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Road To Success: Learn From Your Mistakes

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The road to success is never straight. The textbook definition of “straight” is something that has no bends, angles or curves. Can we apply that same definition to life? Absolutely not. There really isn’t such thing as “straight” in the universe. At the core of everything, including us, is energy. Energy doesn’t travel straight, it travels in waves. Imagine throwing a pebble into a lake, watching the ripples gliding across the surface.

Right after you throw your pebble, someone else also tosses a pebble in the same lake, and now the ripples from that pebble collide with the ripples from yours. That’s how everything in this universe works.

Take Control: Create Your Road To Success

People and events are constantly colliding. This creates new pathways, situations, and actions. The chaos of life makes it almost impossible for anyone to always go “straight” to where they planned. Some people thrive on chaos and change, but most people don’t. They get frustrated, down, and ready to throw in the towel because they usually have expectations, and these expectations are usually almost impossible to meet.

We might as well just accept it: the road to success comes with twists, turns, ups, downs, stops and reverses. Once we really understand and accept this, we’re less likely to be deluded into having unrealistic expectations that there’s a straight line to the top. So when we come across bumps, flat tires, and raised bridges along the way, we won’t be so quick to get upset or give up. Getting off track is normal and therefore “perfect”.

The Ideal of Success and Perfectionism

You have to expect to spend a great deal of time making mistakes, or if it sounds better “making corrections”, on your road to success. There’s a reason why perfectionists have a hard time being highly successful. Perfectionism is a form of fear, based on fear of failure or the fear of disapproval.

If perfectionists don’t get it exactly right, then they don’t have to finish, follow through, and move on. They get to stay stuck “until it’s right”, but of course it’ll never be right. Perfectionists will never have to face the possibility of rejection or disappointment.

We need to consider mistakes as “feedback” rather than something to be avoided at all costs. Mistakes are our perfectly natural learning curve. They are the feedback we need to get ourselves back on track.

Take Action

We can do the same thing we already know we need to do in order to keep moving forward: Take action!

Those actions will produce results, and sometimes more mistakes. Then we just get that feedback, use it to correct our course again, and take more action. This is the non-linear cycle toward success. As long as you use this cycle , and persevere, it’s virtually impossible to fail.

Remember, we’re all ripples in the lake of the universe. You never know how a comment, observation, or shared experience can change the course of your life or another person’s life!

Exercise: Your Road to Success

  1. What are your stories about the ‘bumpy’ road to success? What unexpected events – totally beyond your control – have happened to you?
  2. How did you react? Did it set you back or help you move forward with new and better actions?
  3. How did you deal with the setbacks or successes?

Share your experience with us in the comments!

For Your Freedom,

For most people, the inevitable setbacks on the road to success can result in a lack of confidence and low self esteem, but it doesn’t have to be this way. So to help prevent this from happening to you, I created a free e-book called MindFrick, “Master The Inner World To Succeed In The Outer World”, that I’d like to give to you for free. Click here to download it now.

Listen To Your Intuition To Overcome Self-Doubt

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Have you ever had a gut feeling, and then you went against it? Think about those times when you were driving and you knew not to take a certain route, but you did anyway and ended up stuck in traffic. This is an instance when you didn’t listen to your intuition. Sometimes the consequences of ignoring our sixth sense can have even more dire consequences.

Why Listening To Your Intuition Is Crucial

In our culture, we don’t quite give the power of intuition its proper due. Of course, learning as much as you can about how to reach a goal leads towards success. However, there are other sources of intelligence within us that we tend to ignore. It’s the inherent wisdom of our spiritual nature that we should come to rely on. It’s deeper, instinctive, and more intuitive than simply thinking.

Intuition generally comes to us in feeling rather than logic. When a woman thinks “This guy gives me the creeps”, it usually pays for her to listen to her intuition. In the same way, when someone refuses to go along with the crowd, they are relying on something more than what the world praises as “smart” or intelligent.

Ask any really successful person, and they will tell you success comes as much from intuition as from the brain. How many millionaires do you think go along with the crowd, or listen to the “conventional wisdom” that everybody else is following toward sameness? If you’re not utilizing this incredibly powerful inner guidance system that is at your service 24-7, you might as well be going through life with one hand tied behind your back. Don’t do this to yourself. Instead, learn to listen to your intuition.

 

Maintain A Positive Mindset To Overcome Self-Doubt

The key is to quiet your mind when you are struggling with any thoughts of self-doubt. Meditation helps to focus the mind. Even trying to be really present in the moment without labeling things as good or bad, right or wrong can be helpful. Once the mind is quiet, wisdom can finally have its say.

You’ve probably experienced this unexplainable phenomenon when you were trying to remember something but couldn’t. Finally, you stopped trying to “figure it out” and later on, out of the blue, the answer popped into your head.

