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So now that that first month of the New Year is over, how does it feel?

I hope that it’s feeling great for you; that you’ve adapted to the natural progression of change that the new year brings us. I hope that if you had a resolution that was important for you to keep…that it’s going well.

For some, the holiday honeymoon is over and we’re back to reality and the same challenges that came with the end of last year. The stress and overwhelm that come for many with the holiday season just didn’t end.

I see this in comments from the community; expressions of overwhelm and unworthiness from smart, educated, driven people who feel like they “should” be successful.

I hear of people divorcing and the pressures of subsequent single parenting. Lots of debt out there; people moving back in with their parents; sporadic income. The pressures can seem unbearable.

The good news is that we create these problems for ourselves, usually. There are times of course when life can blindside us through no control of our own. Fortunately that’s not always the case. The bad news is folks have to stop playing that comfortable role of a victim.

Regardless of our circumstances, the way you feel is the way you feel. If you feel frazzled, it’s because you’re confused and you’re out of the present moment.

When you are out of the present moment, “bad things will happen.” Why? It’s because your conditioned self takes over, your habitual self. Every part of you that isn’t your true and higher self takes over when you are not in the present.

You cannot feel overwhelmed when you are in the present. You cannot feel frazzled in the present. If you’re in the present moment, you’re only going to feel peace. In that moment it’s very hard to feel anything negative.

Why would someone feel overwhelm? It means you feel like too much is going on, but what’s happening here? Is it that too much is going on, or is it that you are thinking too much is going on?

What I end up telling a lot of students is that you’re making this worse than it really is, regardless of the situation.

What if we were simply factual, with no judgments, no criticisms and no mind-frick?

When we don’t feel good about ourselves, everything externally becomes a problem and turns to shit. When we do feel good about ourselves, nothing is a problem and everything is rosy. Even if it looks like a problem, it’s not a problem to you.

Don’t make things problems that aren’t the problem. You’ve got to take one thing at a time.

You have to let go of the problem and take responsibility for it.

Then pick one thing you can work on. Focus very heavily on it in a very positive way. Be positive or be neutral.

Take a nice, deep breath; be grateful for everything in your life and start working on your business, or your body, or your relationship, or whatever that resolution was.

Have the goal that by the end of this coming year that you’re going to work towards getting everything you want in life and an exact plan on how to keep at it. Hopefully you have a Life Makeover coach…but if you don’t…

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Tell us what you think. Have you had moments where you created a problem that wasn’t there? How do you overcome your problems? Share your stories… we want to hear from you!

For Your Freedom,

Whatever situation you’re in, it’s not the situation. It’s how you respond to the situation that determines your life.

That means you have got to practice being the wizard, the one who goes with the flow…the one who is attraction-based…the one who is able to allow things to unfold, who is patient…the one who breathes a lot and maintains their happiness no matter what chaos is going on.

If you are one of the millions of people out there who derives your satisfaction and happiness from how well you’re doing, you will not be a happy person for a lot of your life because then you will have the type of mind that is always looking for what’s wrong, so you cannot win.

I was one of these people who derived a lot of my happiness from my success. When I play golf, for example, I’m not really all that successful. The funny thing is that golf’s important to me, and I’m working on it the best I can, but I find myself stressed out playing golf. Why is that? It’s supposed to be an enjoyable game.

It’s because I want to do well, and if I don’t do well I’m not happy with myself. It’s the same thing with business and every other part of your life.

About three weeks ago, I played golf. In golf you play 18 holes. There’s a front nine and the back nine. On the back nine, I played better than I had in 20 years. I thought, “Oh my god! Who is this guy playing all of a sudden?” Everything I was doing was working.

At the end of it I was happy, but then right away my mind went into thinking, “This isn’t going to last. You’d better get ready for disappointment because next time it isn’t going to be so easy. It took 20 years to have a round like this.”

Of course, the next time I played I wasn’t quite as good, and I was not happy again. I said, “I should just give up this game. It’s really stupid. It’s not good for my back.” I started to make myself crazy.

This is what everybody tends to do. It’s not “the golf.” It’s me.

I’m going to give you a tip that will change your life. If you can grow yourself to a person that is bigger than any of your problems, you’ll be a happy person. If you can grow yourself to the person that is the wizard, a person who succeeds with elegance and joy; you will be a person that is bothered by very little.

If you can be that kind of person, then you’ll have the biggest success of life, which is to grow yourself to the highest level that is more successful than anything you could do with business, money or any other situation. If you can grow yourself to that level, you will be successful at anything you do.

Unsuccessful people are smaller than their problems.

Now I want you to think about something for a moment…

If you’re still with me, then maybe you can handle what I’ll call the truth for most people. Most people just can’t handle it. However, I think you reading this puts you into a class of people that can.

I want to ask you a hard question: what are you really like when life gets hard? What do you do or not do when the going is not so good?

