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The Four Nicest Words

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When you’re my age and you bring up entertainers who have been doing their thing for decades, you run the risk of dating yourself. But I think it’s safe to say even younger people are familiar with the late comedian George Carlin. He and a Pacifica radio station single-handedly changed Federal Communication Commission policies by letting us know what the seven filthiest words are in the English language.

There is no beating the comic genius of Carlin, but I can take a different track and offer some of the best words we can use to communicate powerfully and effectively, especially when you’re trying to influence someone positively.

These are things that we sort of already know intuitively: when engaging in conversation with friends or strangers alike, you want them to feel like you know where they’re coming from, even if you disagree with them. You want them to feel understood.

Hence, two of the four best words we can use when communicating: I understand.

If you can get into the habit of responding to every communication with the first two words being ‘I understand,’ generally you will disarm 80% of any negative or resistant energy right there and then. Even if you don’t understand, you say, “Can you clarify that for me just a little bit more?” It’s all about listening, yes? Make them feel heard and understood. Once you’re past that stage, work on the convincing part next.

What else have we instinctively learned about what to say? Well, what don’t you want to say after you’ve repeated back what the other person said yet you don’t agree with it? The dreaded ‘but.’ What usually happens when you say, “Yeah, I see what you’re saying, but …” You know. The other person gets that impatient or irritated look, like you just negated everything they were talking about even though you almost had them convinced that you knew where they were coming from.

The answer is as simple as replacing ‘but’ with ‘and.’ “Yeah, I hear what you’re saying, and here’s something else I was thinking about in addition to that.” It’s as easy as that.

Now what’s that last ‘nice’ word? It’s something that helps us identify with others while still also distinguishing our point of view, without making the other person feel like they’re being distinguished away from you. So instead of saying, “You have a ways to go,” you say ‘we.’

“You know, sometimes we as people have a tendency to make snap judgments even though we don’t have all the facts just yet.” That’s a nice way of telling someone they’re being short-sighted or pig-headed without making them feel bad about it. That’s a great tool in leadership or for anyone who displays openness to being educated.

The beauty of this exercise is that you don’t have to take mine or anyone’s word for it. Experiment with these four words consciously for the next week or so. Notice any differences in how people in your life react to you? Are you able to bring your perspective to others more effectively, or outright convince other people toward your point of view? Can’t wait to hear how it goes for you!

File Under ‘Mixed Messages’

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In tough times like these, people are doing more than just making economic and lifestyle adjustments that aren’t always chosen or even wanted. People just do what they have to do.

With these outward changes, though, I believe it’s more important than ever to reexamine our attitudes and beliefs. For those who have been in the Millionaire Mind community for some time, you’re familiar with how blueprint impacts our mental, emotional lives, and economic lives.

We all have our own mental ‘File Box.’ It labels and stores information, yes? Certain ways of thinking and belief systems? The way you think can only come from the information in those files. If it’s not in the file box, you don’t think it.

Unfortunately most of us have file folders that have mixed messages in it. Mixed messages create mixed results. So if you believe that you don’t have the experience to start your own business even though you want to, you’ll act accordingly and never have the experience of starting your own business.  If you don’t believe that you have enough money to manage, you won’t manage your money, which means you’ll never have enough money to manage.

When you don’t periodically challenge your own beliefs, it’s kind of like driving with your foot on the gas pedal and on the brake at the same time. We’ve got mixed messages going out to the universe and to ourselves. We believe we want to get to where we say we want to go, yet some of our other beliefs hold us back.

We’ve got to revise some of those files or add some new ones so we can make new choices that seem perfectly logical and sensible toward what we want; files that support happiness and success versus those that don’t. We want to delete those files or at least neutralize them.

Whether you are naturally pessimistic or just facing uncertainty due to the current economic climate, develop the skill of challenging your negative, unconscious beliefs. However, instead of looking only at your beliefs, first look at your results and your ways of being! Look at your life and that will tell you what you MUST believe for those result to be there.

