Putting a Face on Frustration
When we get frustrated by our conditions, we inevitably end up becoming frustrated with ourselves. It can take us over and we tend to run with it. It can creep into every aspect of our lives, from how we relate to the people around us, to how it will impact our business.
If the frustration builds for too long, pretty soon we might forget altogether what the hell we were frustrated at in the first place, yes?
This happens in business all the time, especially when, in the early stages of the business, cash flow can fluctuate maddeningly, which then leads to all other kinds of frustrations from payroll to profits.
There’s an energy attached to frustration that sucks the life out of your business, and if you’re not dealing with this as a business owner, it’s only going to go downhill from there.
Moving back away from whatever the problem is, step one toward a solution is simply being able to classify your frustrations. Is it with your team? Your results? A process that doesn’t seem to flow efficiently?
Some typical early-stage business frustrations include time (there never seems to be enough of it), feeling like you’re too bogged down with menial detail-work instead of bigger-picture tasks, or relying on people to get things done that don’t follow through. Just to name a few.
This is where the importance of systemizing your business processes plays a huge role. First you name your frustration, and then you develop the system to address it.
So if you’re having problems with freeing up your time yet ensuring that essential tasks still get done, then the real problem is the absence of a system that will hire the right people rather than you doing it all yourself. That way, not only is your time freed up, but the right people will also help micro-manage the way processes continue to develop and flow.
The good news is that frustrations within your business are fairly easy to identify and deal with, though they may take time. Inner frustrations, on the other hand, not only take more time and energy to deal with, but may also be harder to identify in the first place. You could be mad at yourself because you’ve done something poorly for so long, and you get frustrated about not seeming able to turn the corner. Or worse, you externalize that frustration toward everybody else—the customers, the suppliers, the vendors, the client; everybody but yourself.
We know the power of blueprints, so we won’t address that here.
When it comes to outer frustrations that we can identify, though, the questions are much simpler. What’s my frustration? What’s the gap in the system? What system is missing altogether?
If your frustrations begin with ‘I’, it’s about you. It’s inner directed. If it’s about ‘them’ or ‘those people’ or ‘those lousy clients’ or ‘those suppliers’ or ‘that lousy machinery’ or ‘that way’ of doing something, it can then be addressed systematically and objectively.
What do you think? Have you experienced similar or even different kinds of frustrations, and how did you address them? Did systemizing play a role? The Millionaire Mind Community wants to hear from you!
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I read your book and loved it, i am now saying my self talk often, i am a mentor with a servants heart and i have a Millionaire mind.
” Discipline weighs ounces, Regret weighs TONS!”, Isn't that what Jim Rohn teaches us.
Ever since I have taken, volunteered at MM I, Train the Trainer 1 & 2, I have learned to deal with frustration, that is the key, understand, accept and deal with and move on.
Thank you Harv for reminding us of this on your Blog, Good Job, look forward to spending more time with PP in 2012.
Peak Potentials motivated me to set up Kitchen Sales Coach, years ago. If you have not been to a MMI, Go, it is life changing! Thanks Harv.
It is a part of my “Inner Game of Selling”
Well put Harv frustration can be heavy especially if one is not even self aware put a name to it , see the questions one is asking oneself, deal with it and then ask what's next. Love your work Harv. MMI has really impacted my life especially as I had so much stuff around money. See you in December in London
This was VERY timely for me, as I just was saying to someone yesterday how “frustrated” I was feeling – not just with my business, but in other areas of my life, too. I appreciate the tips and am feeling ready to move through my frustration and on to AMAZING things – personally AND professionally. Thank you Harv!!!
One thing I do to analyze my frustration and put it in perspective is ask myself this? Is it high, medium or low in significance? High mean disastrous and I need to deal with the issues now before the worsen. If it's medium that means it's manageable, and I can work on it easily enough without urgent time pressures. If it's low, that means it's really just inconvenient, and I can handle it (as in 'hey I've dealt with this before!) These measures help me deal with frustrations as they hit so I can face them and move them off my plate (or at least over.)