Successful people dig deep and do whatever it takes, and I mean whatever it takes, to succeed. What do unsuccessful people do?

They do what they always do when it gets hard. They quit, give up and say, “This business is too hard. This company has this problem. The product has this problem. If I went over there to that other company or business, then I could really succeed.”

It’s the old “there is better than here” excuse. In other words, the grass is greener. Here’s the reality, my friends, like it or not. If you can’t make it here, you won’t make it there or anywhere else.

It’s not about the other company or business. It’s about the you that’s going to either be bigger or smaller than any challenge life has to give you; happy and successful or side-railed by inevitable bumps along the way. The choice is always yours.

Tell us what you think. Share your experiences of overcoming what seemed like insurmountable odds at a time in your life. What was the trigger or catalyst for you growing bigger than the challenge? Give us your story; we want to hear from you!

The answer… practice dealing with chaos and commit to seeing through anything you say you’re going to do… NO MATTER WHAT.

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For Your Freedom,

Do you have ongoing feelings that are just there constantly; that irritate, upset, or disappointment you?

When I talk to a lot of students, I get the feeling that a lot of people feel disappointed in parts of their lives. They feel disappointed, frustrated and think, “Why can’t I fix this? Why can’t I be where I want to be? Why can’t I do or have what I want to have? I don’t understand. I’m trying. I feel like I don’t have any control over this.”

That’s very frustrating, isn’t it?

When you have these feelings, I want to offer you this:

First, it’s important to get in touch with your feelings in the first place. The more you hide them, the more they’re under the surface, the more they get lodged into the cells of your body, and they stay there and they stick like poison. They stay there forever until you acknowledge them by bringing them up to the surface and articulating them. If you don’t have anyone to articulate them to, pick up a piece of paper, a pencil or pen, and journal your feelings.

I promise you this is huge because I know that I’ve gone from feeling like semi-crap recently for many weeks, to feeling pretty good. It all started with me articulating my feelings, getting in touch with them; being able to open up about them even if no one’s around, and I began journaling as well.

Secondly, it’s accepting that you and I are just human beings, that we will have feelings, that we’re not weak for having these feelings; that they’re not negative feelings. Feelings are feelings. It’s only you and I that make them positive or negative. We all do this to ourselves. The most important thing is to recognize that you’re the one who’s labeling these feelings. Otherwise they aren’t anything but what they are: feelings.

Lastly, do things that make you feel good about you. When you can’t do as much as you’d like to, the worst thing you can do to your happiness and state of mind is make yourself feel bad about yourself. If you can’t do something outdoorsy because of injury limitations, or can’t go where you want to go because you’re broke, engage your mind in something: reading, writing, whatever your down-time thing is, do it!

Embarrassment is not bad. Disappointment is not bad. I’m not saying they’re necessarily good, but everything is neutral. Remember that. I needed to get a kick in the pants recently to remember it.

The most important thing you can learn to do is get in touch with your feelings and be able to articulate them.

Once they’re out there, it’s not that hard to release them. All you have to do is look at them, and they won’t look so scary anymore.

That’s why it is essential that you begin to see what’s inside of you because what’s inside is always going to come out.

When you’re angry, people smell it on you. You don’t have to tell anyone you’re angry. They already know, or they know there’s something going on with you, and they’re not attracted to it.

I’m not saying that it’s a good thing or a bad thing, but it’s not a good thing if it festers inside of you and you don’t bring it to the surface.

Trust me…I will be following my own advice, and I will be doing this same exercise as you on a continuous basis.

I really learned something literally in the last few days about the importance of my feelings: that they’re okay, and to make sure they don’t get stuck inside.

Try this on for an exercise. It’s an old idea from Julia Cameron’s book The Artist’s Way and it’s called the Morning Pages.

Every morning, before you brush your teeth even, write non-stop and whatever is on your mind without editing, for 5-10 minutes. No matter how ridiculous, how vulgar (respect your privacy, of course), how immature, childish, whatever…just write!

See how that feels for a few mornings, then tell us what you think. Share as much as you’d like, but tell us about the experience. We want to hear from you!

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For Your Freedom,

Most people don’t trust themselves.

Why would you have a fear about anything if you trusted yourself that you could get through it no matter what? You wouldn’t. I’d say 99% of people do not trust themselves.

Trust, like anything else, comes from repetition. Trust is a habit. Let me give you an example.

I had a car in the late ‘60s. In those days I couldn’t afford a great car. I had to buy a used one.

When it was cold, the chances of my car starting were about 50/50. You had to go out early, try to start your car and see if it would start. Even when it started when it was cold out, it would stall almost 50% of the time when you were driving it.

I was scared to death every time I got in the car. “Is it going to start or am I going to get to school or not?” I didn’t know.

And when I say scared about my car working right, you think my fear stopped once I got out of the car? It didn’t. It was embarrassing; it made me more overall nervous about myself.

Today, do you think I trust that my car is going to start? Yes, I do because it’s started a thousand times in a row. And I haven’t had any issues with it.

