The Fastest Way To Build Confidence And Have Everlasting Success

Most people don’t trust themselves.
Why would you have a fear about anything if you trusted yourself that you could get through it no matter what? You wouldn’t. I’d say 99% of people do not trust themselves.
Trust, like anything else, comes from repetition. Trust is a habit. Let me give you an example.
I had a car in the late ‘60s. In those days I couldn’t afford a great car. I had to buy a used one.
When it was cold, the chances of my car starting were about 50/50. You had to go out early, try to start your car and see if it would start. Even when it started when it was cold out, it would stall almost 50% of the time when you were driving it.
I was scared to death every time I got in the car. “Is it going to start or am I going to get to school or not?” I didn’t know.
And when I say scared about my car working right, you think my fear stopped once I got out of the car? It didn’t. It was embarrassing; it made me more overall nervous about myself.
Today, do you think I trust that my car is going to start? Yes, I do because it’s started a thousand times in a row. And I haven’t had any issues with it.
So how do you learn to trust something? By having that result repeat again and again. Pretty soon you expect the result, so you trust it.
Now how do you learn to trust yourself? By getting the same result again and again until you say, “Of course I trust this result. I expect it. I trust that this situation is going to happen.”
Start with one tiny little win. I’m talking about smaller goals. It’s one tiny win. That’s all.
When people learn not to trust themselves, it’s usually because they’re taking on too much.
If you want to actually follow through on a New Year’s resolution like, say, losing some weight to look and feel better–and it’s been years since you’ve paid attention to this sort of thing–forget about exercise routines and healthy eating plans, for now, if they’ve never worked before. How about trying just one new habit?
How about a healthy meal, one meal? It’s not two, two days, two meals or two weeks. It’s not a plan. Can you commit to one healthy meal?
What would one healthy breakfast look like? How hard is that? You’re not looking at a lunch. You just say, “Tomorrow for breakfast I’m having a healthy shake.” You do. That’s your breakfast. Then you can eat lunch two hours later and decide then what choice you’re going to make.
Then experiment with that for a week, and maybe give yourself two days off of doing it–maybe you choose to, maybe you don’t. The point is not to make this about pressure, at first. Small wins here matter more than the big picture ahead. Trust that you’ll get to that.
All you started with was one healthy breakfast, and you set it up so you could win. When you win, you gain confidence. When you gain confidence, you gain trust. Get enough small wins, then you take on bigger goals.
I swear you’ll realize one day, “Wow, I’ve been doing this for weeks, and it really wasn’t that hard. Now I’m ready for… ” whatever that is for you.
Whatever the goal, it’s all the same. If you’re not trusting yourself in one area of your life, chances are it’s affecting multiple if not all areas. The content just changes. This time it’s eating. The next time it’s business. The next time it’s the kids.
The truth is that if you trusted yourself a lot of the issues you have in your life would just disappear.
Tell us what you think. Does any of this ring true for you? Share your experiences with the subject of learning to trust oneself. We want to hear from you!
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so true! small wins make things easier to do. My resolution of this year is to workout everyday for at least 10 minutes. Its a small win if i work out 10 minutes, most likely after a few weeks i will increase the time when i figure out that I can do more because it really isn’t that hard! Thank you Harv!
You are pretty right about trusting oneself.
Going from not exercising at all to exercising everyday for ten minutes is huge. I’m not trying to be a blow hard here, but I think you missed the point T. Harv is making. Scheduling one or two workouts per week is more reasonable for someone who doesn’t exercise or hasn’t done it for a long time. In fact, if you listen to what you wrote it doesn’t sound like you’re confident in achieving it yourself. I hope I’m wrong because I sincerely wish you all the best. Make 2016 your best year yet!
Sometimes when I faced big challenges in life I did not believe in myself that I would overcome the challenges I faced… I was and always fortunate to have mentors who always give me emotion and mental supports to me in both bad and great times…
Thank you so much, T Harv Eker International. Your books and your lessons changed my life . Gratefully thanks.
Thank you so much T Harv Eker International. Your book (Secrets of a millionaire mind) and your lessons change my life. Gratefully thank.:))
Excelent Harv, thank you for sharing. I think this is totally true and for myself I have witness it works. Just one action, one “little” victory can star a habit and a transfomation. Today you have awake the idea of increase trust in myself, thanks a lot for that. God bless you.
So true. I have had failures in business and it affected all areas. I lacked confidence in myself. But when I decided to take on smaller tasks I decided to celebrate the small wins and this has boosted my confidence. It works
This is so true and also how you build trust in relationships, by continuously proving you are kind and reliable. Equally if you are continually mean and yelling don’t be surprised that you ‘proved’ that you weren’t a good partner and they left you! When I’ve found life difficult, I’ve just done things in 5 minute chunks, literally. This gives you the confidence you can cope with anything, and the self belief to believe in yourself, even if no-one else does.
