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4 Simple, Yet Extremely Effective Steps For Banishing Overwhelm & Staying Motivated With Your Goals
How often have you experienced overwhelm?
It’s a common occurrence in most people trying to achieve their goals. They start out big, full of energy, multitasking everything at the same… and then are surprised when they become completely exhausted, with a bunch of unfinished items on their to-do list.
Today I’m going to share four simple steps to help you move beyond the paralysis of overwhelm, so you can easily and quickly choose what to focus on in your own life and career (while staying highly motivated)!
1. Understand the root of overwhelm
Overwhelm is a form of fear. It’s simply a worry that you won't be able to get it all done.
If you can identify it and start to understand what it is as a form of fear, you can then begin applying some methods that work wonders for me.
The first method to use, the basic primer, is when those thoughts and feelings arise, simply say to yourself, “Thank you for sharing.”
Your mind is based in fear, and it does what it's naturally going to do, which is spring that fear on you and cause unnecessary overwhelm.
Your mind goes, “Oh my God, what if I don't get it done? This bad thing will happen, and that bad thing will happen.”
It's all fear — and once you understand this, it makes “overwhelm” a whole lot less scary.
2. Reassure your mind
Next, you’ll need to speak to your mind and set the story straight.
Remember, your mind is your bodyguard. You don't say, “Shut up,” to your bodyguard, do you?
Nope! Instead you say, “Thank you for sharing,” and then you’re going to give your mind what it needs: assurance.
Just as you would a child, you're going to assure your mind that everything will be okay.
Just tell your mind, “Everything will be okay,” and take a nice, deep breath. Simply by doing this, you will come back to the present moment.
So, notice the feeling, understand it’s fear, and then reassure your mind that everything is actually okay.
You give your mind what it needs and wants, like a bodyguard: assurance. Then you say, “Everything is going to be okay.” Lastly, take a breath and come back to the present moment.
That's the method. That method will drastically improve your life.
Now, I don't want you to “kind of” do it. I want you to do exactly that. You assure your mind. You breathe, and you come back to the present.
Here's what's going to happen. The first time you do this, what do you think is going to happen? Your mind’s going to say, “Yeah, great. Yeah, but. Yeah, but…”
And when it keeps doing this, just keep telling it everything is okay, and watch as magic begins to happen.
3. Practice, practice, practice
If you want this to work, you're going to have to commit to doing one thing: practice, practice, practice.
Do you know what the good news is? The way your mind is, you are going to get to practice so much. You're not going to have to worry about a practice partner. Your mind is the best practice partner in the world, isn't it? It will keep on bugging you over and over and over again.
Eventually, you're going to get to control it just a little bit better with each passing day, and each week… IF you don't give in, IF you keep working on it.
If you’re going to converse with it and get into it with your mind, you're going to have a problem. Keep it short. Keep it simple. Take command just like a child.
You don’t want to say to a child, “Oh no! What did that guy do to you? Where did he hit you?” You're just going to irritate the child. You're going to make him even more mad. You're going to make him more upset.
Say, “Thank you for sharing,” give assurance, breathe, and then come back to the present moment. The result? More likely than not a much calmer, soothed child vs. an angry, frustrated one.
Again, it all comes down to practice, practice, practice!
4. Take it one step at a time
How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time.
This is obviously the worst metaphor in the history of metaphors, but it's the one everybody uses!
Let’s say instead of buying one book you really want to read, you buy two or three at a time. What do you do?
Do you read them all at once? Not usually. You read one book and then the other.
It’s the same way in life: you need to be careful about not spreading yourself too thin, and be sure to give attention to the most pressing issues, and work through them logically and calmly.
So there you have it! If you follow the above 4 steps with ongoing PRACTICE, you’ll find yourself become infinitely more productive — and MUCH less affected by overwhelm or paralysed by anxiety.
Now, I’d love to hear from all of you! What do you personally use or do to help with overwhelm? We ALL experience this nagging, uneasy feeling in one way or another, so are you actively putting in the effort to try and better handle these situations? If not, I challenge you to try the above 4 steps this week and then share your experiences with me in the comments below!
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