Are You Creating A Problem That Isn’t There? How To Immediately Get Rid Of Overwhelm And Stress In Your Life

So now that that first month of the New Year is over, how does it feel?
I hope that it’s feeling great for you; that you’ve adapted to the natural progression of change that the new year brings us. I hope that if you had a resolution that was important for you to keep…that it’s going well.
For some, the holiday honeymoon is over and we’re back to reality and the same challenges that came with the end of last year. The stress and overwhelm that come for many with the holiday season just didn’t end.
I see this in comments from the community; expressions of overwhelm and unworthiness from smart, educated, driven people who feel like they “should” be successful.
I hear of people divorcing and the pressures of subsequent single parenting. Lots of debt out there; people moving back in with their parents; sporadic income. The pressures can seem unbearable.
The good news is that we create these problems for ourselves, usually. There are times of course when life can blindside us through no control of our own. Fortunately that’s not always the case. The bad news is folks have to stop playing that comfortable role of a victim.
Regardless of our circumstances, the way you feel is the way you feel. If you feel frazzled, it’s because you’re confused and you’re out of the present moment.
When you are out of the present moment, “bad things will happen.” Why? It’s because your conditioned self takes over, your habitual self. Every part of you that isn’t your true and higher self takes over when you are not in the present.
You cannot feel overwhelmed when you are in the present. You cannot feel frazzled in the present. If you’re in the present moment, you’re only going to feel peace. In that moment it’s very hard to feel anything negative.
Why would someone feel overwhelm? It means you feel like too much is going on, but what’s happening here? Is it that too much is going on, or is it that you are thinking too much is going on?
What I end up telling a lot of students is that you’re making this worse than it really is, regardless of the situation.
What if we were simply factual, with no judgments, no criticisms and no mind-frick?
When we don’t feel good about ourselves, everything externally becomes a problem and turns to shit. When we do feel good about ourselves, nothing is a problem and everything is rosy. Even if it looks like a problem, it’s not a problem to you.
Don’t make things problems that aren’t the problem. You’ve got to take one thing at a time.
You have to let go of the problem and take responsibility for it.
Then pick one thing you can work on. Focus very heavily on it in a very positive way. Be positive or be neutral.
Take a nice, deep breath; be grateful for everything in your life and start working on your business, or your body, or your relationship, or whatever that resolution was.
Have the goal that by the end of this coming year that you’re going to work towards getting everything you want in life and an exact plan on how to keep at it. Hopefully you have a Life Makeover coach…but if you don’t…
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Tell us what you think. Have you had moments where you created a problem that wasn’t there? How do you overcome your problems? Share your stories… we want to hear from you!
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Very true. It is our perception of the problem that determines its magnitude. I find the best way to ‘reset’ your stress level to zero is to close your eyes and take deep cleansing breaths focusing inward on your lungs expanding. With each breath, think the words ‘All is well in my life’. Do this until you feel calm. Then open your eyes and think of something that is good in your life and be grateful for it. If you absolutely can’t think of anything, then be grateful for the air in your lungs. This will put everything back into perspective.
Thanks for this great article. Living the present is a very old tradition, and we still haven’t learnt it! I keep telling that to may students when they’re learning Spanish and lot of past problems and fears come to their minds, we have to empty them and go for what we want now, not later, and definitely not before.
Yep – the problem is not the problem
As a coach, I find that by sharing this same content – take responsibility- it allows for the mind shift. You, are the problem, but, you are also the solution
Thank you for the reminder. I see this so much in others and should have remembered that they are only mirroring myself.
Great and simple! Thanks! 🙂
Thank you!
