When I was young, I worked my butt off trying to get ahead. I tried to sell all kinds of stuff, bothering people at their homes and businesses, in person, and on the phone. I didn’t like it, and I wasn’t very good at it, but I wanted to make money. I was doing what I thought I had to do.
If you know anything about my story, you know where it got me— broke and moving back in with my parents at the age of 30.
I made a lot of changes to get where I am today, but there’s one specific change that I believe made everything possible. Would you like to know what it is?
It was the decision to stop living from my head and start living from my heart.
If you get this— I mean really get it— it will completely change your life. It changes the rules you play by, the lens through which you view the world, and the driving force behind your decisions and actions.
The head is all about ego. Me me me. All those years of hustling, I was focused on petty desires and misguided strategies to fulfill them. I thought I was being practical and realistic.
I had convinced myself I should do things I didn’t want to do and care about things I didn’t care about.
I wouldn’t listen to anyone, not even myself. I was ignoring my true feelings and desires. I was dreaming small dreams, and I wasn’t even achieving those.
When I started learning to live from my heart and with intention, all of that began to change.
Living from your heart & living with intention means leading a spiritual, abundant life vs. an ego-based life.
Living from your heart means leading a spiritual, abundant life vs. an ego-based life.
It means coming from a place of service, kindness, and love. It means tapping into creativity and inspiration to do things that really make you feel alive.
And counter to what most people think, money comes naturally as a result.
There’s a common misconception that if you live from your heart, you’re going to get stepped on by everybody. You’re going to be a pushover. You’re never going to get anything done. You’re never going to make any money, and you’re never going to be successful.
That’s how a lot of the world lives.
Of course, you need your head too, to make sure you don’t fall in a hole, get jerked around, or do something stupid. But your head should be supporting your heart.
A lot of people have that backwards, living from their ego mind with maybe a little bit of input from their heart. Or worse, they leave out heart altogether.
Well, I can only speak from my own experience, but I think that way of living is freakin’ insane!
The day I started living from intention, from my heart is the day I started getting rich, period.
This isn’t some airy-fairy idea I made up. It’s how I’ve been able to achieve the level of success and wealth that I’m so grateful for today.
It’s how we still do things at Harv Eker International, and it’s why we continue to achieve massive growth year after year.
Why Living From Your Head Will Keep You Stuck
If you’re living from your head, you’re living from fear because your mind’s job is protection. And with good reason— it’s evolved over hundreds of thousands of years to keep you alive.
This was super important when we lived in caves and had to avoid getting eaten by saber-toothed tigers or killed by competing tribes.
Your ego mind is still important today, however, to keep you from doing things that are actually dangerous, like walking out in front of a bus.
But since you’re reading this lesson right now, chances are you’re not facing life-or-death threats every day.
When people let protectiveness run their life, they limit themselves, choking off their own potential.
They don’t let themselves create big visions for their life. They don’t take big, bold action.
They focus on small, “reasonable” improvements, and they treat minor details like major priorities.
They tend to focus on their own needs and desires rather than helping others.
Ultimately, living in the ego, fear-based self can shrink a person’s life and keep them from ever reaching their potential.
How Living With Intention And From Your Heart Can Make You Rich And Happy
When we live with intention and take actions from our heart, we become much more attractive to people and opportunities.
It’s a scientific fact that everything is energy. We all send and receive energetic messages all day every day. That’s why people can often get intuitive feelings of attraction or repulsion about others.
I know this might sound a little woo-woo, but I don’t care about how it sounds. I care about what works in the real world!
So, where does all your money come from? If you said other people, you are absolutely correct! They give you money when they believe you’re helping them in some way.
If we focus on how to 2x or 3x or 4x the number of people we’re helping, or the level at which we’re helping them, do you think they might feel and appreciate that?
Might they feel happy about handing you money? And might that in turn make you happier?
I can tell you from my experience, the answer to all the above is a HUGE YES!
