we allow other people\u2019s wants to have more importance than our own needs.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 class=\"p4\"><span class=\"s1\"><strong>Watch my video above on how to kick the habit of people-pleasing or read on for key highlights!<\/strong> <\/span><\/h3>\n<p><img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-6134\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/4\/files\/2020\/10\/Stop-being-a-people-pleaser-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Stop-being-a-people-pleaser-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Stop-being-a-people-pleaser-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Stop-being-a-people-pleaser-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Stop-being-a-people-pleaser.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>Why People-Pleasing May Not Be Your Fault After All\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p5\"><span class=\"s1\">From an early age, we learned that to survive, we needed to have the approval of others. It was necessary. You understand that, right? So, from infancy until our late teens, we thrive on that approval. Because if you don&#8217;t, you&#8217;re pretty well dead.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>The problem is that most of us carry that need for approval &#8211; that \u201csurvival mechanism\u201d &#8211; into adulthood. It just takes a different form.<\/p>\n<p class=\"p5\"><span class=\"s1\">So there&#8217;s nothing wrong with looking for approval. In some cases, it\u2019s helpful. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p5\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">But when that need for approval runs your life as an adult, it can hurt you.\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p5\"><span class=\"s1\">I\u2019ve compiled a list of a few habits you might have if you\u2019re a people-pleaser. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p5\"><span class=\"s1\">If any of these habits sound like you, I invite you to keep reading to learn how to train your mind to work FOR you instead of against you.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<span class='bctt-click-to-tweet'><span class='bctt-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/x.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.harveker.com%2Fblog%2Fstop-being-a-people-pleaser%2F&#038;text=Most%20of%20us%20carry%20a%20for%20approval%20into%20adulthood.%20There%27s%20nothing%20wrong%20with%20looking%20for%20approval.%20In%20some%20cases%2C%20it%E2%80%99s%20helpful.%20But%20when%20that%20need%20for%20approval%20runs%20your%20life%20as%20an%20adult%2C%20it%20can%20hurt%20you.%20&#038;via=viaT_Harv_Eker&#038;related=viaT_Harv_Eker' target='_blank'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Most of us carry a for approval into adulthood. There&#039;s nothing wrong with looking for approval. In some cases, it\u2019s helpful. But when that need for approval runs your life as an adult, it can hurt you.  <\/a><\/span><a href='https:\/\/x.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.harveker.com%2Fblog%2Fstop-being-a-people-pleaser%2F&#038;text=Most%20of%20us%20carry%20a%20for%20approval%20into%20adulthood.%20There%27s%20nothing%20wrong%20with%20looking%20for%20approval.%20In%20some%20cases%2C%20it%E2%80%99s%20helpful.%20But%20when%20that%20need%20for%20approval%20runs%20your%20life%20as%20an%20adult%2C%20it%20can%20hurt%20you.%20&#038;via=viaT_Harv_Eker&#038;related=viaT_Harv_Eker' target='_blank' class='bctt-ctt-btn'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Share on X<\/a><\/span>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-6135\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/4\/files\/2020\/10\/Thumbs-up-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Thumbs-up-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Thumbs-up-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Thumbs-up-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Thumbs-up.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h1 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>3 Signs That You\u2019re A People Pleaser<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n<p class=\"p6\"><span class=\"s1\">Still not sure if you\u2019re a people-pleaser or just extremely kind to others? Here\u2019s a look at some telltale signs of people-pleasing.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"s1\">1. You say \u201cyes\u201d when you should say \u201cno\u201d<br \/>\n<\/span><\/h2>\n<hr \/>\n<p class=\"p7\"><span class=\"s1\">You might worry that telling someone \u201cno\u201d or turning down a request for help will make them think you don\u2019t care about them. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p7\"><span class=\"s1\">Agreeing to do what they want might seem like a safer option, even if you don\u2019t actually have the time or desire to help.