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Road To Success: Learn From Your Mistakes

The road to success is never straight. The textbook definition of “straight” is something that has no bends, angles or curves. Can we apply that same definition to life? Absolutely not. There really isn’t such thing as “straight” in the universe. At the core of everything, including us, is energy. Energy doesn’t travel straight, it travels in waves. Imagine throwing a pebble into a lake, watching the ripples gliding across the surface.

Right after you throw your pebble, someone else also tosses a pebble in the same lake, and now the ripples from that pebble collide with the ripples from yours. That’s how everything in this universe works.

Take Control: Create Your Road To Success

People and events are constantly colliding. This creates new pathways, situations, and actions. The chaos of life makes it almost impossible for anyone to always go “straight” to where they planned. Some people thrive on chaos and change, but most people don’t. They get frustrated, down, and ready to throw in the towel because they usually have expectations, and these expectations are usually almost impossible to meet.

We might as well just accept it: the road to success comes with twists, turns, ups, downs, stops and reverses. Once we really understand and accept this, we’re less likely to be deluded into having unrealistic expectations that there’s a straight line to the top. So when we come across bumps, flat tires, and raised bridges along the way, we won’t be so quick to get upset or give up. Getting off track is normal and therefore “perfect”.

The Ideal of Success and Perfectionism

You have to expect to spend a great deal of time making mistakes, or if it sounds better “making corrections”, on your road to success. There’s a reason why perfectionists have a hard time being highly successful. Perfectionism is a form of fear, based on fear of failure or the fear of disapproval.

If perfectionists don’t get it exactly right, then they don’t have to finish, follow through, and move on. They get to stay stuck “until it’s right”, but of course it’ll never be right. Perfectionists will never have to face the possibility of rejection or disappointment.

We need to consider mistakes as “feedback” rather than something to be avoided at all costs. Mistakes are our perfectly natural learning curve. They are the feedback we need to get ourselves back on track.

Take Action

We can do the same thing we already know we need to do in order to keep moving forward: Take action!

Those actions will produce results, and sometimes more mistakes. Then we just get that feedback, use it to correct our course again, and take more action. This is the non-linear cycle toward success. As long as you use this cycle , and persevere, it’s virtually impossible to fail.

Remember, we’re all ripples in the lake of the universe. You never know how a comment, observation, or shared experience can change the course of your life or another person’s life!

Exercise: Your Road to Success

  1. What are your stories about the ‘bumpy’ road to success? What unexpected events – totally beyond your control – have happened to you?
  2. How did you react? Did it set you back or help you move forward with new and better actions?
  3. How did you deal with the setbacks or successes?

Share your experience with us in the comments!

For Your Freedom,

For most people, the inevitable setbacks on the road to success can result in a lack of confidence and low self esteem, but it doesn’t have to be this way. So to help prevent this from happening to you, I created a free e-book called MindFrick, “Master The Inner World To Succeed In The Outer World”, that I’d like to give to you for free. Click here to download it now.

Listen To Your Intuition To Overcome Self-Doubt

Have you ever had a gut feeling, and then you went against it? Think about those times when you were driving and you knew not to take a certain route, but you did anyway and ended up stuck in traffic. This is an instance when you didn’t listen to your intuition. Sometimes the consequences of ignoring our sixth sense can have even more dire consequences.

Why Listening To Your Intuition Is Crucial

In our culture, we don’t quite give the power of intuition its proper due. Of course, learning as much as you can about how to reach a goal leads towards success. However, there are other sources of intelligence within us that we tend to ignore. It’s the inherent wisdom of our spiritual nature that we should come to rely on. It’s deeper, instinctive, and more intuitive than simply thinking.

Intuition generally comes to us in feeling rather than logic. When a woman thinks “This guy gives me the creeps”, it usually pays for her to listen to her intuition. In the same way, when someone refuses to go along with the crowd, they are relying on something more than what the world praises as “smart” or intelligent.

