You Are Who You Say You Are, So If You Don’t Like It…Change It
Let’s say you’re a juror in a courtroom, and you know the person on trial is absolutely guilty. All of the evidence points to them. The jury’s just about to break for deliberations, but at the last second, the defendant’s lawyer comes in and says, “Everybody wait. Before you go, I have one more witness.”
That witness comes up and says, “I’m sorry. I was scared. I didn’t know what to do. I did it. No, they didn’t force me to confess. Here’s how I did it and framed this poor person on the bench right now. I did it. I feel terrible, but now I finally have to own up to it.”
As a juror, do you find the first person guilty? Of course not, because you now have some new evidence. You change your belief about the person on trial.
Guess what? The same goes for us. You can change your belief about yourself and your life.
One belief that I see over and over again among many of my students is the belief that, “I’m not a big deal.” Somebody at some point in their lives ran them down, made them feel less than worthy, or eroded their esteem in ways that happen on purpose and accidentally.
I actually saw this sign in a spiritual store recently that said, “I have to admit, I’m kind of a big deal.” It is not some selfish, egotistical, narcissistic thing to make yourself relevant in this universe’s plans. It’s not saying be obnoxious and overbearing toward other people. It’s saying don’t sell yourself short.
Isn’t your life that important? Aren’t you important to anyone? If not, at least be important to you. At least be a model so that you can help other people that are in your position. Change your story about yourself. Offer up some new supporting evidence.
It’s much easier to say “Change your story” than “Change your life.”
I always highly recommend getting coaching from others because your coach will support you. Your coach will help you with the “It’s not a big deal” syndrome.
You write your life and say, “I’m not worth it.” Fine, you’re not worth it. You wrote that. You created it. You think it, so it’s true. Whatever you think is actuary.
“I’ll be worthy if I have $1 million in the bank, or if I have the two most perfect children in the world. I’ll be worthy if I have a husband or wife who loves me. I’ll be worthy if I have a brand new car or if my job has status.”
That’s all BS. None of that is going to make you worthy because if you say you’re worthy, you are. If you say you’re not worthy, you’re not. That’s the only thing that makes you worthy.
I’m worthy! “Cool! What did you have to do for it?”
Nothing. I just had to be born and breathe. “You can’t just do that! ”
Where are the rules that say I can’t do that? “It’s in the rule book: you can’t say you’re worthy and be worthy!”
Really? Show me where it says that?!
Change the conversation with yourself. You set the rules.
Who is the referee in your life? You are. Who’s the judge? You are. Who’s the timekeeper in the game of your life? You are. Who’s the player? You are.
You’re everything. How could you lose this game? There’s nobody else playing but you!
Repeat that…There’s nobody else playing but you! Let that marinate a bit and really soak it in.
Make up a different story if you need to feel and be worthy, to be a big deal that gets big deals done! You’re going to make up a story one way or the other. You might as well make up one that says that you’re worthy!
True or true?
Tell us what you think! What are some of the ways in which we let ourselves believe that we’re not worthy of what we really want in life? Do any of your stories stem from past experiences? Share your stories; we want to hear from you!
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I register for web class on dec18. I donot know where can I look during study class?
Been following you for some time…excited, and ready for another great webinar!
Love it! Great reminder : )
As always Harv’s message hits the nail on the head. Its amazing how powerful words are, if we tell ourselves something enough be it good or bad it eventually it will become our reality. Thanks Uncle Harv!
So ABC and yet so powerful.It got me really thinking. I am imagining myself coming to a fork on the road. The left option says “I’m not worthy” and the right one says “I’m worthy.” I would certainly not want to spend the rest of my life on a road where every sign is telling me how unworthy I am. Quite thought provoking! Thanks Harv.
TRUE!!
Until we get uncomfortable about being comfortable with being uncomfortable, we won’t change!
Hi, Wow awesome timing just before the Holiday season, when many of us are contributing in their own way to make others feel important ! This lesson, on my birthday makes it “my day” even more special. Thanks so much for this eye opener. It comes as a gift. We are all blessed to be alive. All the best to All of you in 2016 😉
Difficult to feel worthy when facing adverse circumstance such as poverty, illness or imprisonment etc. I’ve found prayer helpful.
This is very inspiring and spiritual.Just like the lessons learnt in the ever green book tittled think and grow rich.
its beautiful to feel your force when you write. But again, it is you not me. I will think about your words.
Thank you from Brazil
Wise words from Harv! Unfortunately many people like me are brainwashed by their religions into believing that they are born sinners, losers, bad people etc and that they have to be totally subservient to some imaginary god that will determine how their life will play out. One needs to let go of this imaginary dictator who rules your life before you can “change your story”
The Christ I serve, states that, “I have come that they may have life and life more abundantly.” Christ also came as a servant, healing the sick and bringing relief to the demon possessed etc. God and Christ exist in a sinless state wanting to give eternal life to those who are created in their image. I serve a loving, all-powerful God who warned out first parents against sinning. We don’t have to walk around with fear, low self-esteem, or even debilitating anxiety lwhen we sin. We make changes to better out lives toward peace, being on purpose, forgiven to a heavenly parent that wants us to learn lessons. A child caught misbehaving and punished never turns around and says to the parent because I received a reprimand from you, you now cease to exist. Food for thought.
thanks Harv, confidence building as always. Since i started with you over a year ago i have taken this lesson to heart in different ways but am still learning and still changing the self talk. i know i am worthy now and i don’t seek others to approve of me.
Harv, I am kinda a BIG deal and you are kinda just the cats pyjamas! Wild
Harv, thank you for the reminder. It is so easy to forget what is most important. Best wishes to you and your family for the festive season.
Luv Ya Harv. It is so cool to read what you write. I love that you are not slinging any BS. Very refreshing! Rock On!
Luv Ya Harv. It is so cool to read what you write. I love that you are a straight-shooter. NO BS. It’s so refreshing. Rock On!
I feel most times, but then something silly happens and I feel unworthy… Why! oh why!
There is a saying that if you want to eat a frog better eat the one with eggs. So if I want to live this life better live it to the fullest, make it the most fulfilling and aim’ as high as possible. Only got one life to live and have to live it just once. What’s worth doing or should I say living is what doing or living well. Thanks Harv.
TRUE TRUE
‘There is nobody playing but me, it’s just not possible to lose.’ 100% resonates with me, loved reading it. Reminded me of where I once was & how far i’ve come.
Thank you. Looking forward to more of your shares 🙂
True or true? TRUE!
Thanks Harv
always believe. i am worthy