So how do you learn to trust something? By having that result repeat again and again. Pretty soon you expect the result, so you trust it.

Now how do you learn to trust yourself? By getting the same result again and again until you say, “Of course I trust this result. I expect it. I trust that this situation is going to happen.”

Start with one tiny little win. I’m talking about smaller goals. It’s one tiny win. That’s all.

When people learn not to trust themselves, it’s usually because they’re taking on too much.

If you want to actually follow through on a New Year’s resolution like, say, losing some weight to look and feel better–and it’s been years since you’ve paid attention to this sort of thing–forget about exercise routines and healthy eating plans, for now, if they’ve never worked before. How about trying just one new habit?

How about a healthy meal, one meal? It’s not two, two days, two meals or two weeks. It’s not a plan. Can you commit to one healthy meal?

What would one healthy breakfast look like? How hard is that? You’re not looking at a lunch. You just say, “Tomorrow for breakfast I’m having a healthy shake.” You do. That’s your breakfast. Then you can eat lunch two hours later and decide then what choice you’re going to make.

Then experiment with that for a week, and maybe give yourself two days off of doing it–maybe you choose to, maybe you don’t. The point is not to make this about pressure, at first. Small wins here matter more than the big picture ahead. Trust that you’ll get to that.

All you started with was one healthy breakfast, and you set it up so you could win. When you win, you gain confidence. When you gain confidence, you gain trust. Get enough small wins, then you take on bigger goals.

I swear you’ll realize one day, “Wow, I’ve been doing this for weeks, and it really wasn’t that hard. Now I’m ready for… ” whatever that is for you.

Whatever the goal, it’s all the same. If you’re not trusting yourself in one area of your life, chances are it’s affecting multiple if not all areas. The content just changes. This time it’s eating. The next time it’s business. The next time it’s the kids.

The truth is that if you trusted yourself a lot of the issues you have in your life would just disappear.

Tell us what you think. Does any of this ring true for you? Share your experiences with the subject of learning to trust oneself. We want to hear from you!

For Your Freedom,

We inevitably reflect on the past as years turn from one to another; what changed over the course of the past 12 months, and what didn’t.

It’s almost like every year we’re forced to look at our life’s report card, reviewing our marks in those things accomplished and those others that might give us reasons to doubt whether or not that one thing we really wanted to change will ever change, because here it is another year gone, and some things regretfully seem to remain just the same.

Even though some things don’t seem to change, the fact is things are always changing. It’s a scientific and spiritual fact that every moment is a moment of change. You could say our reality is nothing but a constant stream of change happening in the ever-present.

Buddhist philosophy can get pretty heavy, but all we need to focus on for the moment is that changing those things we want to change in our lives is not about changing the “thing” itself– financial situation; intimate relationship; relationships with kids or family or business colleagues; or your body; it’s not about change. Remember, change is always happening anyway.

It’s about Creation.

The question becomes, “What is possible? What can I make happen in my love life, in my body, in my energy, in my business?”

There are three keys to creating what you want from the ever-constant flow of universal change:

1) Express gratitude. Cultivate an emotion of gratitude for the many gifts in your life. Be grateful for what you have, even if it seems trivial. With gratitude comes compassion. It doesn’t matter what religious tradition you’re from, if any. They all emphasize compassion for others, which isn’t possible without compassion for yourself, too. Gratitude affirms your connection with a universe that wants to extend your compassion as much as you have for others.

2) Focus on what you want, not what you don’t. You would think this one would be a no-brainer, but you don’t have to look far to see people who react to life’s challenges with fear, which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, creating the very thing they didn’t want. What you focus on expands. It’s as simple as that. If what you want is going to serve others as well as yourself, life expands that desire even more so, and will move to serve you. Shift the fear of what you don’t want to happen, and turn that focus to what you do want to happen.

3) Observe Your Belief System. A belief is the feeling of certainty about what something means. In other words we’re all making this up as we go along. If you believe a financial catastrophe means you can no longer pursue a dream, then bam, there you go. Dream gone. But if you believe that there is a greater purpose behind this catastrophe for you to become more of what you’re supposed to be, then guess what you’ll be, as long as you commit to that belief. That goes for everything. Beliefs are everything.

By recognizing that change is happening all the time, whether we want it to or not, we can share in the most absolute, undeniable truth of reality–all things change. We can become change. We are change. And we can help direct it.

Trust yourself. Love yourself. Be grateful and accepting of this and every present moment. Believe that the universe is here to work for you, even through life’s inevitable challenges. It’s here to reveal to you the person you’re to become in spiritual and actual richness.

You are in an ever-constant state of change that will become your greatest vision, if you allow it. Have an amazing and prosperous year ahead. I wish you unconditional happiness and an abundance of wealth.

Thank you to all of you who read these lessons every single week. I’m grateful to have so many students committed to learning and growing.

 
For Your Freedom,