Ask any really successful person, and they will tell you success comes as much from intuition as from the brain. How many millionaires do you think go along with the crowd, or listen to the “conventional wisdom” that everybody else is following toward sameness? If you’re not utilizing this incredibly powerful inner guidance system that is at your service 24-7, you might as well be going through life with one hand tied behind your back. Don’t do this to yourself. Instead, learn to listen to your intuition.

 

Maintain A Positive Mindset To Overcome Self-Doubt

The key is to quiet your mind when you are struggling with any thoughts of self-doubt. Meditation helps to focus the mind. Even trying to be really present in the moment without labeling things as good or bad, right or wrong can be helpful. Once the mind is quiet, wisdom can finally have its say.

You’ve probably experienced this unexplainable phenomenon when you were trying to remember something but couldn’t. Finally, you stopped trying to “figure it out” and later on, out of the blue, the answer popped into your head.

Your spirit knows what’s right for you. It knows what directions you need to take for your highest good and the good of others. The mind is an awesome tool that needs to be used, but it pales in comparison to the inner wisdom of your intuition. Trust in yourself. Trust in the Universe. Open up to your higher guidance, and have the courage to follow this guidance, even if it seems to defy logic, which is usually the case.

Exercise: Think of a time in your life where you listened to your intuition

  • Did you doubt yourself at first?
  • Did it prove to be the correct response?
  • What can you do to listen to your inner central spirit?

Share your thoughts about intuition below in the comments. 

This article has been updated for relevancy and accuracy. It’s original publish date was 05/21/10.

The Power of Gratitude: Avoid the Scarcity Model

“Be grateful.” We hear this phrase all the time in a community of fellow seekers. After all, we all want to grow our financial success, and we all want to achieve spiritual peace. However, in these quests, we can lose track of what we already have. Throughout all of life’s highs and lows, this motto reminds us of the power of gratitude. No matter where we are in life, there is always something to be grateful for.

How the Scarcity Model Diminishes the Power of Gratitude

It’s easy to be grateful when it doesn’t really require a ton of effort, like saying “please” or “thank you.” Even when big things are going really well for us, it’s easier to pause and appreciate what we have around us. However, what about when things aren’t going quite as planned?

Everyone’s been there. The mind starts focusing on what’s wrong, what we are lacking, and what is just too much for us to deal with. We tend to overthink, making it even more difficult to overcome obstacles in order to reach our goals. In some ways, this is a natural response. When it becomes a habit, though, it can become a problem. At this point, the pity party is simply a safe choice rather than the right choice.

The truth is, it takes much more courage to appreciate what we have, no matter how little it may seem at the time. It’s much easier to surrender to the scarcity model and let ourselves off the hook from taking action because we feel like something isn’t enough. Our egos will tell us that if we spend too much time being grateful for what we have, we won’t try to get more, and we’ll become stuck being “content” instead of happy.

Avoiding the Scarcity Model

The scarcity model tells us that there simply aren’t enough resources to meet everyone’s wants and needs. At the end of the day, you may feel like you’re the one getting shorthanded. This isn’t necessarily the case though. By practicing the power of gratitude, you can avoid falling into the scarcity model trap.

Learning to appreciate what you currently have doesn’t mean you’re tricking yourself into “settling.” Just because you’re buying an economy car now because it’s more practical doesn’t mean you won’t want a Ferrari three years from now when you’re rich. Choose to be grateful that you own reliable transportation — regardless of whether or not it is flashy. There are plenty of people in this world that don’t have that at all.

The proactive mind continuously hungers for more, like a squirrel hoarding nuts for winter. The scarcity model allows us to constantly overlook and discount what’s right in front of us. To fight this, we have to consistently remind ourselves to look for what’s right in our lives instead of searching for what’s wrong.

With enough practice, we’ll be more likely to remember to show our appreciation to the people who are closest to us: our family, friends, loved-ones, co-workers, and employees. We’ll even start considering and appreciating the everyday strangers in our lives. From teachers to postal workers, these people make our day-to-day better and enrich our larger communities. Let’s not forget to say “thank you” to the Universe for our many blessings.