Your spirit knows what’s right for you. It knows what directions you need to take for your highest good and the good of others. The mind is an awesome tool that needs to be used, but it pales in comparison to the inner wisdom of your intuition. Trust in yourself. Trust in the Universe. Open up to your higher guidance, and have the courage to follow this guidance, even if it seems to defy logic, which is usually the case.

Exercise: Think of a time in your life where you listened to your intuition

  • Did you doubt yourself at first?
  • Did it prove to be the correct response?
  • What can you do to listen to your inner central spirit?

Share your thoughts about intuition below in the comments. 

This article has been updated for relevancy and accuracy. It’s original publish date was 05/21/10.

The Power of Gratitude: Avoid the Scarcity Model

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“Be grateful.” We hear this phrase all the time in a community of fellow seekers. After all, we all want to grow our financial success, and we all want to achieve spiritual peace. However, in these quests, we can lose track of what we already have. Throughout all of life’s highs and lows, this motto reminds us of the power of gratitude. No matter where we are in life, there is always something to be grateful for.

How the Scarcity Model Diminishes the Power of Gratitude

It’s easy to be grateful when it doesn’t really require a ton of effort, like saying “please” or “thank you.” Even when big things are going really well for us, it’s easier to pause and appreciate what we have around us. However, what about when things aren’t going quite as planned?

Everyone’s been there. The mind starts focusing on what’s wrong, what we are lacking, and what is just too much for us to deal with. We tend to overthink, making it even more difficult to overcome obstacles in order to reach our goals. In some ways, this is a natural response. When it becomes a habit, though, it can become a problem. At this point, the pity party is simply a safe choice rather than the right choice.

The truth is, it takes much more courage to appreciate what we have, no matter how little it may seem at the time. It’s much easier to surrender to the scarcity model and let ourselves off the hook from taking action because we feel like something isn’t enough. Our egos will tell us that if we spend too much time being grateful for what we have, we won’t try to get more, and we’ll become stuck being “content” instead of happy.

Avoiding the Scarcity Model

The scarcity model tells us that there simply aren’t enough resources to meet everyone’s wants and needs. At the end of the day, you may feel like you’re the one getting shorthanded. This isn’t necessarily the case though. By practicing the power of gratitude, you can avoid falling into the scarcity model trap.

Learning to appreciate what you currently have doesn’t mean you’re tricking yourself into “settling.” Just because you’re buying an economy car now because it’s more practical doesn’t mean you won’t want a Ferrari three years from now when you’re rich. Choose to be grateful that you own reliable transportation — regardless of whether or not it is flashy. There are plenty of people in this world that don’t have that at all.

The proactive mind continuously hungers for more, like a squirrel hoarding nuts for winter. The scarcity model allows us to constantly overlook and discount what’s right in front of us. To fight this, we have to consistently remind ourselves to look for what’s right in our lives instead of searching for what’s wrong.

With enough practice, we’ll be more likely to remember to show our appreciation to the people who are closest to us: our family, friends, loved-ones, co-workers, and employees. We’ll even start considering and appreciating the everyday strangers in our lives. From teachers to postal workers, these people make our day-to-day better and enrich our larger communities. Let’s not forget to say “thank you” to the Universe for our many blessings.

How Gratitude Affects Your Finances

Everyone should be grateful for and properly manage whatever wealth you have now, even if you don’t think it’s much. If you’re not appreciating what you already have, that means you’re not maximizing what’s available to you right now. If you can’t do that, then why should the Universe believe you can handle more?

Exercise: Power of Gratitude

Now that you’ve listened to me, I want you to put these ideas into practice. Declare your gratitude to the millionaire mind community with these simple steps:

  • Step 1: Think about things to be grateful for. To help, you can ask yourself these questions:
    • Who and what have you not fully appreciated?
    • What are some of the things that you tend to take for granted?
  • Step 2: List the people and things in your life for which you are grateful.
  • Step 3: Show your appreciation to the people who mean the most to you for all that you have.

For Your Freedom,
the power of gratitude

Maybe even after incorporating gratitude, you feel unhappy. If so, I want you to ask yourself these questions: Do you have everything that you want in life? Success? Inner peace? Amazing health? Fabulous relationships? If not, join me on one of my upcoming web classes, “Don’t Believe A Thought You Think,” where you’ll learn exactly how to have all the success, inner peace, health, relationships, etc. that you want and deserve.

Click here to reserve your free seat today!

the power of gratitude

Share in the comments your thoughts on the power of gratitude and the scarcity model.

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Finding Balance In Your Work and Personal Life

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In normal conversations when we use the word “balance,” we tend to think of balance being an even distribution. And in many cases, this is correct. But when it comes to your life or your business or career, this couldn’t be farther from the truth. Finding balance in your work life and personal life takes effort.

How To Find Balance In Your Life

I want you to say this phrase out loud: “Balance means equal attention given to both or to all…” Then I want you to say it again and remove the word “equal” because having equal attention in all things cannot and does not work in anyone’s life, including yours.

