Why Being Best Friends With Yourself Is Crucial To Happiness and Success

love yourself written in sand on beach

I’ve spent the better portion of my life, over 40 years, in high-achievement mode. I’ve definitely been trained to prepare, think, be logical, fight, be the warrior and do whatever it takes.

Yet, the more I learn about the Wizard in me, the more I learn about being in the present moment, the better I do, and the less stress I have.

Being committed to success is one thing, but it isn’t your life. If it is your life, you’ve got a big problem because what if you’re not as successful as you’d like to be?

Let me tell you that after over 40 years and being successful for 30 of those years, I know the difference in the mistakes I made before when I was broke versus how I am now, which is a lot richer and a lot happier.

Yes, being committed is helpful. Doing whatever it takes is helpful, but equating it to your life esteem, self-worth or worthiness is not appropriate, and that’s what I was doing.

Life is life, and you need to be grateful for every moment that you have, whether you’re ultra-successful, moderately successful, a little successful or not very successful at all. You need to be grateful for the breath that you’re getting.

When you’re grateful and happy with where you are no matter what level of success you’re at, you will emit and express an energy of happiness. That’s a high energy, and people will want to be around you. You will attract people toward you. Remember, where do you get all of your money? You get it from other people.

Money is challenging to get when you’re a jerk. Money is challenging to get when you’re in fear. Money is challenging to get when you’re overly stressed and nobody wants to be around you.

Today I can smell it on people because I’m successful. I can smell the fear, the lack of confidence, and the lack of self-esteem. You’re either attracting people or you are repelling them. It’s one or the other.

Maybe you’re saying, “Harv, you’re talking to me. What should I do?”

Make Friends With Yourself.

Think about it. If you had a friend that treated you the way that you treat you, you would never be their friend. If you had a friend that kept on putting you down as your mind does; a friend that kept on hurrying you or a friend that kept on looking for what’s wrong with you, would you be their friend? NEVER.

You would think this person is a jerk, but it’s okay if you do it, right? No, it’s not okay.

The fact is most of us don’t know about friendship with ourselves, especially unconditional friendship with ourselves.

From here on in, put down the stick. Drop the whip. Whips don’t work. Sticks don’t work. Stop beating yourself up with what you think you should be like, could be like, what it would be nice to be like, or all these expectations that you have of yourself. Be kind to yourself.

People say to me all of the time, “Harv, how do I be successful?” I say, “If you want to be a success, then you need to be the success. You need to smell like a success.”

That doesn’t mean a lot of money right this minute necessarily. That doesn’t mean a perfect life right now necessarily. It means I’m okay, as I am, right here right now. I’m good. It’s all good. Life is good. I appreciate it. I’m grateful for it. I focus on the good in my life not the bad.

Whether it takes a little longer or a little shorter, sincerely being your best friend is going to start to empower you, and that empowerment is going to bring out an energy of success in you. When you have that…new ideas, new people, and new opportunities will come to you.

It’s time to start becoming your biggest cheerleader! What tools, sayings or strategies help you stay positive? Share your stories in the comments below, we want to hear from you!

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