How To Start Living From Your Heart
Now, you might be thinking, “That’s nice, Harv. But what the heck do I do with this information?”
Well, here’s the tricky part. Even though we’re talking about living from your heart, there’s nothing in your life that doesn’t begin in your mind.
You are where you’re at because of the thoughts you’ve had and the decisions that you’ve made in the past. And you’ll be where you’re at tomorrow based on your thoughts and decisions today.
So the first thing is to start with intention.
I want you to say this out loud three times, “My intention is to live from my heart and be supported by my head.”
Write it down and post it somewhere you’ll see it all the time. Repeat it as often as possible.
This is the beginning of positive change.
Next, ask yourself, “What does it look like to live from my heart?” It’s going to be a little different for every person.
Take some time to create a vision board or journal about what a heart-centered life could mean for you— the things and people and experiences that make you feel most joyfully alive.
On the flip side, practice expressing appreciation both to yourself and to those around you for what you already have.
Then take action.
Maybe you start meditating or you take up a spiritual practice. Maybe you start scheduling time for a passion you’ve been neglecting.
You might look for ways to be of service and contribute to others’ lives, doing small acts of kindness wherever you go or BIG acts of kindness!
Whatever actions you take, living from heart always begins and ends with your intention to do so.
As you keep returning to that intention, over and over and over, it gets stronger and stronger, and the results get better and better.
Bottom line is this: If you keep thinking the way you’ve always thought, you’ll keep doing what you’ve always done, and you’ll keep getting the results you’ve always got.
So I encourage you to take these ideas seriously and act on them. There’s no step-by-step method, but there are a lot of principles and tools that can help you along the way.
If you’d like to learn more about how to take control of your mind, manage your fear-based thoughts, and live from your heart, I’m here to help.
I’ve created a special, FREE web class that you’re going to love called,
“Don’t Believe A Thought You Think.”
In this web class, I go into much more detail about how to take control of your mind and your life.
Click here to save your complimentary seat and learn how.
What does living from heart look like for you? Let us know in the comments!
For Your Freedom,
Hi,
My name is Joy. I was excited to read the mail on Living by my heart and not my head.It resonated with me but I am not sure what steps to take to achieve this because I truly want to live by my heart.
I am desperate for a change for myself and my family. Please can I kindly ask for steps/guide on how you achieved living from your heart.
Many thanks ,
Joy
I maybe can help to answer your question from my perspective.
When you follow the way of the heart your body feels expanded with yes. If you feel contracted it’s no. The mind can/will change a no to a yes.
Never worked for me. If I went against my gut/intuition it never worked out. When my body responded with a yes, and I listened, it always was all good. Took me years to feel it out and see the results.
Wishing you fulfillment on your journey of The Way Of The Heart. And that you find comfort and security in that. ?????❤️?
WoW ! What an excellent article !!!
Yes,, I agree with you. Opened my eyes to potentially. Blessings ????
thanks
I once knew this and it worked. Then we moved, I got desperate and forgot to give.
Now I will listen to your free web class and perhaps I can get back in the saddle again.
Thank you
Thanks t Harv Eker my I’m number 8 of 19 brothers and the only one want to be rich and who believe I can reach the richest but I work so much and saved just a fewer $$$ but with all I’m reading and the emails you send me am getting strength thanks for all your help from the bottom not my heart
Excellent message and life changing thought given. I am trying use the same yo apply in my life too. And trying to commitment with my self to start thinking from heart and not only head.
I want to be successful person and want lots of money and want to support needy.
Dear sir please keep me helping .
I am reading this article at around 2 am because i am not able to get sleep as i am thinking, thinking and thinking how to get the success. Thanks
Thank you Harv! Exciting and inspiring words. I am more and more convinced of the steps I am taking.
I have a “real state information” company but my true passion is “helping people try a plant-based diet” (due to al the health, environmental and reduce animal suffering effects).
Working now in both but keeping my passion alive and growing (right now I am figuring out HOW TO do that help, taking action, learning, taking notes, and taking action again).