So if balance doesn’t work in equal proportions, then how does it work? We’ve talked a lot about the 80/20 rule or the Pareto principle. It says 20% of your activities will create 80% of your results. This means that 80% of what you do is wasted as far as the results you want are concerned.

So what do you do to find balance in your life?

  • Prioritize
  • Be productive
  • Separate different areas of your life

1. Prioritize

The first thing you must do is prioritize. You have to say, “What do I do that is productive, makes money and gives me joy?” The reality is most of our time is spent on frivolous, crappy stuff that doesn’t create real results.

Sometimes if I’m not careful, I can be on my email for four hours because I’m curious and think, “What does this financial letter say? What does this other guy say? What’s all of that about? What does he want over here?” I then catch myself and notice how many hours have gone by when I could have finished the emails I needed to do in 20 minutes.

2. Be Productive

That’s life. You have to discipline yourself to be productive.

3. Separate Your Life Into Sections

So how do you prioritize effectively so you can be productive? I want you to think about dividing a piece of paper into two sides, a left side and a right side. Most of our students are involved in a business, work, a career, or something where money or business is involved. So we’re going to put money and business on the left-hand side of the paper. On the right side, we’re going to put the rest of life. You might be thinking that that’s unbalanced, but it’s not.

Let’s take the money and business side, first. I’m going to share with you a big secret right now that not too many people know. I call it “The Big Kahuna”. The big kahuna means the “big thing”.


Determining Your “Big Kahuna” 

In your money and your business, what is the one big thing you can do that will have the most impactful effect and will create the biggest results for your business or career? It’s the ONE thing — not the ten things, five things, four, three or two things.

For my situation, I’ve been fortunate enough to do enormously well on my book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind. That book brought me a lot of clients and business from all over the world and has sold over 2 million copies in 43 languages. So, “The Big Kahuna” for me that would have the greatest impact would be writing another best-selling book, and that would be huge compared to everything else that I do on a day-to-day basis.

So, how much time should you dedicate to “The Big Kahuna”? 50% percent of all of my business time would go into my Big Kahuna. This may come as a shock to some of you reading this right now. But let me ask you this: Do you want greatness or do you want mediocrity? Do you want wealth or do you want to earn a living? If you want wealth, you have to work on “The Big Kahuna” and make it happen. That’s what will create greatness in your life.

Okay, what’s an example of a big kahuna for someone else who is in business?

I can tell you right now that 99% of every business problem lies in marketing and sales. If you are a great marketer, chances are you’ll make great money. If you’re a lousy marketer, chances are you’ll make lousy money.

I can tell you with absolute certainty that the most essential skill I have is the skill of marketing, and 99% of the time, that’s my big kahuna. In my experience, most people who are underachieving are not spending enough time on marketing. The reason is that they either don’t like it (very common), or they don’t know exactly what to do to make it work.

That is why we created our web class, The 500 Million Dollar Secret, to teach you exactly how to become a master at marketing. You can learn what common mistakes most people make and how you can avoid them. You’ll also get the opportunity to know exactly what I do in my own business to predict success.

Dedicating Time To Your Personal Life

For the right side of the paper (the rest of your life), how long does it take to have dinner with your family? It takes an hour a day. How long does it take to read a book to your kids and spend quality time with them? It can take an hour or less. How long does it take to work out? It takes half of an hour to an hour. You DO have time for everything else, and that’s the bottom line.

Exercise: Finding Balance Between Your “Big Kahuna” and Personal Life

Decide what your big kahuna is. If it isn’t marketing, then what is it? Come up with a plan to divide your time to create success in your personal life and your business or career. Leave a comment below and share your story with us!

For Your Freedom,

The 3 Biggest Life Lessons I Learned From My Dad, T. Harv Eker

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Jesse Eker shares life lessons taught by T. Harv Eker

Hi everyone! Jesse Eker here… As you can imagine, my dad, T. Harv Eker, has taught me a LOT — and a lot of my success comes from the habits he’s helped me create and the “life lessons” he’s taught me over the years.

A lot of these lessons have been shared with you through his teachings…

But I thought I would do something special today in light of Father’s Day (that happened several days ago), and share a video that we posted last year on the 3 specific lessons that I learned from my dad that have had the biggest impact on my life… And how they can serve you in your life too.

Enjoy!

NOTE: Click the audio button on the video to turn on the volume! 

In short, here are the top 3 biggest lessons I learned from my dad, T. Harv Eker:

  1. You’re paid based on the value you deliver.

  2. Always have integrity with yourself and with others.

  3. Correct and continue — take action, receive & evaluate feedback, and make the necessary corrections.

What are the biggest life lessons you learned from your dad or father figure(s) in your life?

Please comment below so we can all learn from each other. I look forward to hearing from you!

To Your Success,
Jesse Eker
Managing Director
Harv Eker International

 

 

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