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p7\"><span class=\"s1\">Many people agree to do something when they\u2019d rather not, like helping someone move or lending money that isn\u2019t in their budget to share. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p7\"><span class=\"s1\">But a pattern of this behavior can cause problems since it tells other people that their needs come before yours. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p7\"><span class=\"s1\">It also shows that you might care too much about <span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><a style=\"color: #0000ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/stop-worrying-about-what-other-people-think\/\"><span class=\"s2\">what people think about you <\/span><\/a><\/span>or you compare yourself to others\u2014 a huge roadblock when it comes to focusing on your priorities and overall self-image.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Some people may abuse this, ignoring your boundaries because they know you\u2019ll do what they want anyway.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"s1\">2. You feel inauthentic\u00a0<\/span><\/h2>\n<hr \/>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">People-pleasers often have a harder time recognizing how they really feel because they are so focused on being who other people want or need them to be.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Continuing to push your own needs to the side makes it harder to acknowledge them. Eventually, you might not even feel sure about what you want or how to be true to yourself.<\/p>\n<p>You also may not be able to voice the feelings you are aware of, even when you want to speak up for yourself<\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">For example, you might avoid telling your partner they made you feel bad, thinking something like, <em>\u201cThey didn\u2019t mean it, so if I say something, I\u2019ll only hurt their feelings.\u201d <\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">But this denies the key fact of the situation: <strong>They hurt your feelings.<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"s1\">3. You feel resentful &amp; bitter instead of happy and vibrant<\/span><\/h2>\n<hr \/>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">One huge impact of people-pleasing is increased stress. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">This can easily happen when you take on more than you can handle with the goal of supporting someone else.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">You don\u2019t just lose out on time for yourself. You also find yourself with less time for things you really need to do. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">To get the bare essentials taken care of, you might end up working longer hours or going without sleep, eventually facing physical consequences of bitterness, worry, and stress.<br \/>\n<\/span><\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-large wp-image-6137\" src=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/4\/files\/2020\/10\/You-feel-resentful-bitter-instead-of-happy-and-vibrant-1024x768.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"1024\" height=\"768\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/You-feel-resentful-bitter-instead-of-happy-and-vibrant-1024x768.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/You-feel-resentful-bitter-instead-of-happy-and-vibrant-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/You-feel-resentful-bitter-instead-of-happy-and-vibrant-768x576.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/You-feel-resentful-bitter-instead-of-happy-and-vibrant.jpg 1200w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/p>\n<h1 class=\"p1\"><span class=\"s1\"><b>3 Steps To Overcome Being A People Pleaser<\/b><\/span><\/h1>\n<p class=\"p2\"><span class=\"s1\">If you want to break the pattern of people-pleasing, recognizing how these habits show up in your life is a good first step. But knowing you have a problem isn\u2019t always going to resolve it. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p2\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">Follow these steps to make sure you remove any limiting beliefs around the need to please others:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"s1\">1. Awareness<\/span><\/h2>\n<hr \/>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">Recognizing your tendency to people-please is really the first and most important step to learning how to stop. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><strong><span class=\"s1\">Try this exercise:<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">Sit down at the end of each day and look back at what you accomplished. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">Think to yourself&#8230; Were the things you did that day what you wanted or needed to accomplish, or did your \u201cto-do\u201d list end up being filled up by other people\u2019s requests? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">The more you begin to identify your own needs and priorities, the easier it will be to begin to focus on what you want to accomplish, instead of being frustrated and overwhelmed by someone else\u2019s agenda.<\/span><\/p>\n<span class='bctt-click-to-tweet'><span class='bctt-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/x.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.harveker.com%2Fblog%2Fstop-being-a-people-pleaser%2F&#038;text=The%20more%20you%20begin%20to%20identify%20your%20own%20needs%20and%20priorities%2C%20the%20easier%20it%20will%20be%20to%20begin%20to%20focus%20on%20what%20you%20want%20to%20accomplish%2C%20instead%20of%20being%20frustrated%20and%20overwhelmed%20by%20someone%20else%E2%80%99s%20agenda.&#038;via=viaT_Harv_Eker&#038;related=viaT_Harv_Eker' target='_blank'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">The more you begin to identify your own needs and priorities, the easier it will be to begin to focus on what you want to accomplish, instead of being frustrated and overwhelmed by someone else\u2019s agenda. <\/a><\/span><a href='https:\/\/x.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.harveker.com%2Fblog%2Fstop-being-a-people-pleaser%2F&#038;text=The%20more%20you%20begin%20to%20identify%20your%20own%20needs%20and%20priorities%2C%20the%20easier%20it%20will%20be%20to%20begin%20to%20focus%20on%20what%20you%20want%20to%20accomplish%2C%20instead%20of%20being%20frustrated%20and%20overwhelmed%20by%20someone%20else%E2%80%99s%20agenda.&#038;via=viaT_Harv_Eker&#038;related=viaT_Harv_Eker' target='_blank' class='bctt-ctt-btn'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Share on X<\/a><\/span>\n<h2><span class=\"s5\">2. Understanding<\/span><\/h2>\n<hr \/>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">Every moment you spend sacrificing your dreams and goals in order to please people is a moment you don\u2019t have to spend on living the life you want! It\u2019s time to stop worrying about what other people think!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">When you understand that what other people think about you usually isn\u2019t an accurate picture of who you are, you can really be free. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">In fact, their opinion often isn\u2019t even about you. It\u2019s sometimes a reflection of how they feel about themselves. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span class=\"s1\">So, stop worrying about what other people think \u2014 get over what I call \u201c<span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><a style=\"color: #0000ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/stop-worrying-about-what-other-people-think\/\"><span class=\"s2\">the attention addiction<\/span><\/a><\/span>\u201d \u2014 and start living the life you want!<\/span><\/p>\n<span class='bctt-click-to-tweet'><span class='bctt-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/x.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.harveker.com%2Fblog%2Fstop-being-a-people-pleaser%2F&#038;text=Stop%20worrying%20about%20what%20other%20people%20think%20%E2%80%94%20get%20over%20what%20I%20call%20%E2%80%9Cthe%20attention%20addiction%E2%80%9D%20%E2%80%94%20and%20start%20living%20the%20life%20you%20want%21&#038;via=viaT_Harv_Eker&#038;related=viaT_Harv_Eker' target='_blank'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Stop worrying about what other people think \u2014 get over what I call \u201cthe attention addiction\u201d \u2014 and start living the life you want! <\/a><\/span><a href='https:\/\/x.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.harveker.com%2Fblog%2Fstop-being-a-people-pleaser%2F&#038;text=Stop%20worrying%20about%20what%20other%20people%20think%20%E2%80%94%20get%20over%20what%20I%20call%20%E2%80%9Cthe%20attention%20addiction%E2%80%9D%20%E2%80%94%20and%20start%20living%20the%20life%20you%20want%21&#038;via=viaT_Harv_Eker&#038;related=viaT_Harv_Eker' target='_blank' class='bctt-ctt-btn'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Share on X<\/a><\/span>\n<h2><span class=\"s1\">3. Reconditioning<br \/>\n<\/span><\/h2>\n<hr \/>\n<p class=\"p9\"><span class=\"s1\">A favorite quote of mine, and one that I share with students often, says this:<em> \u201cTrue integrity is being able to decline a dinner invitation without giving a reason,\u201d<\/em> and it\u2019s real. It\u2019s the marker of true power. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p9\"><span class=\"s1\">Simply answering, <em>\u201cNo, but thank you for the invitation,\u201d<\/em> is how you know you\u2019ve grown and reconditioned your mind to not live your life based on what other people think. <\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p9\"><span class=\"s1\">But this doesn\u2019t just happen &#8211; it\u2019s a practice. It\u2019s something you have to do every single day. It\u2019s the marker of true power.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p9\"><span class=\"s1\">Recognize what you want to do, and what you can do, and forget the rest.