How Gratitude Affects Your Finances

Everyone should be grateful for and properly manage whatever wealth you have now, even if you don’t think it’s much. If you’re not appreciating what you already have, that means you’re not maximizing what’s available to you right now. If you can’t do that, then why should the Universe believe you can handle more?

Exercise: Power of Gratitude

Now that you’ve listened to me, I want you to put these ideas into practice. Declare your gratitude to the millionaire mind community with these simple steps:

  • Step 1: Think about things to be grateful for. To help, you can ask yourself these questions:
    • Who and what have you not fully appreciated?
    • What are some of the things that you tend to take for granted?
  • Step 2: List the people and things in your life for which you are grateful.
  • Step 3: Show your appreciation to the people who mean the most to you for all that you have.

For Your Freedom,
the power of gratitude

Maybe even after incorporating gratitude, you feel unhappy. If so, I want you to ask yourself these questions: Do you have everything that you want in life? Success? Inner peace? Amazing health? Fabulous relationships? If not, join me on one of my upcoming web classes, “Don’t Believe A Thought You Think,” where you’ll learn exactly how to have all the success, inner peace, health, relationships, etc. that you want and deserve.

Click here to reserve your free seat today!

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Share in the comments your thoughts on the power of gratitude and the scarcity model.

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The 3 Biggest Life Lessons I Learned From My Dad, T. Harv Eker

Jesse Eker shares life lessons taught by T. Harv Eker

Hi everyone! Jesse Eker here… As you can imagine, my dad, T. Harv Eker, has taught me a LOT — and a lot of my success comes from the habits he’s helped me create and the “life lessons” he’s taught me over the years.

A lot of these lessons have been shared with you through his teachings…

But I thought I would do something special today in light of Father’s Day (that happened several days ago), and share a video that we posted last year on the 3 specific lessons that I learned from my dad that have had the biggest impact on my life… And how they can serve you in your life too.

Enjoy!

NOTE: Click the audio button on the video to turn on the volume! 

In short, here are the top 3 biggest lessons I learned from my dad, T. Harv Eker:

  1. You’re paid based on the value you deliver.

  2. Always have integrity with yourself and with others.

  3. Correct and continue — take action, receive & evaluate feedback, and make the necessary corrections.

What are the biggest life lessons you learned from your dad or father figure(s) in your life?

Please comment below so we can all learn from each other. I look forward to hearing from you!

To Your Success,
Jesse Eker
Managing Director
Harv Eker International

 

 

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T. Harv Eker on stage teaching top 10 life lessons

 

 

 

 

 

T. Harv Eker’s Top 10 Tips For Wealth & Success

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When it comes to creating wealth and reaching high levels of success, there are only a few rules and principles that you need to consistently follow to get there. 

However, if you don’t get good guidance from someone who has successfully done it before you, and you end up taking incorrect actions, you’ll find yourself struggling to reach the level of wealth and success that you desire.

Over the course of 30+ years in business and bringing in over 500 million dollars in revenue, T. Harv Eker has definitely achieved a high, high, HIGH level of success AND wealth, so he’s a great person to model, yes or yes?

When it comes to creating wealth and reaching high levels of success, there are only a few rules and principles that you need to consistently follow to get there. Share on X

Watch the video below and keep reading to learn T. Harv Eker’s top 10 tips for wealth and success. 

Want to learn more from Harv? Attend his free web class, The 500 Million Dollar Secret.

1. Take Ownership Of Your Life 


So many of us spend our lives waiting for our “big break.” We think that if we just put our heads down, work hard, and do the right things, eventually someone will hand over the keys to our success.

If you want to create real success in your life, you need to believe that you are the one creating your own life. And on the flip side, that you are the one who creates any mediocrity or financial struggle. It may sound harsh — but if you look at it the right way, it’s actually empowering. Because if you’re the one responsible for your own failure, then you’re also capable of changing your life for the better. 