So True, starts with a small thing and will become part of your rotine, then, comes to another steps, and goes on and on..Thank’s Harv.
Pequeñas victorias representan cada ladrillo de una gran construcción. En mi caso las pequeñas victorias que estoy viviendo este año es leer diariamente 30 minutos sobre temas específicos de estrategias de negocios.
Thank you T. Harv Eker
Gracias por tan valiosa información…
Very good, as always!
The Universe always gives us exactly what we need, when we need it, to overcome any situation.
Verdade absoluta! Muito importante para mim ler nesse momento esse texto.
Vertrauen in mich beim 1. Buch das ich schrieb, gab mir Vertrauen für die weiteren Bücher. Danke!
Small wins every day becomes big wins, as simple as that. Thank you!!
Zap! You nailed it again Harv! See you tonight for Tough Love!
Hello Harv,
I have been reading and listening you past 4 months and have to say that life has been changing 🙂 dramatically 🙂 I have savings…first time in my life 🙂 and I committed to learn and do good every day. Thank you very very much for everything!
Thanks Harv! Awesome advice as usual!
Excellent! Thank You!
Thank you very much Harv! this rang very true for me. As a sole parent I often take on too much and, your right, it does result in not trusting in myself. This part literally rang in my ears. I seem to have lost complete trust in myself and my abilities, which I need to work of getting that trust back. One foot in front of the other, one habit at a time. Thank you for taking the time to write this and share your knowledge. Appreciated!! 🙂
Thank you T. Harv Eker for sharing. What I needed to see. What I’ve never believed in ….. was in Myself. This has picked me up inside myself ☺️
Absolutely right. I have enrolled on a course and this evening had a negative thought that I will not follow through because I’ve failed to follow through on past courses I enrolled on. But this time, the better side of me had an answer ready – Just because I have failed in the past doesn’t mean I can’t succeed this time”. Am all geared up. I believe in myself to do good by me. Thanks Harv, as usual, You’re Awesome!!!
You are so right. Tank you for that gettind confidence in our selves exercises models. God bless you!
You are amazing. I totally love this way of wining and thinking. I thanks God for you life and your courage. I have read your books millionar mind and listening it twice per month every single time learn something new. I had attended your seminary MMI and bless you for that. I become a quatum leap package and I have attend train the trainer and warriors camp. This has not only help me to raise my confidence but also my finances, my relationship and more important my mission in life. I have not words to thank you for having this courage to create this amazing programs I will do it again and again. With all my gratitude to you Linda Salas
I agree with this article out of my own experience. 4 months ago a started a morning routine that includes exercise. I started off with 10 sit-ups, 10 push-ups and 5 min run. Today I am doing 120 of each with a 19 min run. Just get started with baby steps and build on it! Thank you for your great articles and lessons T.Harv Eker. I love it!
So true. Small wins gradually build confidence and make us trust ourselves more. Good thoughts! Thanks Harv!
It’s great Harv, the auto confidence must be at a own pace, most people get confuse by taking a lot of goals impress their friends and family, but end frustrate. Thanks a world for this advices !!!
I like this – small wins build confidence. I guess we all know this but needed the reminder of putting it into practice. Thank you.
dear Danielle, I started doing exercices 6 weeks ago. every day for at least 8 minutes and I am still doing it (now 20 to 30 minutes 😉 and I love it cause I feel that also small steps are bringing me good results… I do work with the free App goalify https://goalifyapp.com/en/plan-track-and-succeed/
This is such a good reminder – 3 goals are free. good luck and have fun in reaching your goals.
It is true about believe in yourself to make things happen, to cope with more difficult situations!
When you do not trust in yourself, you project, you cast or you send this image on others and things around you, and the result is they will not trust you ever and things start to become more complicated for you
Altimate…Thanks for sharing
T. Harv, you are simply amazing. I love your wisdom and have gained so much from practicing these simple changes. Thank you!
I bealive, I doit, is the truth.
Thanks
i have a daily commitment of listening a full hour of a positive thinking audio-book.
I am on week two an i feel that my way to think is changing somehow.
I feel more trust on me as time pass, if Harv can do it i can do it, you can do it.
Just as you say, Milton Erikson used to say that one small change can lead to big changes… Thanks for the bigger plan, one small step at the time xxxx
شكرا جزيلا T حارف ايكر الدولية. كتابك (أسرار العقل المليونير) ودروسك تغيير حياتي. نشكر بامتنان. :))
Hello T.Harv Eker.!This is wondeful.After read this I feel more confident about myself. Look back and I feel I have ability to handle any problem I had.No reason to fear.!Thank you T.Harv Eker! I will read all your lessons.It really valued