Nothing Has Meaning … Till You Say It Does
We’ve all either seen, experienced or heard of someone who made the proverbial mountain out of a molehill. The consequences can vary anywhere from entertaining, to frustrating, even tragic. The everyday tragedy, though, is that so many people continue to assess a negative perception on life’s circumstances when they could just as easily do the opposite.
One of the most important spiritual laws of money, success and happiness is positive focus while also understanding that we live in a universe of duality—up/down; light/dark; black/white; right/left; in and out. You can’t have a back without there being a front. Yin cannot exist without Yang.
That duality is always going to be in everything, no matter what. You’re not going to get some good into your life without there being a downside, and vice versa. So what do we do? It’s our choice. If you see the negative side of things because that’s what you choose to look at, then all that exists for you at that time will be what?
You see the positive side, though, and what will exist for you? You and I know none of this is new, but how many people actually live this way? We get sucked into the mind Frick and we get into a habit of seeing things on the negative side, and we think that that’s what is. That’s the hilarious part. We think that what we see is reality. No! It’s your reality! You just made it your reality. Nothing has meaning until we give it meaning.
The sound is not loud, and it’s not quiet. It is vibrations going out. That’s it. You paint the picture. ‘It’s loud for me.’ For you; sure! You make it anything you want. It’s nothing until you make it something. You’re going to decide. You color things light, and then they’re light. You color them dark, they become dark. They aren’t anything. You make them something.
So what would you like to start coloring things? Light! Positive! What if it turns out to be a disaster? What do you do? You realize it’s not a disaster. It’s a nothing. It’s a neutral. You get to say, “I am going to color it that after this ‘disaster’ something good might happen.”
You’re the one in charge up here. Your thoughts aren’t anything. They’re just flickers of energy and they mean nothing until you let them mean something. You have to have empowering thoughts.
Now let’s get something straight … we know that it’s impossible to never have negative thoughts, right or right? Are we going to let that stuff live inside us? Of course we will. It’s going to happen, but the question is how long will you stay stuck in them?
What determines that? Your habits! That’s all it is. Change your habit by practicing positive focus. You practice and you move on.
Now we want to hear from you. Can you think of a situation where a pattern of negative focus cost you something? What was the specific lesson you took away from that? What practices did you implement to start cultivating a pattern of positive focus?







Harv! During the weekend I was at MYM in London with Marjean & John. Awesome! We did this exercise of letting go and let magic happen and I am practicing that. In only few days my relationships totally changed and people are smiling at me, being super kind and loving…even when I go shopping! This really works. Now I do understand 100% what you said!!!:)
I'm totally agree with you Harv! I've been at MYM last weekend, it was awesome! Wonderful!
I practice without effort smiling and thanksgiving every where and with everybody. And the life smile to me!
Light and love
Orianne
When the negative things in life happen as they do, i try to realize the situation and thank the lord for the lesson then move toward a positive action.
No wonder my boyfriend and I continually fight over the volume of the tv! It's loud for me and quiet for him. LOL
This post couldn't have a come at a more relevant time. Some unexpected things happened today and I could have easily looked at it as a negative. In fact I did for a little while and was actually bummed. But I picked it back up because I know that I create my reality. I give the situation meaning and I'm happy to say that I changed my mind and made the situation a positive one.
Cheers!
https://masteryourselfimprovement.com
In any situation that could be considered negative I always ask “what can I learn from this”. This always keeps me on the positive side.
Josh Bulloc
Kansas City, MO
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Yes, totaly agree Harv. It's a matter of perspective. A bit like, the glass is half full? My greatest challenge is when I'm around negative people. I have to consciensly shrug off their negative vibe. Thanks for a great post.
Hi T., Katiero from Brazil here. I've read your book, so cool. I loved. Now I found your blog!
About this post, you are absolutely right as always. The best is that you aren't hypocrite. Negative thoughts exist, otherwise we are not human anymore.
The most important thing is thinking negative as little as possible, like unconscious thoughts about something, just for a few moments and our trained conscience need to make it stop, change the frequency to be positive.
I do that when I go to the gym, when I listen to some good music, when I watch a nice movie, and I try to do these things plus more as much as I can.
The life is so good, there are countless things to do. Procrastinating takes us to think negative and this is not life. This is pure death. The body is still alive, but the soul is dead.
Have you felt like when you grow stronger certain people who still stay negative find it very uncomfortable and intimidated to be around you? Even when you don't actually directly attack them, just your mere presence makes them feel uncomfortable. So we 'demagnetize' from negative people. We don't focus on them we focus on us being more positive :D.
What a profound and influential message Harv! You are so right. The duality of our universe is not optional. Negative thoughts, experiences, and situations are going to happen, but WE get to decide how long that negative thought, experience, or situation directly affects us!