This is how wealthy people see the world, and it’s one of the reasons for their success. Most middle class and broke people see things very differently. Instead of consciously creating their lives, they see life as something that happens “to” them, instead of “for” them.  

So, before you try to do anything else, it’s time to take control. When you believe that you can create the life that you desire, rather than waiting for good things to happen to you, you’ll be putting yourself on the fast track to wealth and success.

2. If You Want To Change The Fruits, First Change The Roots


This may not make a lot of sense at first, but picture a tree in an orchard. Any kind of fruit will do. This tree you’re imagining represents your life. In life, all of our actions will eventually have some kind of result. In other words, your tree will someday bear fruit. But what kind of fruit? Will it be juicy, crispy, and sweet? Or will the fruits of your labor be disappointing and bitter?

Most of us would like the juicy, sweet fruit – the successful results. So, if you want a tree to produce more and better fruit, what do you do?

You go back to the roots.

You can’t change the fruit that’s already been produced, but you can make tomorrow’s fruit sweeter. You nurture the parts hidden under the ground, knowing that eventually, your efforts will affect the entire system of the plant. Life is the same way. If you aren’t getting the results you want, it’s important to make sure you’re focusing on the real problem, not the end result. Focus on the invisible in order to change the visible.

3. Be Willing To Be Uncomfortable


The truth is, most people have trouble stepping outside their comfort zone. When we hit a roadblock or an obstacle, we assume that we’re doing something wrong. But nothing could be further from the truth. Instead of retreating back to old, familiar territory, try taking a different approach:

If you’re feeling uncomfortable, challenged, or discouraged – that means you’re growing.

Even if it doesn’t feel like you’re making progress, the fact that you’re moving outside your comfort zone means you’re moving forward. Many of us envision success as a straight line, a road from point ‘a’ to point ‘b’. But in reality, the road to success is filled with unexpected twists and turns. Being able to accept and adapt to them is one of the major factors in actually achieving any big goal in life.

So, the next time you feel lost, or confused, or just a little out of your depth, remember: it’s actually a good thing to try things that make you uncomfortable.

4. What You Focus On Expands


Have you ever met the kind of person who can’t seem to stop complaining about everything that’s wrong with their life? You probably have. Did that person seem happy, or did they seem absolutely miserable? 

It’s an unconscious trap we all fall into sometimes, but it’s a habit you must break if you want to reach your goals in life. Here’s why. When you are complaining or negative, what are you focusing on — what’s right in your life or what’s wrong in your life? What’s wrong in your life. So, if what you focus on expands, then what are you going to get more of in your life? What’s wrong in your life. 

Instead of looking for reasons why everything is wrong, commit to looking at what’s right. By really focusing on your goals in a new and more dedicated way, you’ll find new roads opening up that you never would have noticed before.

5. Your Word Must Become Law


It’s time to be honest, and the answer to this question may make you cringe. But how often do you start projects and never finish them? So often, we hear from people who start new programs, who set goals for themselves and then never follow through. Finishing what you start is more important than you might think, and it comes down to one word: integrity. And that doesn’t just mean in terms of being honest with yourself (although that’s important).

It also means being whole and complete as a person. When you don’t keep your word to yourself, it feels bad. When you don’t complete what you set out to do, it can shake your confidence and make you feel like there’s no real path to your goals. It’s easy to get stuck in a loop of bad habits and turn this into a self-reinforcing cycle if you’re not careful. 

On the other hand, when you do whatever it takes to keep your word to yourself, that confidence will spill over into every area of your life. It’s a simple matter of self-discipline. It will take some practice and hard work, but in the end, it’s the only way to reach the goals you set for yourself. This is one of the major ways you can own your life, achieve success, and increase wealth potential.

6. Be A Great Money Manager


Do you have a system for managing your money?

If you aren’t making as much as you’d like yet, it may seem easy to write the idea off. You just tell yourself you’ll think about it later when you have extra money to budget. But if you don’t take control of managing your income now, what will you do when you achieve the success you want?  

