Personal success may be difficult for you to recognize. It’s easier to acknowledge our failures than our success stories. Keep reading to find out why it’s important to learn to hold onto your personal success.
How Recognizing Personal Success Builds Confidence
There’s nothing like a little self-congratulation for the ego, yes?
I’d rather pat myself on the back for my personal success and maybe look like an egotistical jerk than to get no praise at all. In fact, giving ourselves some props is important for success-building.
Why? Because we’re creatures of habit. Success is a habit as is failure and mediocrity—which is worse than failure. Mediocrity is this lukewarm thing where there’s not enough pain to make you want to move.
The more success, failure, or mediocrity you live in habitually, the more natural that process becomes for you. When your mind is comfortable and used to success, success becomes your path of least resistance. And success, therefore, becomes normal and automatic.
Reinforce Yourself Through Personal Acknowledgement
So, how do you utilize this law in your favor? It’s simple. Recognize and acknowledge your successes. Some people say, “Not focusing on my success keeps me striving.” I say it keeps you unrewarded, unhappy, and in a pattern of failure.
We all love to be recognized and rewarded for our good deeds, yes? Feeling significant is a basic human need. Most of us, unfortunately, have let some of the greatest successes of our entire lives slide into oblivion without ever really acknowledging or celebrating them in any way, shape, or form. It’s important that we keep our big personal successes in the forefront of our mind as references and to reinforce our confidence.
Don’t Put All Your Focus on What’s “Wrong”
Isn’t it true that our mind will almost always pick out what’s “wrong” with us? It hardly ever goes back to recognize the great personal success that we had. So, if you want to go out there and do something new like make a couple of million dollars in a certain amount of time, it’s going to seem scary because your mind isn’t going to go, ‘You’ve handled this before. Not a problem.’
Our successes have to be a conscious thought that we force in there. When our mind is left by itself, something new or scary will make it go, ‘Hell, I don’t want to do this!’ So, it’s important that we keep whatever successes we’ve had at the forefront of our mind. We want to ingrain them as best we can on a physical and emotional level so that they’re part of who we are.
Your turn! Can you come up with three of the greatest successes of your life in any area, right now? If you can’t come up with three successes, you are way too hard on yourself. If you have trouble coming up with three successes, that means you won’t focus on the good in yourself. So, you probably don’t focus on the good in other people, either.
This list doesn’t have to be incredible. It just has to be personal successes for you in any situation you were in. What have you overcome? It could be a business. It could be relationships. It could be money! It could be from childhood. It could be sports. It could be anything. We want to hear from you!
Thank you Harv!! It is so important to think about successes!! I love this blog. It is really helpful for me because I have successes like we all do and thinking about them makes me feel great! And I do not make it a habit to think about them. I will now!!
I have achieved three degrees and worked in all of the fields. I have overcome brain injuries and continued to focus on my dreams. I have overcome a very unhealthy family dynamic and changed the course of my life.
I usually do this but with this occasion I’m reinforcing the idea. Now I know I’m on the right path, and thanks for that, Harv!
Although I haven’t achieved my biggest goals yet, I still have a lot of successes in my life that I’m thankful for.
And I’m thanking to myself everyday for what I’ve done and what I’m doing and compliment myself for the vision that I have.
I like to be positive. What’s the point to be negative anyway? Shortening our lives or what?
Great to have achieved successes that can be recalled when needed to remind one of what has already been done.
I was able to recall several accomplishments, and recalling them gave me a more positive perspective.
Harv,thank you for the reminder.
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Oh Yes…reminding myself of my past successes is what feeds my confidence in myself and holds my self-esteem on a high note! I even remind myself of the dance contest I won at age 9…beating out adults and winning the top cash prize of $15 (the cash was incidental compared to the “winning” feeling I have carried all the days of my life) (age 55 now) and beginning a “next big thing in real estate” business currently! Blessings to all, warmly, Andrea
Thank you Harvey,
Its really a mind awakening that was dormant, after the small success which indeed went into oblivion.
I now make it a habit to visualize the success before I begin my day.
Thank you once again.
un grand bonjour……merci….