So many people think that money is about our bank balance. And while the dollars and cents matter, money is also strongly connected to emotions.
Before you think that you are exempt from an emotional attachment to money, think again.
What do you feel when you realize you are down to your last penny? Fear, panic, depression, even anger? Sometimes our feelings towards money are so strong that we start to hate money because we believe that it is the cause of all of our problems.
On the flip side, how would you feel if you suddenly found out you won the lottery? Elated, right? Relief — you’d feel free! Or so you think.
What Drives Our Beliefs About Money?
It’s clear that money evokes strong emotions and everyone has deeply-held and often subconscious beliefs about money. But where do our feelings about money come from? Who told you that money is bad? What experiences made you feel the way you do about wealth?
How we feel about money often stems from childhood. How our parents handled money provides the foundation for how we may handle money. Poor people often impart bad money habits and beliefs to their children. On the other hand, wealthy people tend to impart their philosophies and strategies on wealth creation to the children.
Add to that the fact that formal schooling does not include financial education, and so we go forth into the world with little or no financial roadmap, and soon we are making bad financial decisions. True or true?
The Truth About Money
The truth is that the problem isn’t money.
The problem is how we think about money and how we handle money.
People who constantly think negatively about money tend to have money problems their whole life. On the other hand, people who believe that money is something they can control and take ownership of are the ones who become more successful and ultimately make lots of money. Those are the people who, instead of complaining about their lack of money, educate themselves about money.
A change in our financial situation starts with a change in how we think about money. Clearing out the negative thoughts about money will remove the blockages that are preventing us from gaining the wealth we want.
Changing Our Attitude Towards Money
Instead of being limited by our negative perceptions about money, we should work to develop a healthier relationship with money.
Money has such a powerful impact on people that a sudden gain or loss in money can have a profound effect on some people’s personalities and attitudes. It can turn a nice person nasty or a happy person miserable. It can inspire greed and selfishness.
But in most cases, the money will not fundamentally change who you are or what you believe. At your core, you will still be the same person with or without money.
The key is to find peace and contentment with or without lots of money. Once we have our focus in life clear and stop allowing money to have so much power over us, any changes in our financial situation will have a less devastating impact on our emotions.
Below is a recording of a live call with my students in which I discuss how to solve internal conflict related to ingrained money beliefs.
So you see? Becoming aware of your limiting, non-supportive beliefs related to wealth and money can help you begin to change those beliefs into supportive ones.
What’s stopping you from achieving everything you want in life? Do you have money beliefs that are preventing you from succeeding? Comment below!
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