If you have a poor habit of managing your money, then there is a good chance you’ll still have a bad habit no matter how rich and successful you become. The answer is to first build the habit no matter how much money you earn because money management is one of the biggest differences between rich people and most middle class and broke people. It could make all the difference in whether or not you achieve success and increase wealth potential. 

7. Model Rich & Successful People


How many of us grew up with millionaires in our lives we could use as role models for success? Not too many, right?

The sad fact is that most of us just haven’t seen what it takes to achieve success and increase wealth potential. We can’t go to mom and dad and ask them for advice on how to become a millionaire because most of our parents aren’t millionaires… so how would they know?

Instead, it’s imperative to find people who are rich and successful – and study them to learn how they got there. 

You don’t have to meet these role models face-to-face to use this strategy. You just need to do your homework. Read their books and watch interviews they’ve done. Find out what you can about their past through biographies and news stories. Learn what their lives were like when they were at the same point in their journey that you are now. And then, do what they did. Model their approach.

8. Don’t Put A Limit On Your Income


If you have a job, you have a limit on your income. You automatically have a ceiling on what you can earn. If you want to get rich, you must get rid of all limits on your income. In most cases that means starting a business. 

However, a big mistake people make is when they start a business, they are the business. They are the ones who are solely responsible for the business succeeding or failing. Most small businesses and professionals are set up in a way that gives the owner such a vital role that without them present, the business is unable to function. That kind of setup is a mistake. And that’s the reason why so many small businesses remain small or unfortunately fail.

To be truly successful, your business needs to be able to run without you having a hand in every little thing. If you can step back and allow the systems you develop to run your business for you, even better! Once you step back and allow your business to run without you, there are no limits to the income you can earn.

Think about it – most jobs are based on an hourly rate, a salary, or a commission. That means you can only earn as much as you’re able to work. But when you step back and let your systems do the work for you, suddenly the number of hours in the day will no longer hold you back.

9. Stop Focusing On The Money, Focus On Solving Problems


A big problem I see with struggling business owners, entrepreneurs, professionals, and people transitioning from a job to owning their own business is that they are fixated only on themselves. Do I know enough? Will it work? Will I make enough money? Will they like me? And it goes on and on. However, this is the wrong approach. Stop focusing on yourself and start focusing on others.

Making money isn’t complicated. People will pay for something that solves a problem for them. It’s that simple. You can’t just start a business and hope it becomes successful, it has to have rhyme and reason. People get rich by building businesses that solve problems for others and earned a lot of money for it.

So, you need to shift your focus to being what Harv calls a “problem solver.” You need to decide what you can do to best help people. Money is a result of helping others and providing value to their life.

Think about your life right now. What are you paying for that is helping you solve problems in your life? To get rich you need to help a lot of people solve a problem. That’s the key to success.

This is also a valuable concept that I explain in more detail in my free web class, The 500 Million Dollar Secret. 

Click here to learn more.

10. Never Stop Learning


Finally, don’t make the mistake of thinking that once you’ve achieved a goal, you know everything there is to know! The most successful people in the world are committed to continuing to learn and grow.

Set aside time in your life (and money in your budget) to invest in programs that will teach you something new each day. You’ve probably heard the saying that “knowledge is power” – take it to heart!

So, now that you’ve read Harv’s top tips for wealth and success, what comes next?

Well, that depends… are you ready to learn some more advanced strategies and principles that will help you create wealth in your life? 

If so, then you’ll love my free web class called,

The 500 Million Dollar Secret

On this class airing, you’ll learn:

  • The 80-80-80-80 rule…when followed you’re virtually guaranteed to succeed.
  • How to get 10X more sales and make 10X more income from one slight change to your business model.
  • The 10-letter word that will practically hypnotize your prospects and customers and make them fall in love with you.
  • How to instantly eliminate all feardoubt, and non-supportive beliefs around the word “selling”
  • And much, much more!

Click here to register for my free class and select a date and time that works best for you.

How have you applied any of these 10 tips to achieve success and increase wealth potential in your life? Share in the comments below.

For Your Freedom,

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