Describe your current life situation in the financial and work arena. Do you work for others, yourself, or not at all? Do you earn a lot of money, a little money, or a moderate amount of money? Where do you put your money if you have some? Are you a saver or a spender? Are you a risk taker or not? Do you love what you do or not?

Regardless of what you find, the truth is our lives are the way they are not just from circumstances we can’t control, but also because of that one area we can control though we don’t always take the time to do so: our belief system. We always act or not act in accordance with our beliefs. We co-share the results of this with the universe. Control what you can, and let the rest take care of itself.

Now it’s your turn. What are some of the things you’ve discovered about your belief system that may have surprised you? How long have you held on to these beliefs? How are you actively editing or deleting old, unsupportive beliefs? We want to hear from you!

How to Take the First Step and Get the Ball Rolling

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I believe we are spiritual beings living physical lives, and to make the most of this life we have to take care of, nurture, and more importantly listen to the clues that spirit gives us, mostly through gut intuition and feelings we have.

 

At some point, though, we have to honor the physical side of our lives as well, and that means taking action. To hell if conditions aren’t perfect, or if this circumstance isn’t quite ideal or that person isn’t following through the way they said they would. We’ve got to take all these spiritual principles and put them into action.

 

That’s exactly where a lot of people get stuck, even those with greater awareness and knowledge. You know you want to work out, need to get into better shape for the sake of generating more energy to work your mission. But what step is often the hardest to take? That first one.

 

Depending how long you had been in your last cycle, getting the ball rolling can feel like pushing a boulder uphill, metaphorically speaking. You need to build the next muscle and final spiritual muscle that separates the successful from those still waiting at the gate: momentum.

 

Momentum is that force that makes it easier for someone who’s successful to do what’s right than to do what’s wrong. Momentum is that process of getting that snowball moving. The hardest part about working out is getting to the gym.  Once you get there, it’s not that hard to do.

 

When you’re in motion, that’s when things begin to line up, not before (that goes for you perfectionist!). When in doubt, act. What did everyone else tell you? When in doubt, stop and think about it. No! That’s why I say thinking is dangerous to your wealth!

 

Most people who I know that got rich didn’t think too much. They saw a piece of property: ‘This looks good. Anything structurally wrong? Environmentally? No? Good, I’ll buy it.’ Twenty years later they’re very rich. They really planned that one out, huh?

 

Just as an aside, if you’re really “smart,” chances are you’re not going to be really rich. You’re going to get in your way, a real momentum killer. Those who aren’t too “smart” are open to knowing (A) They don’t know everything the need to know to be rich (B) Will learn how to be rich, even if it temporarily hurt’s their pride to know exactly how far off they were to begin with.

 

A body in motion will remain in motion and a body at rest will remain at rest. What do we want to do? Get into motion! Once you’re there, it gets easier. We already know that. Now we gotta just do it.

 

What in your life do you just need to get started and adjust as you go? What have you been waiting for? What’s the fear? Is that true or did you just make it up?

 

You will make it. Trust yourself. Love yourself and know that you make it all up. It’s your freaking story!

 

Now we want to hear from you! What are some positive momentum-changers that have worked for you?

You Are Worthy

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Of all the obstacles to creating wealth, one of the biggest is the feeling of unworthiness.

It’s something we’ve all had to subconsciously deal with just being children. What happens when toddlers do something we don’t want them to do? We say, “No!” A kid is much more likely to hear the word “No” versus the word “Yes.” It just happens.

As children we often take these No’s personally, don’t we? Hell—many adults still do (the ones that don’t go for what they really want in their lives because they’re too afraid of the rejection!). The interpretation in the mind is ‘I am not good,’ or ‘good enough.’ In our society what happens to “bad” people? Punishment.

As adults our parents aren’t usually around to do the punishing. Our memories are enough to take care of that so we take over unconsciously, yes or yes? One of the many ways that people punish themselves is by making sure they don’t have an abundant, happy and successful life. It comes down to that.

