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Listen To Your Intuition To Overcome Self-Doubt

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Have you ever had a gut feeling, and then you went against it? Think about those times when you were driving and you knew not to take a certain route, but you did anyway and ended up stuck in traffic. This is an instance when you didn’t listen to your intuition. Sometimes the consequences of ignoring our sixth sense can have even more dire consequences.

Why Listening To Your Intuition Is Crucial

In our culture, we don’t quite give the power of intuition its proper due. Of course, learning as much as you can about how to reach a goal leads towards success. However, there are other sources of intelligence within us that we tend to ignore. It’s the inherent wisdom of our spiritual nature that we should come to rely on. It’s deeper, instinctive, and more intuitive than simply thinking.

Intuition generally comes to us in feeling rather than logic. When a woman thinks “This guy gives me the creeps”, it usually pays for her to listen to her intuition. In the same way, when someone refuses to go along with the crowd, they are relying on something more than what the world praises as “smart” or intelligent.

Ask any really successful person, and they will tell you success comes as much from intuition as from the brain. How many millionaires do you think go along with the crowd, or listen to the “conventional wisdom” that everybody else is following toward sameness? If you’re not utilizing this incredibly powerful inner guidance system that is at your service 24-7, you might as well be going through life with one hand tied behind your back. Don’t do this to yourself. Instead, learn to listen to your intuition.

 

Maintain A Positive Mindset To Overcome Self-Doubt

The key is to quiet your mind when you are struggling with any thoughts of self-doubt. Meditation helps to focus the mind. Even trying to be really present in the moment without labeling things as good or bad, right or wrong can be helpful. Once the mind is quiet, wisdom can finally have its say.

You’ve probably experienced this unexplainable phenomenon when you were trying to remember something but couldn’t. Finally, you stopped trying to “figure it out” and later on, out of the blue, the answer popped into your head.

Your spirit knows what’s right for you. It knows what directions you need to take for your highest good and the good of others. The mind is an awesome tool that needs to be used, but it pales in comparison to the inner wisdom of your intuition. Trust in yourself. Trust in the Universe. Open up to your higher guidance, and have the courage to follow this guidance, even if it seems to defy logic, which is usually the case.

Exercise: Think of a time in your life where you listened to your intuition

  • Did you doubt yourself at first?
  • Did it prove to be the correct response?
  • What can you do to listen to your inner central spirit?

Share your thoughts about intuition below in the comments. 

This article has been updated for relevancy and accuracy. It’s original publish date was 05/21/10.

Finding Balance In Your Work and Personal Life

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In normal conversations when we use the word “balance,” we tend to think of balance being an even distribution. And in many cases, this is correct. But when it comes to your life or your business or career, this couldn’t be farther from the truth. Finding balance in your work life and personal life takes effort.

How To Find Balance In Your Life

I want you to say this phrase out loud: “Balance means equal attention given to both or to all…” Then I want you to say it again and remove the word “equal” because having equal attention in all things cannot and does not work in anyone’s life, including yours.

So if balance doesn’t work in equal proportions, then how does it work? We’ve talked a lot about the 80/20 rule or the Pareto principle. It says 20% of your activities will create 80% of your results. This means that 80% of what you do is wasted as far as the results you want are concerned.

So what do you do to find balance in your life?

  • Prioritize
  • Be productive
  • Separate different areas of your life

1. Prioritize

The first thing you must do is prioritize. You have to say, “What do I do that is productive, makes money and gives me joy?” The reality is most of our time is spent on frivolous, crappy stuff that doesn’t create real results.

Sometimes if I’m not careful, I can be on my email for four hours because I’m curious and think, “What does this financial letter say? What does this other guy say? What’s all of that about? What does he want over here?” I then catch myself and notice how many hours have gone by when I could have finished the emails I needed to do in 20 minutes.

2. Be Productive

That’s life. You have to discipline yourself to be productive.

3. Separate Your Life Into Sections

So how do you prioritize effectively so you can be productive? I want you to think about dividing a piece of paper into two sides, a left side and a right side. Most of our students are involved in a business, work, a career, or something where money or business is involved. So we’re going to put money and business on the left-hand side of the paper. On the right side, we’re going to put the rest of life. You might be thinking that that’s unbalanced, but it’s not.

Let’s take the money and business side, first. I’m going to share with you a big secret right now that not too many people know. I call it “The Big Kahuna”. The big kahuna means the “big thing”.


Determining Your “Big Kahuna” 

In your money and your business, what is the one big thing you can do that will have the most impactful effect and will create the biggest results for your business or career? It’s the ONE thing — not the ten things, five things, four, three or two things.

