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Let\u2019s say you\u2019re a juror in a courtroom, and you know<\/em> the person on trial is absolutely guilty. All of the evidence points to them. The jury\u2019s just about to break for deliberations, but at the last second, the defendant\u2019s lawyer comes in and says, \u201cEverybody wait. Before you go, I have one more witness.\u201d<\/p>\n

That witness comes up and says, \u201cI\u2019m sorry. I was scared. I didn\u2019t know what to do. I did it. No, they didn\u2019t force me to confess. Here\u2019s how I did it and framed this poor person on the bench right now. I did it. I feel terrible, but now I finally have to own up to it.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

As a juror, do you find the first person guilty? Of course not, because you now have some new evidence. You change your belief about the person on trial.<\/p>\n

Guess what? The same goes for us.<\/p>\n

You Can Change Your Belief About Yourself & Your Life<\/strong><\/h2>\n

One belief that I see over and over again among many of my students is the belief that, \u201cI\u2019m not a big deal\u201d<\/em>\u00a0or “I’m not good enough.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Somebody at some point in their lives ran them down, made them feel less than worthy, or eroded their esteem in ways that happened on purpose or accidentally.<\/p>\n

I actually saw this sign in a spiritual store recently that said, \u201cI have to admit, I\u2019m kind of a big deal.\u201d<\/em> It is not some selfish, egotistical, narcissistic thing to make yourself relevant in this universe\u2019s plans. It\u2019s not saying be obnoxious and overbearing toward other people. It\u2019s saying don\u2019t sell yourself short.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t your life that<\/em> important? Aren\u2019t you important to anyone?<\/p>\n

If not, at least be important to you. At least be a model so that you can help other people that are in your position. Change your story about yourself. Offer up some new supporting evidence. Create a belief about yourself that supports you \u2014 it’s one of the most powerful ways you can create happiness<\/a> and success in your life.<\/p>\n

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Change The Conversation With yourself \u2014You<\/em>\u00a0Set The Rules<\/strong><\/h2>\n

It\u2019s much easier to say \u201cChange your story\u201d<\/em> than \u201cChange your life.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

I always highly recommend getting coaching from others because your coach will support you. Your coach will help you with the \u201cIt\u2019s not a big deal\u201d syndrome. They’ll help you to lay out the exact\u00a0steps to reach your goals<\/a>\u00a0and accomplish your dreams.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

You write your life so if you say, \u201cI\u2019m not worth it,\u201d\u00a0<\/em>then fine, you\u2019re not worth it. You wrote that. You created it. You think it, so it\u2019s true. Whatever you think is your reality.<\/p>\n

“I\u2019ll be worthy if I have $1 million in the bank, or if I have the two most perfect children in the world.”<\/em><\/p>\n

“I\u2019ll be worthy if I have a husband or wife who loves me.” <\/em><\/p>\n

“I\u2019ll be worthy if I have a brand new car or if my job has status.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s all BS. None of that is going to make you worthy because if you say you\u2019re worthy, you are! If you say you\u2019re not worthy, you\u2019re not! That\u2019s the only thing that makes you worthy.<\/p>\n

Again, change the conversation with yourself. You<\/em> set the rules.<\/p>\n

Who is the referee in your life? You are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Who\u2019s the judge? You are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Who\u2019s the timekeeper in the game of your life? You are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Who\u2019s the player? You are.<\/strong><\/p>\n

You\u2019re everything. How could you lose this game? There\u2019s nobody else playing but you<\/em>!<\/strong><\/p>\n

Repeat that with me\u2026 “There\u2019s nobody else playing but you!”<\/em> Let that marinate a bit and really soak it in.<\/p>\n

Make up a different story if you need to feel and be worthy \u2014 to be a big deal that gets big deals done! You\u2019re going to make up a story one way or the other. You might as well make up one that says that you\u2019re worthy!<\/p>\n

You are at\u00a0the steering wheel of your life<\/a>. True or true? Ready to take control of it and design the life you’ve always wanted?<\/p>\n

After years of experimenting, I\u2019ve boiled my process down for getting exactly what you want in your life to only 7 simple step<\/strong>s \u2014 7 steps that you can use over and over again to achieve your ultimate life. <\/span>And I personally walk you through these steps on my free web class, The Ultimate Life Makeover.<\/strong><\/a><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

To register, click here<\/a>. See you there!\u00a0<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

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Tell us what you think! What are some of the ways in which we let ourselves believe that we\u2019re not worthy of what we really want in life? Do any of your stories stem from past experiences? Share your stories; we want to hear from you!<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

For Your Freedom,
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