I just want to echo what Jess says about other areas of life. Frustrations and the need to develop systems to deal with them come up just as often in family life and parenting. Then again, our roles as parents and/or caregivers to our own parents, can be just like running a business! Keeping that machine running smoothly on all cylinders requires constant attention, doesn't it?
Thanks, Harv!
Thank you Mr. Eker for reminding us that we are all human, after all . . . that we all experience similar problems and frustrations. What makes you so different is that you teach us so well how to identify and cope with these issues. You provide a platform that frees us up to further explore our Millionair Mind and allows us to move forward beyond these issues.
I totally agree with frustration zapping energy. I cannot find a way to systemize that fact that even though we had never missed a payment our lender called our notes due to commercial real estate values going down. they expect us to come up with cash we simply do not have. This has been going on for a year. So we have two options, work with them on a short term solution that will almost guarantee another round of frustration or walk away and start over. Neither are our preference.
Your comments were right on the target. My frustrations were in most cases starting by their, they …So it makes me thinking to change they by I and it is not easy to make a sentence.
Thank you. Harv…
I am really grateul of the lessons. Very useful, very awakening. Thanks a lot and yo continue to be blessed.
I personally feel that the frustration is the outcome of the gap between what was ought to be done and what have been done. In order to analyze, define and understand the frustration, that gap which is the source of that frustration, must be put on a broad spectrum and studied in details. It is something like identifying the right track which had been erred due to various reasons, and again getting on to it and move on to get the desired outcome. This process will not only help us to come out of frustration, but also change the way we feel about ourselves, thus putting us on the way to the furtherance of our goals…..
taking your course in vancouver this weekend and i am so happy to find my inner blueprint…thanks harv
Thanks Harv. I work for one of your graduates and he is a big time system believer. In fact I have never seen him fustrated with is business and I have only been a very few times. However I am very fustrated with a business venture that I started and I know the fustrations are with myself
TThankyou harv but now I frustation because I can't find a girl to be my wife.
TH,
I feel going within and being still is the quickest and easiest way to let these inner frustrations arise. Harboring negative energy is the quickest way to kill your opportunity: I know this from running my gifting team for years. I held onto negative energies surrounding how I shared the opportunity, the negative energies I had to deal with, from people who were unclear on their choice of business, and a general lack of prosperity flowing in.
Being quiet and meditating throughout the day let these frustrations arise. I had to own them. I had to take responsibility for them. Being still quiets your mind, so you can hear the little chatter, making it easier to name your exact frustration. Once you label the energies, you gotta own them. Take full responsibility for the emotions, face, embrace and release them, and you can be free of them.
Proceed to work out an action plan to address these areas of your business, and life, because we know what's happening in personal life can easily spill into your business, and vice-versa. Few people are good enough to keep their emotions from each area, separate.
Thanks for sharing TH!
RB
Frustration is a symptom that means you are ready to grow and expand into something much bigger and better. You need to identify what has hooked you into this experience, lack of a system, loss of focus, inability to be quiet and still with patience to allow your idea to evolve. We are designed to adapt to our environment and it never works the other way around. All outer experiences are neutral until we attach our meaning to them. Turn your feelings of frustration into opportunity for emotional, intellectual and mental growth that will allow insight to see a new doorway and “poof” the percieved obsticle is gone.
Dear Litt
Depression and frustration are related to each other.Q is where they came from.Most of the time people getting fed up from there happy life.Then they look for to get out from that life and start some thing bigger more than there asset or approach,and not easy to find the success cause depreesion frustration.
Depreesion frustration is very important in human life.Without their existence,we cant find the right path in life.People only learn more lesson in life from Incidents and accidents.
Thank you for a superb contribute – T. Harv!
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Sir, I had some frustrations in my business and one way I dealt with it initially and to a good extent even now is that I give up things over which I have no control and execute the things which I control with whatever I can do best in that moment. I have found it very uplifting.
I listened to mr. Eker and I was thkniing about all my life. How it is going now, what was done before I found that I could do more, much more then I’m doing now Thank you for these videos, these words
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