Best to you, your family and your team 😀
I love this so much. I have had success in several areas of my life that has happened organically, but every time I *try* to make things work and be successful on my own, it fails. THIS ARTICLE EXPLAINS SO MUCH! 🙂 The times when I wasn’t *trying*, I was doing it out of my heart and it made me feel alive. The times I have actually made a plan and have tried and failed, I was doing it out of my head. Wow!!! What an epiphany! Thank you so much for sharing this!!!
You were a great help to me.
Thank you!
I have lived by my heart for years, it is the only way to live. In real magic we call this the way of heart. It makes me wild crazy things and these doings make all my grandest dreams appear. I love the way of heart thanks for sharing with all your followers.
Warmly and Magically,
William Young a real-life Harry Potter
Mandrini the Magician
I also follow the way of the heart. Changed my life. Empowered my relationship with the Spiritual realm. Not my will, rather God within me.
Pleased to read what you wrote.
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I Think it is correct way of living
I already do what I love – being a caregiver for elderly clients so they can stay in their homes. However, there are just so many hours in a day, and I haven’t figured out how to clone myself. I’ve taken this free class before, and enjoyed it. But you stopped short of suggesting how (I believe your example was a massage therapist) to develop a business from what you love to do. I can’t teach how to put your heart into caring for someone. That has to come from within. And I see too many people doing what I do for the money – it’s just a job. And that’s the wrong reason.
I think this is the way it should and must be. Living from your heart. But unfortunately we all get discouraged, ridiculed or frightened by society, through limited conditioning. For me living from my heart means doing the things that are meaningful, doing the right and essential things. Doing the things that makes me happy. So thank you for reminding us.
Hola tiene el libro Million Dolar en español.
Los vídeos pueden ser reproducido en español
Saludos
Gracias
Shirley
All these you have taken me to thinking of what is in my heart and what I love doing ……… It’s true that I hove being living life of doing business just to earn a living but what I do is not something that I’m passionate with.
Really great info Harv Eker. Yes you are correct that we need to fix our mind first for the financial freedom and good relation ship. I know that the wealthiest mindset more important for our healthier & wealthier life…
Thank you so much for message
Hey guys.Firstly,let me start by saying that Harv’s book,Secrets of the Millionaire Mind,was more of a confirmation that I was always right in my heart.Not in my head.I always had/still have,a feeling in my heart about everything.Even though I am bipolar.Let me tell you an interesting story.I am a music producer from Nairobi Which is in Eastern Africa,Kenya.You know,where obama is from?.Anyways so i have amazing instrumentals but i lack a skill called ‘mixing/mastering’ so my artist and I had this insanely amazing song which we took to a certain main stream producer.Deep down i had a bad feeling about the guy.I could sense bad energy from him.Everything in my heart said no but my mind said yes with so many reasons.The job we needed him to do could take a max of 4days.He took 2 and 1/2 weeks.So i went to his studio last night and found that because the song was so great,and i am still an upcoming producer,he changed the whole instrumental and made his own ontop of my artist’s vocals.I have never been so mad in my life.I told him I dont feel the new beat.To be honest withyou guys,it sounded horrible!He got upset and started saying that I had just started doing production and he has been doing it for years now.I still didnt go with what he had done and i demanded my beat to be put back into the song.However this resulted in him giving me a poor quality song becuse he was angry.I didnt pay him and i decided to not go to him asking for my complete services.It tought me to always listen to my heart more.I used to but not all the time.
And finally I just wana say to anyone reading this that there is no better feeling than investing in yourself,finding your purpose while you are young and working towards achieving that big goal that you desire.I love you guys so much.❤️
Para mí vivir de corazón es conectar con personas y ayudarlas a crecer., a mejorar sus vidas.
Es ser parte de la solución que necesiten las personas.
Es aportar. Es servir.
Lo haria todo el tiempo. Me hace feliz.
Thanks so much