For my situation, I’ve been fortunate enough to do enormously well on my book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind. That book brought me a lot of clients and business from all over the world and has sold over 2 million copies in 43 languages. So, “The Big Kahuna” for me that would have the greatest impact would be writing another best-selling book, and that would be huge compared to everything else that I do on a day-to-day basis.

So, how much time should you dedicate to “The Big Kahuna”? 50% percent of all of my business time would go into my Big Kahuna. This may come as a shock to some of you reading this right now. But let me ask you this: Do you want greatness or do you want mediocrity? Do you want wealth or do you want to earn a living? If you want wealth, you have to work on “The Big Kahuna” and make it happen. That’s what will create greatness in your life.

Okay, what’s an example of a big kahuna for someone else who is in business?

I can tell you right now that 99% of every business problem lies in marketing and sales. If you are a great marketer, chances are you’ll make great money. If you’re a lousy marketer, chances are you’ll make lousy money.

I can tell you with absolute certainty that the most essential skill I have is the skill of marketing, and 99% of the time, that’s my big kahuna. In my experience, most people who are underachieving are not spending enough time on marketing. The reason is that they either don’t like it (very common), or they don’t know exactly what to do to make it work.

That is why we created our web class, The 500 Million Dollar Secret, to teach you exactly how to become a master at marketing. You can learn what common mistakes most people make and how you can avoid them. You’ll also get the opportunity to know exactly what I do in my own business to predict success.

Dedicating Time To Your Personal Life

For the right side of the paper (the rest of your life), how long does it take to have dinner with your family? It takes an hour a day. How long does it take to read a book to your kids and spend quality time with them? It can take an hour or less. How long does it take to work out? It takes half of an hour to an hour. You DO have time for everything else, and that’s the bottom line.

Exercise: Finding Balance Between Your “Big Kahuna” and Personal Life

Decide what your big kahuna is. If it isn’t marketing, then what is it? Come up with a plan to divide your time to create success in your personal life and your business or career. Leave a comment below and share your story with us!

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Change How You Define Success By Taking Time For Yourself

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There’s always something to do, right? Somewhere to be. Someone to meet. Commitments to fulfill. We all have our reasons, but there’s one thing we need to ask ourselves: Is this really taking me toward my idea of success? How do I define success?

How To Define Success By Taking Time For Yourself

We can define success by financial abundance or happiness in relationships and family. But we’re really looking for common underlying themes, no matter what the category. Some of these themes are peace of mind, a sense of calm, and for things to slow down so we can actually enjoy our lives and take time for ourselves.

In other words, what we’re looking for is the exact opposite of the typical hectic lifestyle most people live.  The irony in all this is how we define success as a society encourages you to live a hectic life where you can’t take time for yourself. You feel the need to reach for success now, so then you can finally relax, slow down and enjoy a sunset in the future.


But when does that moment come? Next week? Next vacation? Next year? When we finally reach a long-standing goal? When we retire?

It becomes a never-ending cycle of work for play; only a lot of people forget to actually take time to play now because of how they define success! When work is over, then errands. And when errands are over, then it’s obligation A, then B. Then it’s time to just crash and get ready to do it all over again so there’s no opportunity left to take time for yourself.

No doubt, hard, effective work can pay off, but at what price?

We need to change how we define success. Our definition of success needs to be one that speaks to our needs for:

  • more balance
  • more time to be with those we care about
  • more time for play
  • more time to take care of ourselves
  • more time to do the things we really want to do, not just what we feel like we have to do

Why do so many people “work” their lives away and busy themselves to death?

One word: FEAR!

People fear that they’re not doing enough, or for that matter fear they are not good enough. They fear that if they don’t spend enough time on results-driven activity, then they won’t get anywhere.

The mind can be our greatest ally or our greatest obstacle, striving to protect the Ego that above all else wants safety, security, and to make sure we have “enough”. But if you’re always looking for “enough,” you never get to experience it, do you? You’re always doing, always going after it, as if it’s not possible that enough is enough right now.


Naturally, I’d be the first one to say that finances and your career are important to how we define success, but not at the expense of your physical, mental, and emotional health. Not for the price of your sense of peace, your family or your few moments when you get to take time for yourself and enjoy life.

Don’t just spend time; take time!

Exercise: What’s Important To You?

  1. List your values for how you define success:
    • What’s most important to you?
    • If you didn’t have to work, how would you spend your time and take time for yourself?
  1. In order to take time for yourself:
    • how could you leverage yourself (i.e. earn money while you sleep)?
    • Who can you delegate some of your time-consuming tasks to?
  1. Then adjust your schedule for the next month by assigning specific times you take for yourself. Block out these times first. Consider them appointments and keep them as you would any other.