When you’re “bad,” bad things are going to happen to you. Someone is obviously taking advantage of a person with a good, sincere intention—in business, in a relationship—and they know they’re being taken advantage of, but they “feel bad” for the one who they rightfully acknowledge as being the truly weaker one in the situation by taking from others without proper reciprocation.

Yet the one being taken advantage of lets it keep happening until the situation inevitably crashes. Then they say, “Why do these things always happen to me?” They know why, but something prevents them from fully embracing the truth. And that something is often a subconscious feeling of not deserving better. It’s the thing that ensures that they have pain and struggle in their lives.

This feeling of not being good enough leads to another conclusion: “I don’t deserve wealth.”

Everything again boils down to your own frickin’ interpretation. Who’s to say whether you deserve it or not? You decide. It’s your game, right?

Feelings of unworthiness show up in people when they give their time or services away for too little money in the business world, or no money. How many of you have a hard time charging for your services, especially to people that you know? Common problem, common issue!

What you gave you gave for too little, right? So what do you have in return right now? The big nada! And what do they have? They have the service. There is a missing half in the universal energy. This person right now owes a karmic debt. You have placed it on them, even if they think they got something over on you.

It’s not about giving your service to others freely if you choose to. We still want to do that, of course, because other things can come back to you. But the power of giving is that much greater when it’s coming from a soul that knows it deserves all the things life has to offer, the good and the bad; fair exchange, or more than what they ever imagined. That’s how balance occurs.

What are some other ways feelings of unworthiness show up in our lives? The more we’re able to identify the inner obstacles that hold us back, the quicker we’re truly able to develop the Millionaire Mind. We want to hear from you!

The Truth Shall Set You Free

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A little while ago we touched on the idea of being so passionate about something that you’d shout it at the top of a mountain, and nothing or no one could stop you.

Well, that’s something we can feel with certainty in any given moment, but we also know the other reality—the one where doubt creeps in, or fear, or uncertainty. We’re only human after all, and those doubts can cause us to change course. What happens if you’re moving in a straight line and you move one milliliter to the right or left?

After a while, there’s a big difference between where you were originally heading and where you end up. That’s why it’s so important to live from the truth of who you really are and how your talents and gifts were intended to add value to others.

If you’re trying to become successful in an arena that is not your right livelihood—if you’re trying to become successful with that and you run into obstacles, what are you going to naturally do when things get tough? Look for a way out! Give up! Quit!

You are given a purpose. You’re also given challenges and issues in your life. Your purpose matches with somebody else’s challenge or issue, and their purpose matches with yours. Isn’t that beautiful? But if you don’t live your purpose, there’s somebody with a challenge or issue that doesn’t have a partner and is waiting for you. Multiply that, and that’s how much money is out there waiting for you.

Likewise, for every unique talent and way of expressing it in the world, there’s also unique needs and desires from someone else.

It’s not easy to know why you were created. It took many, many years, lots of mistakes, detours and successes to realize my mission is simply to educate and inspire people and help them enrich themselves to live in their higher self based in courage, purpose, and joy versus fear, need, and obligation.

The Gospel of Thomas isn’t included in the common Bible, but I love one of its quotes nonetheless: “That which is within you and expressed will set you free, and that which is within you and not expressed will eat you from the inside.” Relate this not only to purpose but to disease, sickness and the way of the universe.

Again, you cannot live a happy, fulfilled and successful life without living your purpose. If your vehicle is not rooted from within, and becomes a derivative of the true purpose of why you’re here, you will never find fulfillment, you will never find true happiness, and you will never find real success. Never!

The root of your vehicle must be in your purpose. How do I know that? Because I have lived the other way and it sucks in comparison. Know what I mean?

Now we want to hear from you! What are some profound quotes about living the truth of not only our personal existence, but of our collective existence as humans? Let’s take this opportunity to inspire each other and set each other free, financially and spiritually.

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