I HAVE CREATED PROBLEMS THAT WEREN´T THERE AAAALL MY LIFE FOR NOTHING I FEARED IN THOSE DAYS HAS COME TRUE! WHAT A WASTE OF ENERGY, AND ADRENAL HORMONES THE CORTISOL DOING ITS HARM EVERY DAY! I WATCHED SOPHIA RICOTTI´S – AND SHE EXPLAINS EXACTLY WHAT YOU T HARV EKER ARE SAYING! SHE SAYS – ANALYZE RIGHT NOW , WHAT IS HAPPENING TO YOU RIGHT NOW!!? AND THE ANSWER IS JUST NOTHING, BUT WE ARE SO MECHANIZED, SO CONDITIONED TO NOT TO SEE THIS SO, WE ARE TORTURED BY OUR GOSTS OF THE PAST, AND OUR FEARS OF THE FUTURE AND THE PRESENT,, WE ARE JUST NOT THERE. SO SOPHIA RECOMMENDS -BE VERY PRESENT IN THE PRESENT. AND NOWWW COMING FROM T HARV EKER THAT FOR ME IS LIKE A DEAREST FRIEND NOT ONLY AND NOT EVEN FOR COUCHING ON BECOMING MILLIONAIRE (VS VICTIM) BUT HIS WAY OF SEEING LIFE THAT IS TO ENJOY! REGARDLESS OF THE EXACT FINANTIAL STATUS ONE IS ON RIGHT NOW. THANK YOU FOR THIS WISE NUTSHELL OF ADVICE TO REMIND US THAT WE DON´T LIVE THE PRESENT AND CREATE MONSTERS WHERE THEY ARE NOT!! A BIG HUG FROM MEXICO TO YOU AND YOUR SON AND YOUR WIFE AND REST OF YOUR FAMILY AND STAFF!! I JUST FEEL AMAZING TODAY!!!
Thank you! I feel so relieved after reading this–not that it’s anything we haven’t heard before, but you have an uncanny knack of phrasing it sequentially that’s sensible & brilliant at the same time. I have been overwhelmed by blindsiding experiences, illnesses, etc., but when you remember the one step at a time/present moment attitude, coupled with positivity, it’s easier.And of course, once one problem starts to “get better,” it’s impetus to keep going for more! This teacher likes to keep learning & growing–thanks again, you’re heaven-sent!
Thank you for the reminder Harv. This is awesome!
Dude, you are so spot-on. I’ve been trying to practice this more often in my life.
Thank you Mr. Harv
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This is wonderful Harv, I used to have a lot of fears, worries and anxiety about the future, ever since I took the 3 day life makeover, I have seen a whole lot of changes, I am not yet financially free but I feel free every moment of my life. I look forward to have one of your wonderful life coaching section, because I know and believe that it will propel me greatly and faster to my goal. Presently am creating my long delayed bookstore, am under a network marketing company and I am also creating my own personal blog. How wonderful is Harv. Thank you.
I had a fracking moment today. I now can analyze my reaction and just smile the next time someone honks at me for blocking traffic. I walk slow with a cane.
You teach recovery principles for frustrated and overwhelmed entrepreneurs. I can see a change in my life as I approach each day with new clarity, focus, simplification and commitment to the next step.
thanks you, this is very helpful, I enjoyed reading it you make my day
Harv
I’ve been reading your stuff for quite awhile now.
It is impressive how you take a message that’s been delivered before, by many great teachers, and present the lesson in such a way, that it feels like the first time ive heard the gold nugget .
Simple message. Heard it million different ways. I’m closing this message with excitement about being alive. Thanks much!
gracias harv,por recordarme esto tan importante ¡vive en el ahora!.
y queria hacerle una peticion…
me encantaria hacer el sistema de 7 pasos pero no hablo ingles,podrian subtitularlos ¿por favor?
Good evening. I truly like this topic of self made thinking Ever since my children’s father joined the military almost 25 yrs ago people have been calling me stupid, crazy, dumb because i chose not to go after him for child support. I struggled with my family though they kept me on my toes. Taking meaningless jobs just to get by. My thoughts had me at ‘ you don’t need him or his money, you have your own’. But I dont, I didn’t I tried almost everything too grasp what’s due to me but something kept holding me back making me feel i didn’t deserve my self worth. After reading about T. Harv Eker for awhile i started feeling better too conquer my inner child and go for mines. Its not an easy road though, I just learn stop excepting failure. Im on my way, my back child support is in process, i got a newer job, I’m making plans to move to a nicer area and home and the negative chatter had subsided some. Yes I’m ready to join the winning team!