<\/span><\/p>\n<span class='bctt-click-to-tweet'><span class='bctt-ctt-text'><a href='https:\/\/x.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.harveker.com%2Fblog%2Fstop-being-a-people-pleaser%2F&#038;text=True%20integrity%20is%20being%20able%20to%20decline%20a%20dinner%20invitation%20without%20giving%20a%20reason.%20It%E2%80%99s%20the%20marker%20of%20true%20power.%20Recognize%20what%20you%20WANT%20to%20do%2C%20what%20you%20CAN%20do%2C%20and%20forget%20the%20rest%20and%20DO%20it.&#038;via=viaT_Harv_Eker&#038;related=viaT_Harv_Eker' target='_blank'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">True integrity is being able to decline a dinner invitation without giving a reason. It\u2019s the marker of true power. Recognize what you WANT to do, what you CAN do, and forget the rest and DO it. <\/a><\/span><a href='https:\/\/x.com\/intent\/tweet?url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.harveker.com%2Fblog%2Fstop-being-a-people-pleaser%2F&#038;text=True%20integrity%20is%20being%20able%20to%20decline%20a%20dinner%20invitation%20without%20giving%20a%20reason.%20It%E2%80%99s%20the%20marker%20of%20true%20power.%20Recognize%20what%20you%20WANT%20to%20do%2C%20what%20you%20CAN%20do%2C%20and%20forget%20the%20rest%20and%20DO%20it.&#038;via=viaT_Harv_Eker&#038;related=viaT_Harv_Eker' target='_blank' class='bctt-ctt-btn'rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Share on X<\/a><\/span>\n<p class=\"p8\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><strong><span class=\"s1\">The 3-step process above is an incredible system for overcoming any limiting beliefs you may have.<br \/>\n<\/span><span class=\"s1\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/limiting-beliefs-ws\/download\/green\/?utm_campaign=limitingbeliefs_lm_content&amp;utm_medium=post&amp;utm_source=blog&amp;utm_content=blog-people-pleaser&amp;utm_term=cta\"><span class=\"s2\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\">Check out this FREE worksheet<\/span> <\/span><\/a>to help you identify any limiting beliefs that may be holding you back and sabotaging you from getting the success and results you\u2019re looking for!\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"p11\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"><strong><span class=\"s7\"><a style=\"color: #0000ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/limiting-beliefs-ws\/download\/green\/?utm_campaign=limitingbeliefs_lm_content&amp;utm_medium=post&amp;utm_source=blog&amp;utm_content=blog-people-pleaser&amp;utm_term=cta\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Download Your Free Worksheet Here<\/a><\/span><\/strong><\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/limiting-beliefs-ws\/download\/green\/?utm_campaign=limitingbeliefs_lm_content&amp;utm_medium=post&amp;utm_source=blog&amp;utm_content=blog-people-pleaser&amp;utm_term=cta\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-4828 \" src=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/4\/files\/2020\/10\/Limiting-Beliefs.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"219\" height=\"232\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Limiting-Beliefs.png 1000w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Limiting-Beliefs-283x300.png 283w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Limiting-Beliefs-966x1024.png 966w, https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/files\/2020\/10\/Limiting-Beliefs-768x814.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 219px) 100vw, 219px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<h2 class=\"p6\" style=\"text-align: left;\"><span class=\"s1\">What Would Life Be Like If You Could Stop Worrying About What Others Think?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p class=\"p12\"><span class=\"s1\">Imagine for a moment what life would be like if you didn\u2019t care about other people\u2019s opinions\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p12\"><span class=\"s1\">Would you be self-centered and egotistical, or would you be set free to fulfill your true purpose without being held back by the<span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"> <a style=\"color: #0000ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/3-steps-overcome-fear\/\"><span class=\"s8\">fear of rejection<\/span><\/a><\/span>?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"p12\"><span class=\"s1\">If you want to move forward in your life, you have to stop worrying about<span style=\"color: #0000ff;\"> <a style=\"color: #0000ff;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.harveker.com\/blog\/stop-worrying-about-what-other-people-think\/\"><span class=\"s2\">what other people think<\/span><\/a><\/span>! While seeking approval in some areas of our lives can be healthy and even necessary, it becomes toxic when it starts to control your life. 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