I want to hear from you.  Can you relate to the challenge of the “never-ending cycle of work for play?” If you had to create a definition about how you define success right this minute, what would it be? (You can always tweak it later, but I want to know what comes to your mind first–what does your gut tell you? Declare it here in the comments . . . and then go live it!

This article has been updated for relevancy and accuracy. It’s original publish date was 01/07/10.

Practicing Happiness Now To Make It A Habit

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Practice makes perfect, right? Wrong! First of all, nothing’s ever perfect. I’d even say you don’t really want anything to be “perfect.” Why not? Well, once you’ve reached it, where else is there to go but backwards or, even worse, nowhere? Practicing happiness or anything else should be a process.

How To Start Practicing Happiness In Your Life Now

When this post was originally written, the Winter Olympic Games were just starting, I started to think about the art of practice and perfection. Watching the athletes get ready to compete, I am in awe of their strength, dedication, and focus. There is no doubt these athletes are striving for pure perfection.

The point of practice isn’t perfection

We want to strive for perfection, yes, but that’s only going to work if you understand that it’s not just about the destination but the journey, as well.

That’s why it helps to look at process when it comes to those outcomes we’re reaching for. Because what would be the point of getting to where you always wanted to be, if you’re beat up and worn out by the time you get there? Where’s the happiness in that?

Happiness Is A Process As Much As An Outcome

I mean, don’t get me wrong. A hard-earned victory is awesome. But think about it; should happiness in life be restricted to success in finances, or business, or career, or the attainment of goals?

We have all been there at some point in our lives, saying something like, “If only I had [fill in the blank], I’d be so much happier.” Hey, sometimes we may even get whatever it is we think will make us happy, but what usually ends up happening? We’re psyched for a little while—if at all—and then we find out it wasn’t really enough to make us as happy as we thought it would. There’s always more.

You can work your butt off to get to where you want to be by practicing your delivery, your backhand swing, your investment strategies—you can practice anything until you get it down, but that doesn’t mean things are always going to turn out perfectly.

Practice doesn’t make perfect. Practice makes permanent.

Practices Becomes Habit

Practice becomes habit, and habits become permanent unless we consciously change them. We’re practicing something all the time through our habits, even when we’re not really thinking about it.

If you practice the thought that “I’ll be happy when [fill in the blank] happens,” then guess what? You’re always delaying your happiness until [fill in the blank] happens. Not because things will never be great, but because you’ve become a master at being unhappy. Unhappiness will be your habit!

You have to prioritize happiness. You have to practice being happy no matter what is going on in life; whether you win or lose, succeed or experience temporary setbacks, whether everything is the way you have always dreamed or if you are still on the road to your next major destination.

Practice Whatever You Want To Be In The Future Now

If you want to be more patient and less reactionary, practice patience now. If you want to be a manager of your own personal wealth, start managing your finances now, no matter how much money you earn. If you want to be successful, then practice being successful now. If you want happiness, start practicing happiness now.

The key is to enjoy the process, enjoy the journey. We can have moments of perfection, times where we wouldn’t want a single thing to change, but it’s unfair and unrealistic to ask that of life all the time. But it’s totally within our control to practice being whatever we want to be right now!

Now that you hopefully understand why you should practice happiness, you might be wondering how to do it.

I’ve been prioritizing happiness for a long time, studying and practicing what it really takes to be truly happy. Would you like to know what I’ve discovered?

Well, I’ve got some great news! I’ve developed a set of seven principles that have transformed my life and made me a much happier person. One of them, which we’ve been talking about here, is that you have to prioritize happiness. 

I’d love to share the other six with you, so I’ve put together a FREE, brand-new online training to walk you through them. It’s called: 

The Shocking Truth About Happiness

If you join me for this FREE training, I guarantee you will be much better equipped to create real and lasting happiness in your life. 

Here’s a taste of what you’ll discover:

  • Why happiness is your natural state of being 
  • How to eliminate the true source of UNhappiness
  • How to be happy AND achieve more in life
  • The 7 precepts of happiness you MUST understand in order to be truly happy

And much, much more!

Remember, time is your most precious asset. In less time than it takes to sit through a few episodes of a Netflix show, you can attend this class and get on the path to a completely new and much more joyful life.

In fact, just by signing up, you’re taking your first action step in prioritizing your own happiness. 

Click here to pick the best date and time for you. I hope to see you there!

What’s one way you could practice your happiness today? Let us know by leaving a comment below!

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