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Thoughts>Feelings>Actions>Results.
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As long as we do not let those negative thoughts live long, our feelings stay positive, leading to increased action, which thus produces results!
Keep Up The GREAT Work Harv!
Karl G Larsen
https://karlglarsen.com
Yes, the issue is being around negative people or negative energy. How not to let that affect you. I find it very hard, especially when you are in close contact with someone who exudes that kind of energy and you can't just walk away (roommate, colleague, etc.). All I can think of doing is not getting too involved and focusing my thoughts on bringing a different energy in, while I try to exude more and more uplifting and free energy myself…if you have any other tips feel free to share.
Thank you.
This is a great reminder, I just posted a reply to Jilleen's post and made myself open to receiving more tips and… here's yours. Thank you.
I have recently attended the MMI and it is amazing how I process the environment, my thoughts, my actions and those of others after that…
I plan to 1st raise my consciousness to the level of NO meaning and then to the level of EMPOWERING meaning.
Thank you Harv
MYM in London with Marjean, John and you on video was soooo empowering for me. After TTT in July I set up my first programm, 3 hours in the beginning – it will be held on Nov. 12th and it will bring more Austrians to Berlin in April 2011.
And I act in spite of fear ….. !!!!! and it's always about them, not about me!!!!!. THANKS FOR ALL YOUR INSPIRATION HARV!
I totally agree to this. It is all about what you choose to look at and how you react to situations. Thanks Harv again for a wonderful perspective!
'Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me'
Little Drops of Water, Makes A Mighty Ocean.
Likewise, little molehills can become proverbial mountain.
This post is ON TIME! For start up capital I've been working at a Flea & Farmer's Market for 6 months and my husband has stayed home. Well, for the first time, he came to spend the entire day with me. While I worked, he was on him Mac the entire time. Guess what? My positive side was that he was there and that was enough for me. We have to empowering thoughts to succeed. I need a t-shirt that says “I heart T.Harv Eker!” LOL!
Duality…hmmm…definitely!
if there is no night, how do we know day…if we don't embace negativity, how would we know how to enjoy what's positive?
how to become whole if we only focus on one side…
depak chopra, debbie ford and marianne williamson in “the shadow effect” talks about embracing our dark side.
https://movie.theshadoweffect.com/video/
Thank you for sharing!
I follow a daily routine of EFT (emotional freedom technique) taught to me by Dr. Tom Hanson – it gives me a reset point every day where I know I'm doing something with the negative feelings and then I'm free to learn from the experiences.
Mr. Harv
Thanks alot for your mind.
I'm an Arab. I want to translate your book into Arabic.
So, how could I contact you??
Yours
Ahmed
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vzGFvb-IjuY if we choose in each moment to live from a spirit of love instead of fear the negative will cease to exist. We have that choice in each and every moment, Spirit or Ego? If we knew who walked beside us we would never be afraid again, A Course in Miracles xx
Harv, just yesterday, I felt really down in the dumps because I read on someone's facebook post that they were celebrating their Grandma's birthday. Since my Grandma passed away — and even though it was years ago around this time, and it still feels very fresh to me — I let that take me out of my game and my productivity really suffered for the remainder of the day. What I took away from that was that been paralyzed by grief was not helpful for me and I don't think it's what my Grandma would have wanted for me either. She would have wanted for me to be successful b/c she loved me so much! I think from now on, instead of feeling so sad, I will keep focused on making her proud instead.
Also, I wanted to share a blog post I wrote because I think it has the most powerful analogy I've heard about choosing how you want to think about life (IT's a Cherokee tale)…https://dld.bz/2ATX
To your career success!
Josephine Hanan
http://www.yourtransitionspecialist.com
Totally agree. Many people believe that what they believe is always true. They can't separate opinion from facts. I used to be the same before, not until I read your book Secrets of the Millionaires Mind. Then everything in my way of thinking has changed for better. Thanks to you!
Im a singer from Kenya,Africa..I had read lots of books and actually a leader in so many areas..but my life was always in a monotonous circle…for years…no book made my blood boil with excitement and action..and then I read your book…and it changed my life!!I started applying everything you had written and i started seeing changes..I spread the word and even had friends going to the bookstore to purchase it..one of my friends was so happy with the impact of this book on her life that she got me another copy as a gift.And this is what i do..this book is the gift i give to my friends..what better value to add into their lives?Within 1 year,I put together a music project in Europe&I have now relocated ..singing my way through and even working for a tv station and the one thing that excites me more than anything is Secrets of the MillionaIre Mind.Thankyou Harv Eker..I did not believe a word you said..i went staright ahead and used the principles in the book and continously do to transform my life!Hope to meet you someday in person.
Hottensiah (Hotty)